Telling People You've Lost Weight... Rude ?

People tend towards finding people to be attention *kitten* if they "fish for compliments," so to speak. Aend, they're more than likely jealoua of your progress. I know the feeping, my friend is the same way... Give it time, people will notice when they notice and some will compliment you, but some wont.

I am wary of any conversation that starts with "Have you noticed anything?"

It feels like a test.

That conversation is not far off from asking someone "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" No one wants to be cornered like that, and honestly, some people are hesitant to mention weight, good or bad, because people on the receiving end of those comments can be overly sensitive either way.

I don't fish...I don't bring it up..if they ask me it's one thing but I'm doing this for me, not to get compliments or anything.

Some people have noticed of course and say something, others have never said a thing to me about the loss. When asked I do say yes I've lost or am losing and if they ask how, I tell them.

When I do it, I'm not fishing for complements but rather just REALLY proud of myself. I'll tell anyone if the conversation gets even close to it. Right now, my life kind of revolves around weight loss. I have the opportunity to turn 100% inward and do things for me and I'm freakin taking it! Other people can either deal with it or not talk to me.

Just depends on the person I think on who your telling or how you are going about it... I have done it, but with close friends and family, and not very often. If your excited then hell yeah that's understandable, but normally I don't like to mention my progress until I feel that I have reached my point of where I want to be or very close!

I think it's rude to fish for compliments, yes.

It is a bit rude. Most people notice without you having to fish for compliments.

It's not rude to tell people you've lost weight, not at all. If I was having a conversation with someone and the topic of weightloss came up, depending on the person I'm talking to I might tell them I've lost weight myself, if I felt it was an appropriate thing to mention at the time. But I wouldn't deliberately put someone on the spot by suddenly asking them 'Hey, have you noticed anything different about me? That I'm (insert amount of lbs here) thinner?'. Kind of gives off an attention-seeking vibe, I think.

I would ask you to examine the reason why you started that conversation. Were you really just wanting to share that you hit a goal or were you looking for validation, or both? It seems like you're still looking for outward validation, to me.

While it's exciting that you're on your journey to health and fitness, others may not be and while I understand the enthusiasm, it would be best to be a bit more sensitive to other people's feelings. Maybe they don't want to hear about your weight loss because it reminds them of the 10 lbs they've been wanting to lose. Or maybe they simply don't want to have to validate you all the time. Be careful to not alienate people.

I've lost 18 of the 30 pounds I want to lose so far and not once have I brought it up. That's mostly because I'm a modest person by nature, but I also want people to notice and bring it up. Besides family, I've had one colleague notice my weight loss and she is genuinely happy for me; she's also on a weight loss journey. I feel like it's something better appreciated when you don't bring it up yourself.

It is nice when people notice and I certainly expected more people to actually say something, but I'm honestly not bothered by it. I feel and see the changes and because these people see me day in and day out, it's probably hard for them to notice the gradual changes. I have noticed, however, my colleagues giving me long looks like they're trying to pinpoint something about me, so maybe they do see something but are afraid to bring it up or aren't sure.

I'm actually waiting for the day people will notice once I hit my goal weight and I can tell them that yea, I did lose weight- 30 pounds. Bam! I kind of like the idea of them not really knowing and then having it suddenly hit them one day.

This is interesting timing. I recently had a conversation with a relative who's lost a lot of weight. We'd been together maybe two minutes when she said: see, I've lost x pounds, don't I look good! (she does).

I wished she'd allowed me to bring it up, as I was planning, but meh, she's happy about it. So it goes. I'm happy for her.

But. We're family. I wondered, after she left, if others feel as I did in the moment. I hope no one's upset with her, or put off, or whatever, but wouldn't be surprised. And knowing her as well as I do, I'm quite sure she does bring it up before allowing others to.

Nothing wrong with bragging about how you've lost weight, but it's gonna be awkward and offputting to people if you don't wait for them to introduce it.

I had two people at work recently tell me about significant weight loss (neither of whom I knew when they were heavier). One was completely natural after I had complemented her several times on how much I loved her outfits. The other was awkward and forced, similar to your example, as if he was just looking for a place to shoehorn it into the conversation.

20 lbs is fantastic, and there's a good chance you busted your *kitten* to get that weight off. 20 lbs can be kinda hard for other people to notice. Frankly, we just don't pay as much attention to other's weight as we do to our own.

Lose even half the weight your ticker says you are trying to lose and people will really start to notice. You won't have to say a thing! You will get compliments on your good looks, asked how you did it (and what your secret magic weight loss bullet is), and even some snipy, rude comments from the ultra-jealous.

sometimes a conversation goes like this

me: have you noticed anything ?
them: you look great !
me: I've lost 20lbs !
them: oh.... that's great ! yeah ! Good for you !

Which is then followed by them sharply exhaling.

There is a difference between telling people you have lost weight (because they asked) and putting them in an awkward position to guess what has changed about you. Awkward situations. Awkward responses/reactions.