Frustrating Skinny Friend

Does she know she hurt your feelings...and did she apologize for it? If not, she's not a friend.

You should not feel guilty. Everyone has those days, and one meal is not going to derail you. You gotta see the bigger picture. It's a lifestyle change, right?? That means it's FOREVER. So you're gonna eat junk once in a while. That's how life works.

Sorry your "friend" made you feel bad. :flowerforyou:

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if ya asked to help you in your weight loss journey she can be as honest as she wants, cant fault an honest friend and then get your feelings hurt when she points out how terrible it is for you

and if you didn't ask for her help then ignore her and eat what ever you feel comfy eating
remind her one meal isn't going to set ya back

It's your lifestyle and your choice. You don't need anyone else's validation nor judgement. You're the one that has to live with the consequences, so do as you please. I mean, food is such an incredibly personal choice, isn't it?

yes..this^^^

She's just miserable because she can't eat bread or something. Do what works for you, don't let her get you down.

Tell her to shut the fruck up.

I find it interesting that this thread is titled "Frustrating skinny friend". If she was overweight would it have made you feel the same way? Honestly, it sounds like she's just trying to help. Just as you explained to us that you had sick children and it's just a once in awhile thing, you can say the same to her.

Seriously, this. It's like OP is looking for validation in being upset with her friend for her own mistakes. Sorry, but that's how it comes off.

So you've never asked her to keep you "on track"? If you've put her in the position of being the motivator, the coach, and the voice of reason, don't get all butt-hurt when that's what she does. If not, she may be out of line. Or you may be overly sensitive. Sorry, but you have to consider the fact that maybe you already felt guilty and you're lashing out at her.

I agree with this as well.

You shouldn't feel guilty at all. There is nothing wrong with eating what you ate, especially when you are under stress (sick kids and all). But it really doesn't matter. If you eat a mostly nutritious diet, count calories and stick within your goals for that as well as macros and micros, and exercise, then there is no problem. Eating at taco bell isn't even bad, imo, it's not like you eat every meal there, everyday. You should talk to your friend and tell her that you don't want her input on food because you have your way and she has her way and you count calories. The issue is not that your friend is skinny, it's that she is into a specific diet (low carb) and thinks other people need to eat like her. A low carb diet is unnecessary. I do not tolerate people telling me what to eat or not or shaming food choices. Input about recipe or food ideas is good. But, I don't want anyone policing my food choices (it varies from time to time depending on what is going on in my life in terms of stress).

this sounds like a case of my day is going soooooooooo badly, even when i try to get my kids something they want for dinner and will eat, i have to hear about it..........won't anything go my way today? just the icing on the cake of your bad day, if it wasn't that thing that set you off, it would have been the rep count during your workout, or the spotting ability of your skinny friend or whatever geesh don't these skinny folks know that just being their skinny selves can be a source of aggravation for the not-so-skinny among us?

seriously, your friend is just trying to help, and chances are as some other posters said, you were already feeling bad about the choice, and just didn't want to admit it to yourself. she is a good friend for telling it straight up.....we are all here because in the past we haven't admitted things to ourselves.

I guess she's just being a friend & doing what you asked her to do? (or not). Friends can be annoying but hey, I'm sure if she was doing the opposite (trying to make you eat bad food etc.) you would complain about that too. Don't let it get to you. It's a tough gig juggling everything with kids let alone sick kids. Don't be so hard on yourself or your friend.

She may be skinny but is she healthy? Just keep doing what you are doing

There are no evil foods. None. You need to eat as healthy as possible leaving room for treats and snacks Working into your calories for the day, the things that you like to eat. Otherwise you will burn out and quit.

As far as your friend, stand up to her and explain that you are working your own plan. Exercise together - there's no problem there. Don't let others throw you off your plan. Find what works for you. Good luck.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

I find it interesting that this thread is titled "Frustrating skinny friend". If she was overweight would it have made you feel the same way? Honestly, it sounds like she's just trying to help. Just as you explained to us that you had sick children and it's just a once in awhile thing, you can say the same to her.

Seriously, this. It's like OP is looking for validation in being upset with her friend for her own mistakes. Sorry, but that's how it comes off.

So you've never asked her to keep you "on track"? If you've put her in the position of being the motivator, the coach, and the voice of reason, don't get all butt-hurt when that's what she does. If not, she may be out of line. Or you may be overly sensitive. Sorry, but you have to consider the fact that maybe you already felt guilty and you're lashing out at her.

I agree with this as well.

I'm the "skinny friend" among my friends and, when they ask me to help them get in shape and lose weight, I will give them my advice and give them input when I see them doing things that might be working against their goals. I'm not trying to be the food police or anything but, if they ask for help and I see them eating in a way I might consider to be unhealthy or to be similar to the old habits that made them gain weight in the first place, I'm probably going to say something- but I'll try to say it in a way that's not, "wow, I can't believe you're eating that," and more along the lines of, "hey, I thought you were trying to make healthier food choices..."

Why is the "skinny" clarification necessary? Would you feel the same way about the advice if she were fatter? I'm confused as to why that part matters so much.

No one can make you feel guilty without your permission. Obviously, you don't like that you bought Taco Bell or eat junk, either, or you wouldn't be allowing yourself to feel guilty about it. She isn't doing anything except trying to give you advice that you apparently wanted, since she's your workout buddy.

If you want to change your habits, change them. She's giving you advice that she think will help. If it's not helpful, and you don't want to change your habits, then own up to your decisions, and be happy with them. Right now, you sound like you're looking for validation for a choice that you made that you don't like, but can't entirely claim as your own, because you don't want to accept it as "bad".

Food isn't bad. Deciding to get fast food for one night because hey, it's just easier, is not bad. (I'm a single parent in nursing school.. Trust me, been there, got that t-shirt.) Right now, you seem stuck on believing that what you're doing is bad, but you're looking for validation or excuses for it, yet trying to get someone else to help you change it at the same time. That's going to be a frustrating place until you tip the scales definitively in one direction or the other.

Im like you, I am good enough most of the time and I try to stay under my caloric goal, but I really do eat whatever I want.
I dont like anybody getting too interested in what Im eating either.
I have never vented here (that I can remember!) because I cant take the feedback..Im a delicate flower..lol