Relationships v weightloss / health

You are not the only one. My husband and I went around and around, time and time again a year ago, as I was losing the weight. Most of it was because I was obsessed with myself making me someone I was not.

Since then, things are much better. I've learned to mellow out and not to be so strict and he's teaching me that you don't have to devote yourself 100% to working out if you just get up and move.

In high school I started to lose weight and when I was near my goal weight I actually started dating my now fiance. I noticed that during the first 4-5 months of our relationship I was eating like a bird and I didn't want to stuff my face in front of him. You know, keep up the appearance of being a lady But after 6-7 months of dating, I was so comfortable around him that I didn't mind eating that second taco or another handful of chips. It didn't help that he wasn't the healthiest eater, so a lot of times when we went out there weren't many options for me to choose from. Anyway, I gained most (if not more) of the weight back and have been working on it since.

My boyfriend is very supportive and has started to eat healthier too! He's very skinny and should actually be trying to gain weight, but together we focus on eating clean. He sometimes thinks that I spend too much time on planning my meals, cooking/preparing food, and logging my calories. He is especially understanding since I gave up dairy for health reasons and he's always willing to make the extra effort so that I don't feel left out. I also have some body image issues that he's been helpful in working through, but those issues are hurting our relationship more than my weight loss, so I just need to stay positive!

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

Oh wow that's the first I've heard of people meeting through MFP! That's amazing.

She beats me....

I got comfy and fat...Then I decided I needed to be healthy for myself so now im in the best shape of my life at the moment and still working towards my goal of the illusive 6 pack.

Worked out great for me. My boyfriend is as much of a gym rat as I am so we go to the gym together for a few hours 5-6 times a week.

It's not just you at all. A very significant number on here have stated that their significant other is either not supportive or downright against it.

My ex was downright against it for the longest time and I used that as my excuse. Then I just decided one day that I'm no longer allowing that and eventually she got on board.

I do wonder if women partners are more accepting in general though

I think my fitness inspires my wife, she does a lot of the same stuff as me. But, I'm 44 and have an 11 month old son. I have always tried to be healthy for myself, but now I have a new purpose so nothing and no one will get in the way of me doing everything I can do to be around as long as possible for my son, even my spouse (not that she would, just saying). A good partner will allow you to be who you want to be.

Before I met my boyfriend, I had basically given up caring about how I looked, because I felt like no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't compare to other women in any way. When we met, he made me feel so beautiful as the wreck that I was that I felt like I DESERVED to look good, and so I ended up losing 35 lbs, starting wearing a little bit of make up, eating healthier, just generally caring about myself more. It's amazing what a little bit of confidence and positive reinforcement can do for you. I definitely did it for myself AND him, and that was a good feeling. He still motivates me to this day just by little things, like telling me I look beautiful straight out of the shower as much as after I've spent an hour frou frou-ing myself up .

I pursue running & fitness and my husband perfects his home brewing of craft beer. We are 2 different people with 2 different sets of interests. But, we are undeniably 100% comitted to each other and we cheer each other on. I do things that are in line with his hobby (ie beer paring dinners, craft beer themed events...and there are TONS of them!!) and he supports my racing and training schedule. We are going to DC in just over 2 weeks so I can run my first full marathon. We support each other, we don't have to be exactly alike.

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

Oh wow that's the first I've heard of people meeting through MFP! That's amazing.

She beats me....

Don't listen to him...he's just being silly

Now who let you out of the basement!?

This is a tough one. When I'm in a bad relationship, I gain weight. My last one before my now current one was terrible, and the breakup was terrible. When I got out of it, I joined MFP and started working out. Now I'm so into it, I can't imagine what I was thinking before - my workout time is so precious to me now. Fortunately, I met my now boyfriend on here and he is extremely supportive of my fitness.

I have a pattern of being in awesome shape while NOT in a serious relationship, but then when I am in one, I blow up like a balloon. ?? I feel like a fraud now because when I met my husband I was 135. Almost immediately I started to pack on the weight.
Now I am 200 in only 2 years. He is the greatest man in the world to me and encourages me. I am so self conscious in front of my own husband, but he reassures me and supports me all the time.

Pretty common. They've actually done studies on it.

Women will tend to try to match the men in their lives in how much they eat, but it's more than we need (less muscle mass, smaller). You also tend, especially in the honeymoon stages, to eat out a lot and choose cuddling time over exercise.

it's one of those things when you get ni to a new relationhsip yo uhave to be aware of and NOT do, but until you are aware it's even a thing, you don't think about it. I gained when I moved in with my SO. If we ever split up and I start another new relationship, thankfully I'm now aware of that happening and will do my best to keep it in check! Though at this point, I probably won't ever be in that situation again.