"Are you turning into a man?"

I cannot even fathom, not even for a second, staying with a guy who thought it was ok to insult my body, muscles, choices, etc.

A comment like that, even in jest, would get a nasty look and a prompt, "eff you".


Imagine for a second if the situation were slightly different. Say, perhaps, that you had a lapse in routine for a few weeks, you haven't been able to go to the gym for a while. In what universe would it be ok for him to say, "are you turning in to a fat-as$?"

NONE. That crap is never ok. Husband or not.

This.

And btw, this is how you build a happy marriage and a happy life. By showing up as a full human being with her own ideas and abilities and no need tor permission from anyone. Be you. Be fully and completely you. Those who don't like it can go. Magically, you will find yourself surrounded by supporters and admirers and it will be even easier to be you.

So he reads the book. He doesn't read the book. He finds himself married to someone hot like jillian (or divorced from someone hot like her) . The question is if he has the balls to be a partner to a full grown woman with her own interests and choices. It isn't about you anymore. It is him and whether ge can man up no matter what you decide you want to do.

Trust me ... Jillian is HOT! Too bad shes in to the ladies!

I'm just so worried that if I do this 30 day workout dvd I'm going to balloon up and look like Jay Cutler who has been lifting for years, is on gear, eats over 6k calories per day and has professional staff helping him reach his goals

I cannot even fathom, not even for a second, staying with a guy who thought it was ok to insult my body, muscles, choices, etc.

A comment like that, even in jest, would get a nasty look and a prompt, "eff you".


Imagine for a second if the situation were slightly different. Say, perhaps, that you had a lapse in routine for a few weeks, you haven't been able to go to the gym for a while. In what universe would it be ok for him to say, "are you turning in to a fat-as$?"

NONE. That crap is never ok. Husband or not.

This.

And btw, this is how you build a happy marriage and a happy life. By showing up as a full human being with her own ideas and abilities and no need tor permission from anyone. Be you. Be fully and completely you. Those who don't like it can go. Magically, you will find yourself surrounded by supporters and admirers and it will be even easier to be you.

So he reads the book. He doesn't read the book. He finds himself married to someone hot like jillian (or divorced from someone hot like her) . The question is if he has the balls to be a partner to a full grown woman with her own interests and choices. It isn't about you anymore. It is him and whether ge can man up no matter what you decide you want to do.

ALL OF THIS. :drinker:

Hmm I don't actually know who Jillian Michaels is, but judging from the pictures posted - if that's ugly - wow some of you must have scarily high standards here.
*rolleyes*
The lady looks pretty good to me and feminine 'strong' features or not.

I always thought that muscular arms are sexy in a woman. Sadly, my family keeps criticizing my efforts to get in shape saying that I will end up looking like a lesbian. O__o And sadly they mean this joke in an offensive way. I'm straight but this is not the point, I have no kind of sexual orientation prejudices whatsoever. The fact that Jillian is actually a lesbian is not helping my cause with my family & friends while arguing that I want a body exactly like hers.

Well, I guess it's a matter of personal taste. But I still don't see how some guys can actually think that a very fit woman like Jillian hasn't a great body...

Plus guys, I think that if your GF/wife is trying to live a healthier life and get in shape you shouldn't be an obstacle saying that you like her extra kilos or that if she lifts weight she will look too masculine. People should always be supportive when their loved ones are trying to live a healthier life.

Well...I could talk about that for hours...muscles are sexy as hell. I admire and appreciate a woman with muscles.

I don't watch Extreme Weight Loss because I think that dude is an amazing trainer, I watch because he's effing hot. So hot I have watched 8 episodes this weekend and can't remember his name. Don't even care what his name is tbh, as long as he stays sexy.

Chris something, I think is his name? We went out Saturday night and saw a guy who looked just like him at the bar. So cute!

Even though he's gay, Bob Harper is adorable, too.

I cannot even fathom, not even for a second, staying with a guy who thought it was ok to insult my body, muscles, choices, etc.

A comment like that, even in jest, would get a nasty look and a prompt, "eff you".


Imagine for a second if the situation were slightly different. Say, perhaps, that you had a lapse in routine for a few weeks, you haven't been able to go to the gym for a while. In what universe would it be ok for him to say, "are you turning in to a fat-as$?"

NONE. That crap is never ok. Husband or not.

This. This a million times over.

I don't care who it is, no one should speak like this about anyone's body. Seriously, don't tolerate it.

And then you told him to get comfortable with being face down in a pillow, right?

My guy seems to like my new strength and baby muscles, lucky for him since I know my goal and will go after it whether he likes it or not.

Yep! I'm glad that my husband likes my muscles and the fact that I'm getting stronger, but I'd be doing what I want to reach my goals anyway. His appreciation is just a bonus.

He did start lifting a few months after I did, which I took as a compliment.

Jillian does look manly to me but it's not her body, it's her hard manly face.

I'm not a huge Jillian Michaels fan (I don't know a whole lot about her, honestly) but dissing her face is not cool. Besides, I never think it's prudent to insult someone who could kick your *kitten*, and that woman is a badass.

Why not? Why am I not allowed to say someone has an ugly face. I think she's ugly, oh well. Boo hoo. Oh no, hopefully she's not reading this, she might kick my *kitten*.

Grow up. If you don't think she's attractive, fine. No need to say so. That's classless.

Then I guess I have no class in your book. Trust me, I won't lose a minute of sleep over it.
And here's another thing, technically I can say whatever I feel. It's up to you to decide if you let it get your panties in a bunch.

You can say whatever you feel, this is true. But it just makes you look like a jerk when you put someone down like that. It would be like me seeing your profile pic and making fun of you for being small. It just isn't cool.