WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2013

Good afternoon. It has gotten really hot here again. Temps right at 100. I just hate the heat. I am off today so staying inside. I have been feeling down today. Not sure why, but tomorrow is another day. I got all my 4& 5 x in a box and called and found out there is a church that has a give away every Thursday. I talked to the minster and he is glad to have me bring them down. DH is off tomorrow so will have him take them. The homeless house told me about the church. Tomorrow is weigh day and not feeling good about that. I have been under most the week, but lots of salt. So drinking lots and lots of water today.

Liz- Prayers and hugs to you and family over your loss. The tribute you wrote about Martha was beautiful. I lost my sister 7 years ago and I think about her often. One thing I do is remember her kids and grand kids. I send them cards and gifts so they know this side of the family loves them. We talk about Patti and that helps.

Pat-- Thats what we are here for and we all have our ups and downs. I went to OA and learned alot.

Joyce- hugging and showing love to your MIL is a great gift for her. You are a speical lady and she knows. Sounds like with her heatlh issues she has alot to deal with.

Katla- Sounds like you had a great weekend with family. I understand it does not get easier each time they deploy. My BIL went over 8 times. I worried every time. Prayer does alot.

grandmallie- Sounds like your DGD is doing well at her new school. I wish more teaching about God was done. My DGD is learning about Jesus and asks alot of questions. My DS went to church growing up, since he got married not. So I worry about the girls. Paytn is 5 and we are doing alot of talking. My DS gets upset with me when I repeat myself or ask him to repeat things. I have alot of trouble understanding on the phone. Everyone has cell phones and I find them hard to hear. I learned not to agree to anything unless I know what it is.

Suzy- Sounds like DH was lucky. I know what you mean about trying to get blood out of the carpet. Our dog Sassy was bleeding alot before she passed and my carpet was a mess. DH read if you put milk on it and use a dry cloth to pat it up it works good.

I know about spending to much on the computer so I had to dicide what is important. So I have cut way back on game time and making this my first choice. The support and help this group gives me keeps me going. I have learned alot by logging my food.
Well have a great evening and hope you are staying cool
Blessed! Vicki L GI NE

The vet called back about my little Melody. He said that according to the literature, true lethargy would be a rare reaction to this medicine. He thought it was more a tummy upset even though there was no throwing up. He says when cats get a tummy upset they tend to want to just be left alone and they know not to eat. So we talked about titrating the dose up to the 10 pound dose or jsut cutting in half and leaving it there. So right now I am to give her the 5 pound dose. I hated to take her food away but I did that for two hours and after supper I gave her a dose. I will let that set awhile and take her food out of the pantry. She does look like some of her fur is growing back. The tortoise shell cats colors are so beautiful I'm anxious to get her back to normal. After I gave the medicine to her she shunned me for a couple of minutes but she is back sitting between DH and me as usual. I also called the podiatrists office and told them to get my toenail removal scheduled.

Joyce

JB, your garden is gorgeous. For some reason I always seen surprised to see black dirt. I'm so used to looking at red Georgia clay.

Liz, I am so sorry for the loss of your sister.

Pat, I used to attend OA a long time ago. I found it very calming. The meetings were at an inconvenient Tim for me, so I gave them up. I wish you the best with yours.

Michele, my daughter left her cat with us 10 years ago, and he is still with us. Just sayin'!

Off to bed for me,
Kay

Posting to mark my spot. I've been away from this thread over 10 days and just want to settle in and start catching up with my Vitamin F friends.

till later,
Rori in the Colorado Foothills

Hello everyone. I am new to this site and so far I like the idea. This may be what I need to get to my goal weight. I've been struggling for years to be the person I need to be. for me and now for my family. I am finally out of denial that I have high blood pressure and plan to see a doctor very soon. I need to lose 70 lbs. I've been with a personal trainer for a year and a half, faithfully I go 2 to 3 times a week. and I do feel so much better, and was loosing weight there for awhile but I stop the nutrition part of it and just kept trying to convience myself that I was doing ok because my clothes kept fitting me loose, but I was never getting into my size 16 pants that are just hanging there waiting for me. So here I am now finally listening to my trainer and my good friend to this and I'll actually see what Iactually eat and how active I actually am. so plz everyone. I can use all the support I can get because I tend to get bored and want to yoyo diet. or just plain give up. but yet, I've stressed about my appearance now for 16 years.

Monday (late) (actually Tuesday but I was watching tv and didn't realise it was so late).

Lawn bowled this morning and came 2nd so was in the money. Then I called the garage because I had a warning light come on in the car. After lunch took the car in, on my way to the mall, and they called me later to say that it looks like it is something wrong with the transmission - thanks car, I just got the bill for all the house renovations I had done this summer.

This evening DBF and I went to the AGM of the theatre group of which we are members. There was a presentation first of songs by the choral group part of the organization, and then we got on with the business. It was election time, but there were no contentious issues so it finished soon after 8:30.

I made good progress on my lace and have finished off about half of the threads, just need to finish the rest tomorrow and take all the pins out. I hope I didn't make any mistakes this time.

As Zebedee used to say on 'Magic Roundabout' - Time for Bed

well I am not feeling so hot today..
im up and went to the gym, only did 1/2 hr on the bike and came home..at least I went
I think since I havent had any vacation since December and wont have any until October, I am just feeling exsausted..
will plug along till the weekend and having a 3 day weekend will help....
well hopefully the DH wont be cranky, he had chicken and baked potato sunday well he is having chicken and stuffing with gravy tonight, and he had chicken sandwiches today.. he gets cranky when he has the same thing ,oh well like you guys say , he can always do YOYO.lol

happy tues!!
Exercised like crazy have been watching my calories.Lost0.2 lbs.Getting frustrated.The rate I`m going it will take forever to get back down to where I was.I`ll keep plugging alone.I hate having a sluggish metabolism.
Enough complaining.
HUGS
jane

Hello ladies,
I am not even going to try to catch up.

The trip was less than stellar due to weather and the RV debaucle but we did have some pleasant moments. The river rafting trip and the 12.5 mile horseback ride (yes I was sore) were great. The last day the weather was beautiful and we were fishing in an old favorite spot of DH's. Althoug we didn't catch anything one of the locals gave a lovely Coho he had caught and we enjoyed it for dinner.(froze the rest and brought it home)

I am glad to be back and I need to get my head wrapped around getting back to the healthier living and moving that I need to do.

Robin, Bodi and Ritter (who were very very happy to see us)
PNW

Meg, you ask me why I am not going to the Y anymore. I ask myself that everyday I don't go. To me and I wold imagine many others, the longer I am gone the easier it is to miss it. Then for me I feel embarrassed in myself, and I feel like I will be to them to, if I show up. I know in my heart and logic I need to. But some how I just don't do it. It's like this other matter that wieghs so heavy on my heart and have never talked about it to anyone. As you know my Dad was a preacher and church was such an everyday part of our lives, not just because it was required of us as part of being a small church preachers family but it part of our faith to do it. Just like I can't imagine a day going by without checking on my Vit F friends here, church was that kind of part of our lives. Even when I became a wife I stayed in that routine. When MS came along sometimes I couldn't go and I missed it so. My fatigue with the MS got so that I had to make a choice, do I go to Sunday School, morning services or both. Usually I picked the service because of the music I loved so much. MS had already taken singing in t he choir for me. at first I kept a low profile kitchen stool in the choir loft that when we were standing, I sat on the stool and no one knew I wasn't standing and I fit right in. Then Wednesday evening practices became hard to do therefore singing on Sunday was hard because I didn't know the song. So I started going to Sunday school instead because I liked the fellowship I got there. It eventually became easier for me just to say I was to tired. I know this was breaking my Mother's heart. And it broke me to know how it broke her heart. But since my husband hadn't stepped foot in a church for years it was so easy to sleep in. My daughter living here didn't go either. After her failed attempt at college and she came to live at home to live she dropped out of church. But my oldest daughter married a man that being in the church was just as important to him as it was to her. They went to Bible college and settled their lives into ministry, not being in the pulpit like her Grandpa but being Gods servant in the world. They are still a very large part of it in their church about 3 hours from here. When we go to see them, if it's a Sunday morning, I go with them. If they are here on a weekend, I watch the service on the laptop with her and her family. But I know that my Mom died with her not seeing me back in church.

So is that why I don't go to the Y when in my heart and the scales I know I should. It all go along together

OK, now I've told you all about another part of me that I try to keep deep inside my heart and am ashamed for others to see.

Joyce

Joyce -
No need to beat yourself up! We all have done things (or stopped doing things) and felt embarrassed/ashamed and/or that we have let someone down.

Our Y has a program called Exercise is Medicine and you get into it by having your doctor write a prescription for you to join the program. It does cost $90 here for 3 months of any and all services at the Y - no extra charges for nautalis room or classes that normally have a charge to take. That's how I started about 18 months ago. I am still going - know if I start missing, like you, it would be way too easy to just keep missing!

And your mom does know your heart - you can be spiritual without going inside a church. My mom was deeply religious and it saddened her when she became truly housebound and could no longer get to church. Still, she never left her faith behind, just wasn't able to express it the same way.

Hugs, my friend!

Thanks for all the encouragement guys. I have looked at all the Y provides. It does provide diabetic counseling and our local MS society will give you one session of water aerobics and I used that a couple of years ago. Trouble is with the not going tot he Y is that the embarrassment is within myself. For some reason everyone in the wellness room when I go in and exercise just keeps to them selves. I think that is part of the casualty of headphones and ipods. So people in there wouldn't know me from a hill of beans. But I know that I am a failure and the queen of procrastination. It is just so much easier for em to give in and stay at home. Michelle, my youngest daughter, the one who it has been a long road to get close to again, asked me if I could go with her this year on a one mile Fido run. It's a local fundraiser for the rescue agencies here in town. She doesn't know I haven't been to the Y in several weeks. She still thinks I am getting in good shape. It's Sept 15th and I really need to set that as a goal that I can walk that mile with her. I know to a lot of you walking a mile isn't anything but as one with MS it is a big deal to prepare for it. I know how important this fundraiser is to her. I got my cat from the same rescue agency she has gotten all her 3 dogs from and if my husband were a different personality I would love to foster more cats. But him loving our cat is enough for me. He knows when he dies one of the first things I will do is to foster some cats:laugh:

As far as church, so many of the churches have totally changed their personalities. Modern music, huge memberships, you don't know the person sitting next to you. I'm used to singing out of the hymnal, my old familiar songs. They bring such comfort to me. There isn't a full band at the front, the drums and electric guitar that Dad would have had to turn his hearing off for.:laugh: I need to be able to find the old fashioned church. I tolerate going to my oldest daughter's, Christina, church because the ministers doctrine is sound. But he doesn't even come to the pulpit until the very end of the service. As far as I know he is at home sleeping in. The sanctuary is so big I can't see him. The whole service just doesn't have the same kind of reverance I am used to. I was a member of my church for many years. We were married there, both my daughters were raised there and baptized there. My husband was baptized there after many years of prayer. My girls were married in the exact place I was. I know a lot of the same people that were there when I left are gone. But a lot of them are there. Being from a preachers family I know that people do talk behind your back. So the solution is to find a new church. I know that I should ask friends about theirs but I really don't have them outside of who I had at that church that I'm not part of anymore. So I just stay home.

My doctor just tells me to increase my fiber. I eat at least 2 apples a day, fresh veggies for lunch, lots of fiber in my grains, and Fibercon tablets. MFP has me over my fiber every day. I think it's just some MS involvement in the nerves of my bowels.

Joyce

I have dicided after reading the posts that it must be the weather getting to everyone. I was really down yesterday and went to bed figured today would be better. At 1245 I woke up having a bad dream, (wanted to smack DH and he was sound asleep) and a big time HOT FLASH. I have not had one of those for years. So I go up and figured I would sit in the recliner and talk to God. I do my best talking in the middle of the night. Well next thing I know the alarm is going off and it is 0445. Time to get up and get ready for work. So I have been up since 1245. This is my 12 hour shift day. Then I did my weigh in this moring and up 1.4 pound. Must say I was supprised as more then not this last week I have been under calories. So shaking it off and praying for a better week. I am feeling better this afternoon, but then that could be as I am really tired.

Barbie-- great news from the doctor..

Meg--Not sure if we will go out to the State Fair. It is so HOT and they are not having a christen concert this year. DH would like to go so will see. It will be one of those last minute deals if we go.

Heather-- Glad you got the doctor appointment. Alot of the cancer nurses and Home Health nurses are so nice and really care about the patient.

Robin-- Sounds like you got to enjoy part of your trip. I never understood why after a vacation I need several days to rest up before I go back to work.

Pat-I hope your sister is open to taking your birthday call. I send cards alot as that way they can reread as they need. And I am chicken. I know I hear alot about journaling, but it scares me. When I was a teenager I had a diary. When it was full I threw it away. My dad found it and read it. He would bring up things all the time. I had a crush on this friend of his and he did not let me or anyone else forget. So everytime I try to journal I worry about who will find and read it and if something happened to me would I want my family to find it.

Joyce- God knows what is in your heart and God is where you are. I know what you mean about impersonal churches. DH and I have attended different ones at different times. My thought is God puts us where he wants us at the time. With our CMA group during the summer we visit different churchs. My dad did not believe in church, all they want is your money. so until my folks divorced when I was 16 my church life was hardly anything. When I met DH he was raised Morman until he was 18 then had alot of questions they would not answer. So in the 30+ years we have been together we have went to alot of different churchs.
I remember when I was 12-13 years old I just knew the world was going to end. I was so scared and would go home sick from school almost every afternoon. I thought if I was home I wouldn't go alone. I was so afraid of death and dieing. Then when I was 23 a friend shot himself in front of me and I about went over the deep end. Went to a counsler and he took me bowling. Well over the years I have come to know Jesus and am comfortable with my faith. I now am a voluteer for a group that we sit with people who are activily dieing and have no family or anyone with them. Boy I didn't mean to go on so. The important thing is God knows your heart and I am sure your mom knows also.

Well about time to finish up for the day. Going home to bed early. Have a good night and keep logging.
Blessed! VickiL GI NE

Sorry I haven't really been posting, just been lurking and reading posts. I'm not enjoying the heat at all. It's so humid, I hate it. By the time I get home from work I just want to crawl into bed and stay there. I have been pushing myself to get up early and get a walk in before work. It's humid in the mornings but at least the sun isn't beating down on me.

Meg - I'm counting the days until Fall, I'm a true Canadian girl and summer heat & humidity is not my thing.

Joyce - I can really relate to you. I find it easier to stay home then to confront what I feel is letting everyone (&myself) down. I stay home a lot. My worry is that my DD feels like she needs to stay home with me even though I tell her over and over to go out with her friends. Growing up I wasn't allowed to attend church. When I was in grade school I would sneak out of the house and walk to church by myself. I had a strong need to go and learn about God.

Pat - I'm so glad you went to your OA meeting. I really hope it helps you. Give yourself a break, you are doing great! Baby steps, one day at a time. You can do this!!! I think calling your sister on her birthday is a great idea, it lets her know that despite everything you still love her.

Barbie - I'm so happy for you and your good news from the doctor. :happy:

cws4me - welcome, I hope you find the support here that I have found, it's a great bunch of ladies. Post as often as you want and about wherever you would like to.

I'm struggling with medication. I'm on an "old school" antidepressant and one of the side effects is weight gain. I think it's too low of a dose to help so why bother. I don't want to increase it because I hate that it numbs me, I feel nothing. I can't take any of the new ones as I react to every single one that I've tried. I'm just so sick of popping pills.

Sorry, not feeling very chipper tonight.

I hope everyone is staying cool and having a great evening.

Hugs to all

Sandy from ON