I can't help myself
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Sweat is your fat crying...0
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go for a walk.0
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Sweat is your fat crying...
OMG I love this!0 -
Sorry to be harsh, but if you want to lose weight enough, you will make sure you exercise and eat well. Good luck as no one finds it easy.0
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Honestly, until you take 100% accountability for what you do and what you eat, you are going to flounder around and get nowhere.
Take responsibility that whatever you shovel down your pie hole, is 100% your choice. Until you do this be prepared to struggle.
With that being said, take heart that you don't have to live a life of restriction to reach your goals. You like Ben & Jerry's ice cream? Awesome. Me too. Don't eat the whole pint. Measure out a serving and have it for deserrt as one part of your calorie deficit plan.0 -
You have to want it bad enough otherwise you will never be successful!0
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What I also forgot to mention was that I am Bipolar. I suffer from hypomania (extreme highs) and depression. I have also found that exercise helps keep depression at bay. It's hard to actually start but once you do you will feel loads better
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When you feel ready and even feeling desperate then you will find the motivation, until then, all I can suggest is reading the success stories on here.
Change is hard and you have to want it.0 -
I think you just have to exercise. I was like you for years, I used to like exercise but after a few injuries I kinda...stopped! Then I was at a weight I was happy with and that was enough, but as you get older you change shape. In a bad way.
You just have to find something you like and stick with it, no matter what, if you skip one workout, you might skip the next. The trick is not to quit and eventually you need it. It becomes an addiction, and it's wonderful.
It's a win win situation, you just have to commit yourself. I haven't lost weight as far as I know, haven't been weighing, but all my cloths fit much better.
Do it, you owe it to yourself :flowerforyou: It's not easy, but stick with it, you won't be sorry. Turns out, my exercise is jogging. And I've always loathed jogging any distance. So don't rule anything out. People say sweat is the fat crying, I like that, it makes me laugh0 -
Just stay fat
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If you are depressed, exercising can help you feel better.
I've been on anti depressants and have done counseling. But either do something about the depression or use it as an excuse. If you KNOW you have a problem, then why don't you do something about it? Why continue to use that as your barrier from losing weight?0 -
I'm gonna try running again tonight.
Are you following a running program, or just getting out there and trying to run? When I first started, one year and 60 pounds ago, I couldn't run very far at all. If I'd tried to go out and 'go for a run' it would have been a recipe for feeling like a failure every time, and ultimately quitting. I know - that's what's always happened in the past when I tried to get into running.
Instead, I strongly recommend a couch to 5k program. By using the C25k, which gradually builds you up to running by alternating periods of jogging and walking, my confidence stayed high. Every session I felt that I achieved completing that session, rather than once again failing to finish my run. But start slow on the jogs. Like <5mph slow. Most people have to drop their speed half way through.
It did me the world of good, and one year on I'm 60 pounds lighter (through diet) and running 10ks.
Yeah - what this guy said! That's what got me started! Tough, but very managable0 -
I'm gonna try running again tonight.
Are you following a running program, or just getting out there and trying to run? When I first started, one year and 60 pounds ago, I couldn't run very far at all. If I'd tried to go out and 'go for a run' it would have been a recipe for feeling like a failure every time, and ultimately quitting. I know - that's what's always happened in the past when I tried to get into running.
Instead, I strongly recommend a couch to 5k program. By using the C25k, which gradually builds you up to running by alternating periods of jogging and walking, my confidence stayed high. Every session I felt that I achieved completing that session, rather than once again failing to finish my run. But start slow on the jogs. Like <5mph slow. Most people have to drop their speed half way through.
It did me the world of good, and one year on I'm 60 pounds lighter (through diet) and running 10ks.
^^^This, you must crawl before you can walk and walk before you run.
If you over exert yourself immediately, you're going to quit right away. Start small and build up to running. Running more than a mile is a challenge for a lot of people and definitely a mental game. I have now run 4 marathons and still the thought of lacing up my running shoes and stepping outside can be daunting. You also claim to hate sweating and working out. Why not first get yourself accustomed to all of that first. Start with some walks during the week, when that is sustainable, add in some more walks until you are walking almost everyday. Then start adding in 2 minutes of walking alternated with 2 minutes of easy pace jogging before you go into full runs. YOu will build your body up to where it needs to be to help with the running and you won't be doing too much too fast to where you hate it. Start small, follow a program and learn what works for you first.0 -
I really, really, really wanna lose weight. I want to SO bad. But NOTHING is working. I mean, nothing I do to motivate myself, I mean.
The thing is, I HATE sweating unless I'm having fun. And y'know, sports are fun, but I have like one friend who'll play soccer or catch or anything with me, but I can barely do that more than three times a week, let alone every day.
My therapist decided to help make a plan for me to lose weight. She has me starting slow, counting my calories only three days out of the week and one workout a week. That plan was made last wednesday. The counting calories I can do just fine, despite being a picky eater, but I still haven't done the ONE workout. I was suppose to do it last friday, but I haven't. I just don't WANT to. Like I do, but I don't.
The funniest part is, I was doing so well near the beginning of the year. I was fifteen pounds under my then weight. Now I'm like 30 pounds over my weight from then. I've gained like 45 pounds and only one pair of my jeans actually fits anymore. My clothes feel so much tighter and I refuse to conform and buy new clothes because I feel like that's giving in. But the tight clothes aren't motivating enough for me to lose weight, neither is the fact that I feel like a fatass and everyone keeps telling me to stop complaining if I won't do anything about it.
I feel like crying. Some advice please?
I was you 2 years ago. Most of the people who have responded so far, although not all of them were very kind about it, are right. You have to take ownership of your body, your goals, and your action plan. My suggestion would be to start with your diet. I don't know why your therapist told you to log just 3 days, but I would suggest logging every day. Go to this website - www.fitnessfrog.com - and calculate your TDEE for your current activity level. Eat 500 calories a day less than the number it calculates. This should set you up for a 1 pound a week loss. Once you start losing you may feel more motivated to move.
I would also ask yourself why you don't like to sweat. Do you feel unattractive, gross, or what? I hated to sweat. When I dug down deep, I discovered it was because I felt unattractive when I sweat. Well, I was already unattractive being obese so what was a little sweat going to hurt? I started exercising and now I actually enjoy the feeling of sweat pouring off my face because I know what it's doing for me.
No one can motivate you but you. We can give you advice. We can give you atta girls. We can listen and support you when you hit a roadblock. But you and only you can get up and do something about your weight.
I saw a quote that kicked my butt into gear - "If it's important you'll find a way. If it's not you'll find an excuse." This is truer than most anything I've ever read. Think about it.0 -
Maybe this has already been said but for my 2 cents I suggest rather than looking at your end goal start with much smaller goals like minor diet change with minor exercise increase. For examply your goal for this month would be go for a brisk walk 20 mins 3 days per week and cut out or cut back on soda. then increase once it has become a habit. ~baby steps may not net fast results but it's much easer to do it this way than to cold turkey style it0
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I'm sorry, but I asked for motivation and advice. Not people belittling me for being depressed (not sad, there's a difference) and lazy. I don't feel any more compelled to work out after hearing that I need to stop whining.
I don't blame you. I'm guessing you're already saying these things to yourself; I know, I've been there. I think some have already said it, if so, I'll repeat: why don't you just put exercise on the back burner for now? You can lose weight without exercising at all. I found that once I'd lost a good bit of weight from diet alone, it gave me some motivation to want to start exercising.
I was exactly like you -- I used to absolutely DESPISE any type of physical exertion. It has been nothing less than a miracle that at the ripe old age of 44 I actually began, VERY SLOWLY, to enjoy it. But again, for now, forget exercise and just focus one day at a time on getting a calorie deficit.
One more thing... try to look in the mirror every day and find one thing about yourself that you like (or at least don't hate) - your eyes? your hair? or maybe just that you're a great friend or daughter? Try to love yourself where you're at. It's too easy for us to beat ourselves up and say horrible hateful things to ourselves that we would never say to a friend or coworker. Imagine that when you're looking in the mirror that you're talking to a friend --- how would you encourage a friend who's in your shoes?
Take it one day at a time and celebrate your small successes!0 -
Maybe this has already been said but for my 2 cents I suggest rather than looking at your end goal start with much smaller goals like minor diet change with minor exercise increase. For examply your goal for this month would be go for a brisk walk 20 mins 3 days per week and cut out or cut back on soda. then increase once it has become a habit. ~baby steps may not net fast results but it's much easer to do it this way than to cold turkey style it
I completely agree. I know when I first started out on this journey I promised myself to make baby steps. I know myself and I knew that if I tried to make too many changes at once I would get overwhelmed and anxious and I would give up. So I started very slowly.
First I started C25K then after about a week I gave up soda, then I added a strength routine, and i started clean eating, then I stopped late night eating, then I joined a gym. My new goal is to start logging my food daily. I'm 2 months into my lifestyle and I've lost a total of 11lbs. No it's not an impressive amount of weight but every pound and ever workout is a victory.0 -
You asked for advice and people gave you advice. The fact that you didn't like it doesn't mean it isn't any good. There is no magic bullet.I'm sorry, but I asked for motivation and advice. Not people belittling me for being depressed (not sad, there's a difference) and lazy. I don't feel any more compelled to work out after hearing that I need to stop whining.0 -
Quit being lazy?
That's all there is to it...
way to put down someone who is currently seeing professional help for depression. Real human of you0 -
Is there anything you might be able to talk yourself into doing that's not "officially" a workout? LIke maybe walking somewhere instead of driving or taking the dog (or a neighbor's dog??) out for a walk; jump roping; dancing; roller-blading; anything??0
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You don't want to lose weight. You want to cause you should, but you don't want it badly.
As long as you don't want to exercise or even sweat, you just won't get anywhere.
I'm not sure what I can give you here. I can't give you the will to get up and put in hard work. Only you can kick your own *kitten*.
I'm not trying to be mean, but you are being unreasonable here.
You listed why you don't want to and seem to think these nothing-excuses are valid.0 -
You either want to do it, or you don't. Simple as that. When you want it bad enough you will do it.0
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You've got a lot of great advice on here. You have to want it and believe in yourself that you can do it. You have to decide that you are worth it. I've fought depression for at least 10 years. Really bad depression until 15 months ago, when I decided I'd had enough being fat and it was time to change.
Start small. If you just go out there and start running if you haven't been running before, you will injure yourself or discourage yourself even more. Get the right shoes for running, start with a couch to 5k program (there are tons of apps for smart phones, I liked Zen Labs C25K). Get help for your depression.
You also have to decide you are worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Believe in yourself. But you are the only one that can do it and you are the only one that can motivate yourself to do it.0 -
You've got a lot of great advice on here. You have to want it and believe in yourself that you can do it. You have to decide that you are worth it. I've fought depression for at least 10 years. Really bad depression until 15 months ago, when I decided I'd had enough being fat and it was time to change.
Start small. If you just go out there and start running if you haven't been running before, you will injure yourself or discourage yourself even more. Get the right shoes for running, start with a couch to 5k program (there are tons of apps for smart phones, I liked Zen Labs C25K). Get help for your depression.
You also have to decide you are worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Believe in yourself. But you are the only one that can do it and you are the only one that can motivate yourself to do it.
^^^ this ...ALL OF IT0 -
I find I do better joining a class rather than a gym or getting a dvd. A class makes me accountable for showing up on time every week while gym and dvd it is too easy to just say I'll do it tomorrow.
Find something that makes you accountable so you can't just say you don't feel like it.0 -
I'm sorry, but I asked for motivation and advice. Not people belittling me for being depressed (not sad, there's a difference) and lazy. I don't feel any more compelled to work out after hearing that I need to stop whining.
You did not mention with one single word that you were depressed in your OP, nor did you imply it. People are not mind readers. I think if you are really depressed, you need to see a mental health care specialist to get to the root of things. Even the most well meaning MFPers cannot help you if you are clinically ill.
Good Luck !0 -
Get disciplined, not motivated.
I liked this comment...
...but I suspect no one will be able to tell you what you want to hear right now.
When/if you do eventually figure it out in the future, I suspect you'll look back on the advice given in this thread and realize how good the advice given actually was.0 -
It doesn't sound to me like you want to lose weight. It sounds like you just want to be thin. One requires effort - the other does not.
Set yourself some short-term, achievable goals. Like, lose 10lbs. Eat healthier for 2 weeks. Go for a walk every day after lunch. Something like that.
I would urge you to read the success stories on this site. If those people can do it, so can you. They aren't special. They just made a decision and stuck with it.
You have to find the motivation. Nobody can give you that. You can do this, but you have to try.0 -
A lot of what we do is developing habits. I was so out of shape when i started i began very small. 5 min of walking a day. each month i have added 5 min. I am now up to30 min of walking most days a week. It is a habit that is now part of my life. I do calorie count also which again is a habit i have made a part of my life. baby steps are easier. It has helped me on my journey and I am losing weight and feel 100 times better and i am healthier too. try it, 5 min if that's all you can do to start. It does improve your mood too. I found I wanted to do other activities after I started this one thing. Crazy huh? Good luck!0
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Sounds like she is seeking professional help and is getting help from her counselor. The counselor gave her small steps to work on. If she wants it "SO bad" as she claims then she would work on those small steps. If you can't get motivated to workout ONCE a week for even 30 minutes or track your calories for 3 days then thats just lazy.Quit being lazy?
That's all there is to it...
way to put down someone who is currently seeing professional help for depression. Real human of you
She isn't following what her counselor recommended. There's nothing a bunch of internet strangers can help with if you aren't motivated by someone who is a professional and knows your back story.0
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