Wife gets depressed when I lose weight. What to do?

Never compare yourself to a man if you are female. Sets you up for some rough time. My fiance lost 4lbs overnight! Just keep encouraging her, telling her she's beautiful, and applaud her for any efforts she makes. If she wants to do this she'll do it but she has to do it for herself.

She HAS gotten off of her *kitten*. She lost 6 lbs in 3 weeks, which speaks to her effort. She is just frustrated that she is unable to pace her husband. It is unfair to imply she is lazy. She may prefer working out with someone closer to her own fitness profile. It might be offputting or intimidating to try and keep up with someone who out performs her fitness. Who is to say she does not work out alone? The scale moved, so she is obviously doing something right.

6 lbs in 3 weeks is GOOD and right on normal pace with healthy weight loss.

Men and women lose differently.
And as someone pointed out, even women vs. women lose differenly.

A few year ago, my best friend and I, who were also roommates at the time, embarked on plans to lose a few. She had more to lose than I did, but still, we went to the gym together and being roommates, we often ate together meaning we ate many of the same things, and we both counted the calories, etc.

She started losing and I lost NOTHING. Not even 1/2 lb. And if really frustrated and depressed me. What worked for her did not work for me, simple as that.

Your wife is doing fine. In fact she's doing better than I. I am not losing, and it IS frustrating, but it takes time and I am ignoring the scale and paying attention to how clothes are fitting etc. Otherwise I frustrate myself.

Her weight loss is perfect and since you're a man you will naturally lose weight faster. I know of a guy who lost 15st in about a year. I don't know of girls who could do the same, chronically obese or not!

I certainly wouldn't stop losing weight or try to decrease the amount you're losing. Show her these posts that plenty of people think she had done an awesome job. 2lbs a week is over a hundred lbs a year!

Also, try and get her strength training. Cardio is great for taking calories away in the short term and boosting endurance but weight lifting (heavy!) will get her burning calories for about a day after and it's a wicked good fat burner.

I suggest taking measurements, too. A lot of the time when we have been good and don't see movement on the scale we will see movement on the measuring tape! I go to Slimming World and whilst it's great support, putting so much emphasis on the numbers on the scale when your image is the most important thing isn't exactly healthy!

I wish my husband would learn that. Eating well is the key. I think what you said about wieght watchers is correct. With us we are opposite of the man who posted. I lose wieght, after straying from the path for too long, and excercise so I can wiegh what I wieghed when we were married 20 years ago. Meanwhile my husband has high blood pressure high colesterol and had gained 50 lbs. since marriage. He does not see how all this wieght around his middle is affecting/effecting him. I would love it it we worked together. I would expect him to lose 6 to my every one. Your wife is trying to focus on you to divert attention from her. Stay the course and try not to talk about the wieght as the benefits but rather the increased health and energy from eating well and excercising. I lose only one pound a week and that is all I ever expect. This is a lifetime of maintanance so I figure go slow. I will never be done tracking. It's a lot more rewarding to track one lb. per week then stayed the same or worse gained. Once I lose 10lbs. I will be done losing so the thrill of losing will be over. I will have to track to just not gain. see if she can read these posts instead of you explaining to her.

If she has lost 6 pounds in three weeks she is doing well. That is an average of 2 pounds a week which is exactly the right pace. I think men always tend to lose faster than women.

I agree with others than she needs to compare her results with other women. Everyone loses at a different pace. I actually lose the first 35 pounds quickly but then I slow down so everyone has different experiences.

I would also try being honest with her about how it makes you feel when she doesn't support you. I wouldn't argue, just tell her how you feel and give her time to think about her behavior/remarks so she can process. She may come around.

Good luck! There are no perfect answers here...sorry.

YES!

well, i truly understand how your wife feels cos I used to feel dejected each time my ex lost weight, and i didnt, especially when i encouraged him to work out in the first place.

she needs your support. make her realise what/whom she is doing this for. Attaining a healthy body isnt a competition but rather a process of self-realisation. you dont do it for anyone else but you....

To the person who said divorce, no way.

Treat the loss as a % instead of lbs? That's really my only suggestion.