Why do girls like jerks? Why do they put up with them?

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  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    I don't like "jerks" but I don't like guys I can walk all over either. My boyfriend is a great match for me because he isn't going to just roll over and tell me what I want to hear. He will tell me if I am doing something stupid and he does so bluntly. Some people consider doing that to be a jerk. I, personally, like it.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Well apparently... I don't attract nice guys in the first place.

    Tell me this... why do nice guys only want girls that treat them like ****?!?!?

    same reason why nice girls want guys to treat them like doodoo. Abuse cycle is very hard to break.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    We are just better at manipulating people.

    there's truth to this if you know how to manipulate you can have whatever you want whenever
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    I was the strange one in my group of friends who did not go for the bad boys, even in my teens. I always liked the dorky awkward ones. Like the one I married. He's not perfect by any stretch, but definitely not that arrogant type. I never really understood the appeal there. Even the sex aspect. I always found the shy ones so much sexier than the loud ones. I'd much rather date the dork than the badass. I like a thrill, but not in that way. I'll go skydiving or go out with my insane aunt instead.

    I hate that misconception that bad guys are somehow good in bed and nice guys are not good. Always been my experience the quiet ones were filled with naughty devious thoughts. The "bad" ones are usually a lot of talk and little action.
  • notenoughspeed
    notenoughspeed Posts: 290 Member
    Stop acting like a wuss. Be a man. Make her laugh. Bust on her. Nudge her into things . Being cocky and funny works. There's a fine line between that and arrogant. You can still be a gentleman, but generally, you need to make the event with her exciting.
  • miss_jessiejane
    miss_jessiejane Posts: 2,819 Member
    For clarification:
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  • CookNLift
    CookNLift Posts: 3,660 Member
    Few theories:

    1. Girls want a guy to piss off their dad because of resentment issues (I want to make my daddy mad theory)
    2. Girls want a project (They want someone who looks like they are bad that they can turn good - possibly because of movies)
    3. They like being around a man who is ALPHA and makes them feel that if they can hold onto them, irregardless of them being jerks, then they're special in the man's eyes.
    4. Maybe the guy isn't a jerk to the girl, but is to everyone else.
    5. Maybe they just genuinely like the person, and overlook their faults for what they know is on the inside.
    6. He's packing some serious heat.
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    There is no "nice guy" there's just "alternate methods to get you naked".
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    There is no "nice guy" there's just "alternate methods to get you naked".

    QFT!
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    There is no "nice guy" there's just "alternate methods to get you naked".

    Goes both ways. :smokin:
  • muziclver
    muziclver Posts: 145 Member
    Girls accept the love they think they deserve. I'm a guilty party as well.
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    I don't. And I don't.
    But then, I'm not a "girl." I'm a woman.
  • debbash68
    debbash68 Posts: 981 Member
    I do I like naughty boys! They're fun, exiting and get the adrenaline going ! but then I grew up and decided the type of person who buys critical illness insurance was more fun , aw well.....
  • bridgegetsfit
    bridgegetsfit Posts: 32 Member
    Its all about confidence. Guys that are jerks are confident or act like they're confident. no girl wants to date someone who is insecure, especially when they themselves are probably insecure. Its either that or they think that they can't do better.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,982 Member
    Subjective views. Some people think I'm a jerk, while others think I'm cool and nice. Obviously ones that think I'm a jerk, wonder why my wife married me.

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  • peterplsss
    peterplsss Posts: 169
    Because we know how to beat it up the right way? Jk tehehehe I am nice persun....wot
  • SomewhatCool
    SomewhatCool Posts: 78
    "Jerks" initially come off as cool and very attractive. To the girl, there is no more depth to their personality until she begins to talk to him and get to know him.

    That's about the time I back off on the guy if he's an *kitten*.

    Although, I have been there. My ex was a major d-box. :/
  • jenjencin78
    jenjencin78 Posts: 4,415 Member
    Jerk is a subjective term-someone that seems to be a jerk to you may be someone else's definition of perfection. I also don't believe that ANYONE is all good or all bad.
  • Italia2229
    Italia2229 Posts: 119 Member
    Question is, why do guys only go after the tiny, blonde headed girls? Why do guys go for the girls that don't respect themselves?

    What's wrong with me? I definitely don't like jerks but then again I don't even get looked at. When is the last time I was asked out on a date? About 7 years........ I am not skinny, but definitely not fat. I am not blonde by any means and I respect myself.

    Answer me that!!!!

    Try dressing more feminine and smiling for no reason. I don't think, they think you're "available". Just another girls opinion based on your pics.

    Amazing how much you judge on one pic....... You know nothing about me. You don't see how I dress when I go out, let alone whether or not I smile. I'm sorry but I am not one of those girls that flaunts. Shouldn't have to dress a certain way to get attention. It shouldn't be about looks anyways. Maybe if people would take the time to get to know someone, unlike you judging on a pciture, you might see the true individual.
  • mrs_mab
    mrs_mab Posts: 1,024 Member
    I myself like a polite d!ck.......one who will open the door for me, and slap me on the *kitten* when I walk through it! That's why I married my husband! But that's just me........:laugh: :wink:
  • Italia2229
    Italia2229 Posts: 119 Member
    Question is, why do guys only go after the tiny, blonde headed girls? Why do guys go for the girls that don't respect themselves?

    What's wrong with me? I definitely don't like jerks but then again I don't even get looked at. When is the last time I was asked out on a date? About 7 years........ I am not skinny, but definitely not fat. I am not blonde by any means and I respect myself.

    Answer me that!!!!

    Perhaps you're unapproachable? I've been told many times I'm rather intimidating due to my introverted personality. I'm rather quite, typically don't start up conversations, usually have a poker face. The reality of the situation is I'm extremely nice, respectful, and receptive to people that i feel are worth my time.

    Try to be a little more alert to how people perceive you.

    First impressions are everything, but if someone just right off the bat is going to assume something then they don't know anything about you and should take the time to get to know others. Passing judgement on people before you get to know them is the wrong way to go about things. I too have been told that I can be intimidating, but then when the individuals get to know me will tell me that they were wrong. I have a tough exterior, but let those in that I feel are worth letting in! Shouldn't judge people by the cover of their book!!
  • sunglasses_and_ocean_waves
    sunglasses_and_ocean_waves Posts: 2,757 Member
    Question is, why do guys only go after the tiny, blonde headed girls? Why do guys go for the girls that don't respect themselves?

    What's wrong with me? I definitely don't like jerks but then again I don't even get looked at. When is the last time I was asked out on a date? About 7 years........ I am not skinny, but definitely not fat. I am not blonde by any means and I respect myself.

    Answer me that!!!!

    Try dressing more feminine and smiling for no reason. I don't think, they think you're "available". Just another girls opinion based on your pics.

    Amazing how much you judge on one pic....... You know nothing about me. You don't see how I dress when I go out, let alone whether or not I smile. I'm sorry but I am not one of those girls that flaunts. Shouldn't have to dress a certain way to get attention. It shouldn't be about looks anyways. Maybe if people would take the time to get to know someone, unlike you judging on a pciture, you might see the true individual.

    You know you're the one that demanded an answer, and she offered. Why don't you at least consider her advice (and you have more than one pic in your profile). I think perhaps you havent had a date in 7 year because you're a bit hot headed. No offense intended. I'm a bit if a b*tch too, but even when I was single, I never went more than a week, so maybe listen to those who know how to do it. You truly need to soften the edges, and I don't mean physically. You're attractive, you're strong, and your relatively young. Figure it out now so you can enjoy life more.
  • RoninLife
    RoninLife Posts: 64
    Honest truth? Guys who are labeled "jerks" are usually good looking, exciting, dangerous and good in bed.

    But on the flip side, there are guys who like psycho women. You know that term, "Hot- Crazy Scale"? As long as they are hot, they are allowed to be crazy.

    Dangerous? Mysterious? Are they describing Batman?

    Or......http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELRRQIVKHF8

    On the flip side "no amount of hot can cover up crazy".......

    I never said mysterious... >.>

    and I'm sorry, I have had many male friends who have at one point or another been with psycho females that they've put up with because the girls were "hot" . True story.
  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
    For all the same reasons men stick with the gutter skanks. Attractive, exciting, easily manipulated, mistaking drama for passion...
  • Italia2229
    Italia2229 Posts: 119 Member
    Question is, why do guys only go after the tiny, blonde headed girls? Why do guys go for the girls that don't respect themselves?

    What's wrong with me? I definitely don't like jerks but then again I don't even get looked at. When is the last time I was asked out on a date? About 7 years........ I am not skinny, but definitely not fat. I am not blonde by any means and I respect myself.

    Answer me that!!!!


    Try dressing more feminine and smiling for no reason. I don't think, they think you're "available". Just another girls opinion based on your pics.

    Amazing how much you judge on one pic....... You know nothing about me. You don't see how I dress when I go out, let alone whether or not I smile. I'm sorry but I am not one of those girls that flaunts. Shouldn't have to dress a certain way to get attention. It shouldn't be about looks anyways. Maybe if people would take the time to get to know someone, unlike you judging on a pciture, you might see the true individual.

    You know you're the one that demanded an answer, and she offered. Why don't you at least consider her advice (and you have more than one pic in your profile). I think perhaps you havent had a date in 7 year because you're a bit hot headed. No offense intended. I'm a bit if a b*tch too, but even when I was single, I never went more than a week, so maybe listen to those who know how to do it. You truly need to soften the edges, and I don't mean physically. You're attractive, you're strong, and your relatively young. Figure it out now so you can enjoy life more.

    And obviously I AM smiling in one of them and the other was on there because I am not here on this WEBSITE to impress people with my looks!!!

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