No compliment from spouse

Join the club. Hang in there, but if she hasn't said anything up to now I wouldn't expect her to ever say anything. Mine still thinks I weigh 200# (I'm 160 now), he even brings me the old sizes when we go shopping.

Is she overweight herself? She might be feeling insecure about that, and wondering why you are working so hard on your appearance. Have you tried to talk with her about it? Women can be a little bit dense about this sometimes because we're very negatively self centered about our bodies.

Perhaps she is one of those people that get intimidated by a partners weight loss. Afraid of you leaving her.. or something like that.. who know?! as mentioned above your best bet would be to talk to her.

this is just crazy to me. dump her.

Honestly I have dealt with that myself. Went from 234 to 144 in a year and NOTHING from my husband. Everyone else, even other men, tell me i look amazing, or that i'm beautiful, or what have you and my husband doesn't say a thing. I've told him good job about losing 20 pounds even though he didn't do anything special to lose it..but i have been working my *kitten* off to lose weight and he doesn't show any appreciation of it. I have been on his case and have explained other men find me attractive and express it, but I want to hear those things from my husband sometimes.. he just doesn't change.

That sucks. I know receiving compliments is a big boost of self-esteem. Makes you feel good that other people notice all the hard work you have been doing. I have lost 62lbs and only a few people in my life have said anything. My husband does constantly. Me losing weight has given him the motivation to work out too. My MIL has complimented me many times. And my dad. At first I was hoping that my mom and sister would say something but now I am at the point where I know this is for me. It's not something I talk about either. I don't know if it's awkward for some people to bring up as weight can be a sensitive subject. But if it's bothering you then you should talk to your wife.

I don't understand why people who are in relationships need constant validation.

Mine has given me little support... and even sabotages me regularly by wanting to eat out all the time. I know they are MY decisions, but a little encouragement would be nice. She probably thinks I'll run off with some chick from the gym. Yours may be thinking similar thoughts.

I have gotten the same thing, it wasn't until I took a before and after shot to post that I decided to show him, and I said to him "Look I am starting to see a difference" and he said " I have been seeing the difference" I guess he just didnt feel the need to tell me? He keeps telling me that he loves me the way that I am and he doesnt know who i am trying to impress. He is becoming very self conscious I think, he thinks I am going to lose weight and leave him. He has gained just as much weight as I have over the years, and he doesnt want to do anything about it. It's so sad

I being working out for about 10 months. I went from weighing 252 to 188 pounds. I get a lot of compliments from the people I know, and even strangers at the gym. I am in the best shape I been in since I had to take medical steroids that made me gain weight. I enjoy the compliments, but my wife never say anything about my weight loss. She even hear when people tell me that I loss weight, but she never gave me any type of compliment. I get me down because it seems like she don't want to say anything to encourage me.

Talk to you her of course, but regardless of how she feels do not stop your weight loss journey. Do this for yourself, because at the end of the day if you are not happy with yourself, you cannot be happy with anyone. Let her know that she is welcome to join your train, you can work out and push each other, but you are on a serious train to lose weight and be healthy for yourself, her and (if you have children).

I also agree with Markie166. My husband always said he didn't care that I had put on the weight to begin with. He said it didn't really matter to him.

OP is jealous

Of what?

I'd ask her about it, and really tell her how it makes you feel. I believe that open communication is critical in a marriage. Sometimes people don't realize that they are hurting your feelings by keeping silent... maybe she's quietly jealous of your success... it's hard to say. A spouse should support you in things like this, so a nice, non-confrontational heart-to-heart might clear the air and break the silence. Best of luck to you, and congratulations on your amazing success!!!

It's painfully disappointing when our partner doesn't seem to notice how hard we're working and how well our work has paid off, but when I was reading your post..... I know this is silly.....BUT..... it reminded me of an episode of the sitcom "King of Queens". I told you it was silly, but in this episode, Doug (Kevin James) was looking slim and trim in his jeans from high school. The compliments were rolling in and every time his wife, Carrie (Leah Remini), heard a compliment.... she'd roll her eyes. She became so disgusted with all of the attention he was getting that she attempted to go as far as sabotage Doug by tempting him to break his diet with a tall stack of pancakes. Carrie's issue was that she was jealous of her husband's success.

Obviously, I can't accuse your wife of being jealous; but as a woman I know that our physical appearance is a big deal to us. If you have lost weight and look great, as I am sure you do, she may be feeling one of many emotions. She may be feeling left behind. I don't know what her physical condition is, but since you don't mention her weight at all, it doesn't matter to you. When was the last time you told her she looks great? Maybe she hasn't done much to look great to get the compliment, so tell her what it is that you love about her. "You know that top you have? I love you when you wear it."

She may be feeling insecure and ignored. If you're getting all of this attention and compliments, maybe you're going to find a replacement for her because she's where she was 10 months ago. It may be a good time to remind her that while you have taken control of your health, that your commitment to her has not changed.

I know that you would like to hear your woman say that you are doing, looking and being great; but I don't think she's withholding her compliments because she has not noticed...... but because she has..... and it seems like a very passive aggressive way to communicate to you that she is also needing, wanting and waiting for "something" from you. You have been craving her compliment and encouragement for the last few weeks and maybe months, but how long has she been craving yours?

Give that which you want to receive. Without being fake or insincere about it (because she will pick up on your vibe) and without sounding like you are fishing for a compliment (because that is just unbecoming), find something to make her feel beautiful or attractive and let her know that she is special to you.

Oh... and don't do this only for two weeks and throw your hands up in the air and proclaim that it doesn't work. Imagine if you had stopped your healthy habits after two weeks...... exactly! Breaking through the ice is not going to be a one attempt thing. I can't tell you what the magic number is, but I am letting you know that while you need to hear that you are her champion.... she needs to hear that she is beautiful...... and it is going to take more than one try to convince her that she is that captivating woman to you.

I wish you all the best with your health and in your relationship. Keep on! You're doing great!

In the meantime, I am going to go and follow my own advice and tell my man he's wonderful......