Wow. You look like *kitten*....

These comments come from my director of nursing, her assistant, my immediate supervisor, and a few fellow co-workers.

I bet they're either all jealous women, or men who find you attractive but realise that the better looking you get, the less chance they have.

I've gotten some really negative comments from some of the RN's I work with. Thankfully most don't comment at all and some are great cheerleaders. What I do is turn the conversation around to focus back on them. People love to talk about themselves and their families. Works for all kinds of situations. When I get asked if I'm still losing weight - I'll answer a really quick no and then follow up with something like, Hey, how's Colby/Kristin doing at college? before they get a chance to ask/say anything else. Works every time against the negative Nellies.

Definitely this. And thank you for posting, OP. Serves as a warning for all of us - be on guard for anyone that wants to sabotage your efforts just to make themselves feel better!

143 is not skinny at all! That's the weight I'm trying to get and I'm 5.10!

You don't look neither sick, nor like a drag addict. Not at least judging by your body.

I honestly can't believe anything like that happen especially in the USA considering people and employees are so careful of any possible egalitarian troubles. Maybe you misunderstood and there's some confusion between you guys?

Maybe those comments were regarding your overall look, not your weight, when you were actually sick or very tired, and didn't look well? Maybe they were concerned not about your weight much but about your health and thought you losing weight is an additional indication of depression r some sickness? Just thought.

My coworkers once told me I look bad, and suggested to take a rest and go to a spa, but I really looked like ****, lol, finishing important project and not sleeping for days.

I'm sorry you work with such a despicable group of people.

Lots of suggestions have already been made on handling them, so I won't repeat them.

What I do want you to do though is go back and read the "why I want to get in shape" part of your profile, and remember how you felt when you typed it.

You have worked hard, and you look fantastic. You should feel it too. :flowerforyou:

First, get a letter from your doctor saying that your weight and fitness goals are healthy, then take that letter to whoever called you in to a meeting (I presume it was your supervisor/line manager) and say that you are not happy with the constant harassment based on how you look, that you find it hurtful and offensive, and that it must stop. If that doesn't make it stop, or your supervisor/line manager doesn't accept the note from your doctor, then go above his/her head and complain, saying that you consider it to be harassment based on how you look, and highly unprofessional.

This. As long as your goals are healthy, then everyone else can just go pound sand. I REALLY hope the meetings you talk about are with peers, because if a supervisor brought you in and said "you look like *kitten*", they need a smack upside the head. There are much more productive ways to address such issues, and if you really did have a problem, that approach would not be the way to open up a supportive path to a solution. (And I'm no stranger to leading the "You look like you're hurting, what's up", "You need to stand closer to your razor next time", or "You look like you slept in that uniform" discussions.)

Unfortunately, it often happens that people who are unfamiliar with a process will mis-diagnose things. If they're not familiar with successful weight loss, they may simply assume that you've got a problem because you're actually losing weight.

I once had a supervisor who really angered me when he got on my case because I put on weight. Knowing that I was someone who enjoyed cooking, he simply assumed I was over-eating. Not once did he notice that my waist size hadn't gone up. He also didn't notice that, in the eighteen months after the time they'd taken my first weight measurement, on which he'd based the "you're packing on fat" argument, I'd gone from doing 80 pounds on a hack squat machine to 450 and from bench pressing perhaps 120 pounds, total, to 110 in each hand. I'd also gone from someone whose only running experience was around a track to someone who could sling a fully-grown man over his shoulders and sprint uphill. So he completely ignored the possibility my weight could have come from something other than fat because that wasn't in his experience.

If they are making those comments at work, especially in a meeting then they are probably most likely breaking Labor Laws. You might be able to check your personell manual to see if they have a workplace harassment policy.. then report this to the human resources dept and let them handle it.

if you dont want to do that or if you dont have anything like that then you can verbally state something to that affect like "this is not appropriate for work place etiquette. I have no comment for you" or something like that.

Sadly, I think that we will all be seeing more and more cases like this one detailed in the OP. As a nation, we have collectively lost all ability to gauge what a normal healthy body looks like.

In the OP's home state of WV the CDC reports that over 69% of the population is overweight and over 32% of the population rates as obese.

That's not bashing the state (I come from Texas where our rankings are not far behind those stats as well) it is a simple statistical fact.

Take a look at how this has progressively changed since 1985 through 2013.

Pretty freakin' frightening to see where this is all heading.








http://www.americashealthrankings.org/WV

http://www.cdc.gov/obesity/stateprograms/fundedstates/west_virginia.html




And the model shows that by 2015 over 75% of us here in the USA will be overweight and over 41% will be classified as obese.


http://health.lilithezine.com/American-Obesity-Rates.html


Kudos to everyone here who has woken up and is fighting the fight to get healthy and to buck these trends....

Do you wear scrubs that fit your new body properly?
Do you wear some form of makeup to work?

If the answer to these Q's is yes, then I agree with 99% of the posts here. The "meetings" are inappropriate and you are being harassed.

However - and I know I may be hated for this comment - if the answer to those two Q's (either of them) is no, then it's probably an appearance issue. Too-big scrubs combined with a fresh-scrubbed face can make nearly anyone look like a sloppy meth addict which is the last thing you want to see from someone in a health-related career.

Let me get this straight -- baggy scrubs and no makeup make a person look like a meth addict? Is that really what you said? Really? A meth addict? Have you ever seen a meth addict??


Why don't people think before they type? :noway:

Wow, Achaila - you are stunning!!!!

Just three words:

Hostile Work Environment!



Do what you know is right; don't let them make you second-guess your good health accomplishments.