Things People Say When You've Lost Weight

I don't make the assumption that people are being rude or inconsiderate when they ask about my weight loss. I like to think they are just being curious. I don't mind if they ask if I've been sick or if I'm losing "on purpose" because at one time I did lose 40 pounds in a month due to surgery and complications afterwards. I am glad to set their minds at ease, thank them for noticing and tell them about MyFitnessPal. If they say something like "you've lost enough" or "you're getting too skinny" I just smile, correct them, thank them for noticing and tell them about MyFitnessPal. Several of my wife's and my friends have become inspired by our success and have started to lose weight themselves. I call that a win.

I generally hate it when people talk about my weight. This seems to be the only thing my family talks about when I come home to visit - no "how are you feeling" but only "have you lost weight?" or "have you put on weight?", amongst comments on my complexion (I'm always too pale for them...) and my looks in general (usually positive though, except for "you look so ill" when I'm very pale in winter).

Don't you feel that it's rude to constantly comment on other people's appearance, even if it's meant well? I'm okay with "nice dress" or "great haircut", but anything beyond that feels like it's invading my very personal space. Ugh.

Rant over.

Seriously?! That's why I'm glad I've been documenting my progress through photos and I talk about it all often and they see me going to the gym and I tell them how hard it is! I show them my sweat haha

I hate 'Looks like your surgery went well.'
Now I have nothing against the bypass surgeries...my mother had one. My mother also went through some intense pain for the surgery, and then again for her tummy tuck. I hope she is happy now...but seeing what those surgeries did...cuttin people in half and stretching their skin...I decided no surgery for me.

No one believes it's diet and movement, no one.
Which makes me kinda sad.

Haha, right?! I think giving people the benefit of the doubt is important, yeah, some people may make insensitive comments about a sensitive subject but, oh well! So far I haven't had any negative comments, all good ones except for people not believing I have A LOT left to go!

Everyone has been super complimentary. So much so, I've been getting embarrassed. It seems silly to get irritated over people's comments and compliments. I mean c'mon I've lost 65 pounds, I look way different. Sometimes it shocks people, if they've not seen me in a long time. Plus I dress a whole lot better now too. Leave the house without my hair and make up done? No way!

Give people a break, you will live longer.

I had a strange thing said to me the other day. I met up with a friend who hadn't seem for awhile. She first said, "Wow! You've lost a lot of weight." I was about to say thank you when she added, "Did you do it on purpose?"

I actually said this to a friend I hadn't seen in some time. When you've had so many people around you have heart attacks, cancer, or other health issues, that can be the first thing that comes to mind. I was glad to hear that, yes, it was diet and exercise.

My favorite is "are you sick?" I've also got the you're wasting away. You're going to disappear if you lose anymore. People don't see the things I see like the thighs and hips that won't budge! I'm almost there but the closer I get the more remarks that get made.

Fortunate that I haven't received any snark remarks. Mainly because my co-workers and friends are mosty in the healthy weight range already. I joined MFP just wanting to get rid of some vanity weight. Not much difference in terms of appreance to make any comments. However, I'm still pretty glad for the lack of attention.

I've heard so many crazy comments from people about weight loss I've had over the years . You just gotta take it with a grain of salt. Most people who never had a weight issue dont realize what's coming out of their mouths. Keep it up your doing great.

A co-worker once said to me... "If you could just gain weight in your face"
Hahahaha.

I got that just this week! I've gone from 386 to 234 and still have about 75 left to go. I know the person who said she couldn't imagine how I had "that much left, you're so thin now" is a good friend and I know she wasn't being snarky, so I took it as a compliment. There are others who I know are just being brats. Them I ignore. Point is, it's my journey to being a healthy weight, not theirs. So go ahead and tell me your opinion of when I should be done or why I'm going about it the wrong way, I don't care. I'm doing what's best for me, so rant if you want.

PS - I did have weight loss surgery, the gastric sleeve. And I am very open about it, so if someone asks what I've done, if I had surgery, whatever, I will tell them. There is nothing wrong with what I've done, it was the best choice for me. It's not what's best for everyone so I don't preach it, but if you ask I will talk.