Ok to wear a white/gray patterned dress to a wedding

Natihilator
Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
edited February 2 in Chit-Chat
Yes or no?

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Everyone I've asked has says it's fine but I'm still hmmming and hawwing over it. Also I'm going stag and will be 6'1, 6'2 in my heels so I don't need to stand out in a negative way.

Give it to me straight MFP.
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  • _Emma_Problema_
    _Emma_Problema_ Posts: 261 Member
    Do whatever you want, gurl!

    I hate all those rules regarding weddings. As long as you aren't taking attention away from the bride, it doesn't matter.
  • gigglybeth
    gigglybeth Posts: 365 Member
    I wouldn't. I try to stay away from anything white (unless it's an accent color) when going to a wedding.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    I'm still going to go with no.

    I err on the side of caution. When in doubt, don't.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    I wouldn't do it.
  • Lovesthings
    Lovesthings Posts: 167 Member
    It has enough grey to be ok. I like it!
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    Do whatever you want, gurl!

    I hate all those rules regarding weddings. As long as you aren't taking attention away from the bride, it doesn't matter.

    Haha that's the question though! If I will take attention away from the bride.

    Good thing I have several backup dresses, all with tags attached. Thanks for the replies thus far
  • gogojodee
    gogojodee Posts: 1,243 Member
    I'm still going to go with no.

    I err on the side of caution. When in doubt, don't.

    This!
  • ToFatT0B3S1ck
    ToFatT0B3S1ck Posts: 194 Member
    No, unless you are the bride.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    Do whatever you want, gurl!

    I hate all those rules regarding weddings. As long as you aren't taking attention away from the bride, it doesn't matter.

    Haha that's the question though! If I will take attention away from the bride.

    Good thing I have several backup dresses, all with tags attached. Thanks for the replies thus far

    Short of showing up in a wedding gown it's going to be hard to take away from the bride. It's just one of those "things". I know some people don't care at all, some will give you a side eye. Some brides would notice, others wouldn't. I just prefer to keep clear of it all, just in case.
  • mag131
    mag131 Posts: 542 Member
    I wouldn't.
  • janupshaw
    janupshaw Posts: 205 Member
    Since you're still hemming & hawing over it, maybe you'd be more comfortable in something else. I think it would be ok if you had a grey or black little sweater/jacket to wear with it (just to give it more color).
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    Do whatever you want, gurl!

    I hate all those rules regarding weddings. As long as you aren't taking attention away from the bride, it doesn't matter.

    Haha that's the question though! If I will take attention away from the bride.

    Good thing I have several backup dresses, all with tags attached. Thanks for the replies thus far

    Short of showing up in a wedding gown it's going to be hard to take away from the bride. It's just one of those "things". I know some people don't care at all, some will give you a side eye. Some brides would notice, others wouldn't. I just prefer to keep clear of it all, just in case.

    I meant taking attention away in terms of us being the only two people in the room wearing white. And really it is a white dress mostly. But I totally agree with you, I don't want to feel awkward making a faux pas.
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    Since you're still hemming & hawing over it, maybe you'd be more comfortable in something else. I think it would be ok if you had a grey or black little sweater/jacket to wear with it (just to give it more color).

    Yeah you're right, debating over it this much means I should probably just nix it. It will be a super hot outdoor wedding so I don't want to add clothes, haha. Thanks for replying :)
  • littlelaura
    littlelaura Posts: 1,028 Member
    No. Try to avoid white or off white in any dress. I really is extremely offensive to the bride, its her day and the couple should be given the utmost respect. No exceptions.
  • littlelaura
    littlelaura Posts: 1,028 Member
    ps it is a very pretty dress and you will look awesome in it , just someplace else.
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    Its like the rule of "should I wear a suit and tie" for a guy. If you have to ask, the answer is yes

    So Id say, no its not okay, brides one big day, leave her have it
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    No. Try to avoid white or off white in any dress. I really is extremely offensive to the bride, its her day and the couple should be given the utmost respect. No exceptions.

    THANK YOU. Everyone I showed pictures of (but of me wearing the dress) were all 'You look fab! Hot dress!' And I was like 'Thanks but this is not the point of me asking' haha. I think the grey pattern made me go 'maybe?' but let's be real, it's a white dress at the end of the day.

    I need to ask MFP this stuff first instead :smile:
  • mjrkearney
    mjrkearney Posts: 408 Member
    Hm... white after Labor Day...

    Rock whatever you decide to wear, but anything overwhelmingly white (or whatever color you know the bride will be wearing) might cause a few less-than-pleasant head turns.
  • GlitterrMagpie
    GlitterrMagpie Posts: 302 Member
    Ladies wore white at my wedding, as long as they weren't wearing a wedding dress I really didn't care :wink:
  • missability
    missability Posts: 223
    The dress is a beauty, but for someone else's wedding?....hrrrmmmm... not so much....
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Beautiful dress, but just a little too white for a wedding.
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    Hm... white after Labor Day...

    Haha seriously?! Now THERE'S a rule I dgaf about.
  • gattejdi63
    gattejdi63 Posts: 4
    Yes! I love it.
  • YaGigi
    YaGigi Posts: 817 Member
    That looks NOTHING like a wedding dress for a bride.

    Go for it.
  • just_Jennie1
    just_Jennie1 Posts: 1,233
    I've worn a plain black dress and a black dress with a sparkly pattern on it to weddings. Who cares?

    And for those who think your dress is 'too white' for a wedding I disagree. I think it's pretty.

    ETA: This is coming from the girl who got married on Donald Sutherlands boat in the middle of the ocean in Key West and wore a red sundress that I can wear over and over and over again so . . . . I'm really not into the whole "you should or shouldn't wear xyz to a wedding. OMG The BRIDE! THINK OF THE BRIIIIIIIIIIIIDE!" kind of person.
  • paulaviki
    paulaviki Posts: 678 Member
    On my wedding day I couldn't have told you what colour any of my guests wore!! I think brides who get all precious about people wearing white/cream need to get a grip. Unless it looks like a wedding dress, it doesn't matter as its obvious who the bride is!

    You could always dress it with bright coloured shoes and cardigan/wrap to add in some colour.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Ladies wore white at my wedding, as long as they weren't wearing a wedding dress I really didn't care :wink:
    It ABSOLUTELY depends on the bride. I wouldn't have cared at all...but there's a lot of "Its MY day" Bridezilla's running around out there.

    Great dress though...you'll look amazing when or wherever you decide to wear that!
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    ETA: This is coming from the girl who got married on Donald Sutherlands boat in the middle of the ocean in Key West

    Um, can we be friends? I like boats :)
  • JennyLisT
    JennyLisT Posts: 402 Member
    What kind of bride cares enough about a woman wearing a dress that has SOME white on it? Shouldn't she be paying more attention to her impending marital bliss.
  • herblackwings39
    herblackwings39 Posts: 3,930 Member
    It's a great dress. If you're seriously doubtful ask the bride?
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