Relationships v weightloss / health

Update: We are now cooking healthy alternatives together. Great for bonding and for the waist.
Exercise is still a hurdle, but he is willing to do it with me sometimes. One time, he even thanked me for it and kicked my butt! It was great because I wanted to give in, but he pushed me further than I thought I could muster! Just be patient.

When I was with my ex I packed on 50 pounds rapidly due to bad habbits and laziness. I did finally manage to lose it last year and keep it off but I still have a ways to go I am still a bit out of shape. I've had issues with my weight for a long time and my relationship with food is less than healthy and for some reason he brought out the worst in me. A little background, I have been known to overeat and went through a period of starvation and purging as a teenager; ever since I got sick as a teen I feel like I'm looking at myself in a funhouse mirror. I don't blame him entirely for my weight gain because he never put a gun to my head and forced me to eat but he certainly did not make things easy for me due to poor eating habbits and making it difficult for me to get my workouts done; the man was very much stuck in his ways and was not willing to make changes that would be beneficial to both of us. The final straw was when he cheated and then lied to my face about it but the fact that he brought out the worst in me and was not supportive of my efforts to reclaim my life and health were a big part of why I left.
The man I'm with now is great. He's not exactly the picture of health due to lack of exercise, poor nutrition and years of partying hard ( guitar player who spent the better part of the past 15 years or so touring and whatnot) but he's been nothing but encouraging and supportive of my efforts to reclaim my health. He has not changed his habbits but at the same time does not try to drag me down because he knows that would make me miserable and he wants me to be happy. He acknowledges that he ought to exercise, drink less and eat better but he's just not ready to make the changes .

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

Where do all the single people meet up? I've been hearing lots of love stories lately!

It's not just you. I have completely changed my lifestyle when it comes to shopping and eating.

My wife, shio is also overweight, just can't get into the working out and losing weight. I have tried to be positive with trying to get her to do it and even got firm in my expectations. Don't get me wqrong, i ain't going anywhere, lol, i just want her to feel as good as i feel.

It affects alot of aspects in our relationship also.

you are welkcome to friend me if you need to talk or just blow off.

Congrats on your decision to live well and be healthy, it's not easy.

My OH is a distance cyclist and distance fell runner, so he is naturally quite active and he also by nature likes to eat healthy.

This makes life so much easier!! He is a lot faster than me but he is always happy to go at my pace for joint runs or bike rides. My background is in triathlon but I also like lifting and yoga. He's not at all into weights. We have a great balance of enjoying a few things together (mainly mountain biking) and a few things that we do seperately.

We met when I was very fit and about between 125-130lb. Then I got injured and ballooned to almost 170lb. I had a real problem with that because it was the first time in my entire life that I was heavier than my man and that was just wrong. LOL I certainly felt more self-conscious and less confident with us intimately, despite all his reassurances. If he fancied me less he certainly never let me feel it. I'm halfway there to meeting my weight loss goal and he's been very supportive.

I've seen all the threads about OHs (male and female) boycotting people's efforts or being negative or jealous and I'm glad we never had any of that.

Personally I'm finding my relationship feeling different (not so much in a good way) since I've changed my lifestyle and become more active and health oriented.. And it would be nice to know it's not just me!

When I finally decided to buckle down and be consistent, my boyfriend at the time had a negative reaction. He told me that my calorie counting was "annoying." I later found out that it was because he thought, (direct quote), "You're gonna get all hot and leave me." Not sure if this is similar to what you're experiencing, if so, I know how fu(king annoying that can be Good luck!

This is pretty much how my conversations go when it comes to lifestyle changes....



Me: I am going vegetarian. You are welcome to keep eating meat.

Him: Child please! We're in this together. You already got me to do Insanity, join a gym and stop eating fast food. This is easy.

Me: YAAAAYYY!!!! *cartwheel*

The reason I started talking my boyfriend(we met online) was because he was doing the Spartan Sprint on the same day as I. He's extremely active so he pushes me to be the best that I can be; we do races together, lift together and go rock climbing together. He has a crazy fast metabolism so our eating habits are very different but he takes my calorie intake into account when making food or planning a restaraunt to eat. He's kinda amazing somedays haha

My husband and I have always had differemt goals, dietary needs/preferences and exercise preferences. We work together to support each other. This usually means we eat different foods and our core workouts are different but we share a love of hiking. It has made us stronger and is in my opinion truly supportive. Neither of us push our way on the other, but support and encourage each other. We are both exceding our health and fitness goals.

I have a very supportive husband! A year ago we were both overweight and not very concerned about it. Then he started mfp and started getting results in weight loss. He never urged me to join him, knowing it had to be something I wanted to do for myself. One day I just decided I was ready for a life change. I still cook much the same as before, because we have (2 teenage and 1 adult) sons at home who are string beans with hollow legs, but my hubby and I are mindful of our portions. I think I could do it alone, but that's more about the kind of person that I am. I actually prefer to exercise (I walk outdoors) alone, but when he asks to join me it's all good. He takes weekends 'off' from mfp and goes a little nuts with eating sometimes and it doesn't bother me. He works a very physical job now, so he is losing weight without added exercise. We need to find our own ways to be successful at this healthy lifestyle, having a supportive spouse or significant other is a bonus, but shouldn't be dependant on that. I guess my point is that you can be supportive without completely meshing on every little thing. Maybe life experience teaches us that - we've been married for 23 years and weathered some tough ones, too.