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  • Tinydancer91
    Tinydancer91 Posts: 17 Member
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    I met my bf on one early this summer. don't knock it til ya try it! we're not the type of ppl to do online dating but we both took that chance and I'm glad we did. he's the most physically perfect person I've ever had the pleasure of meeting in my life. and with a heart of gold and funny sense of humor to match! I had my profile up for less than a week, and just one picture posted. I strongly suggest you sign up for okcupid. (and yes, he's the one posing with me in my default :))
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
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    I have tried them. Not much luck.I am a divorced, single mother with two young boys. It just seems like the majority (not all) are on there to play games..or to see how many they can hook up with. I think it sort of takes the magic and work out of dating and relationships if that makes sense. Too many seem to be trying to create this perfect Stepford robot person..rather than realize not one person is going to meet your criteria exactly..and looking for that perfection is really not healthy! lol! And many are doing the "luck of the draw" thing. Talking to multiple people at one time. How do you truly get to know someone then?

    But then I think I'm a nice person, decent, genuine, etc etc and I have been on there.....so maybe there are others like me!! It just takes weeding through the not so great ones which I don't have a lot of time for! LOL!

    So I have not been on one or some time now! :tongue:
  • ronit_rai
    ronit_rai Posts: 325 Member
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    single since 1995
    still satisfying myself with the porn sites :)
  • AnnaZimm70
    AnnaZimm70 Posts: 218 Member
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    I met my now husband on-line. eHarmony initially suggested me to him when I got a free profile, but was actually connected through Match as I didn't want to pay the eHarmony rate. I have several friends that have met current spouses, fiances, etc. on-line. What I liked was that I knew up front what we had a common, etc. rather than worrying that someone was later conforming answers to what they thought I would want to hear.

    The best advice I got was: (1) Don't post your best, most flattering photo. Better for someone to be pleasantly surprised then to be expecting you as you looked 6 years ago after a professional make-up session! (2) Be honest in your profile. (3) Keep an open mind. I didn't go into the process hoping to find someone to marry. Rather, I had recently moved and just wanted to go out for dinner or spend some time with another adult (rather than just my little kids) occassionally. I figured if a particular match didn't work it wasn't a big deal, just another chance to meet someone interesting.
  • toddis
    toddis Posts: 941 Member
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    I've been on and off the free sites for years and so far haven't found anything special. The two people I know that did actually married people they had known and just lost contact with over the years.

    You might consider something like meetup to find people to hang out with similar interests.
  • Hezzietiger1
    Hezzietiger1 Posts: 1,256 Member
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    i did eharmony in 3 different states- ohio, alabama, colorado.. just met guys who were insecure, awkward, and uncomfortable with themselves lol..

    Then I tried pof..b/c its free.. just a bunch of uglier guys wanting sex lol

    I dunno. I'm thinking about getting back on the market too..but I dunno.
  • livelaughlove384
    livelaughlove384 Posts: 100
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    I actually met my husband this way. We "met" at plentyoffish.com. Do not get me wrong there are sceeves on there and are only looking to get a piece of @$$, but there are genuine guys on there looking for love. Best of luck!
  • nippoleon
    nippoleon Posts: 43 Member
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    OKCupid is a lot better than POF, in my opinion. I've used both, and the only guy I met on POF I only talked to through OKCupid (my current boyfriend <3).
    I find the OKC environment brings out a lot more discussion; on POF all I ever got was "Hey, how are you?" which is kind of a horrible way to start a conversation in comparison to several paragraphs, questions, or jokes.
  • toddis
    toddis Posts: 941 Member
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    OKCupid is a lot better than POF, in my opinion. I've used both, and the only guy I met on POF I only talked to through OKCupid (my current boyfriend <3).
    I find the OKC environment brings out a lot more discussion; on POF all I ever got was "Hey, how are you?" which is kind of a horrible way to start a conversation in comparison to several paragraphs, questions, or jokes.

    I've found OKcupid to be like...Target and
    POF to be like Walmart.

    OKCupid definitely has some creepy stuff on it, the user submitted questions can be downright weird (And can be skipped), but definitely a different caliber of people.
  • SkinnyBubbaGaar
    SkinnyBubbaGaar Posts: 389 Member
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    Just a bit of advice to make sure you avoid this one....


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjQvVBZgI_k


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4O535ORbgI


    lowered-expectations.jpg
  • KnitSewSpin
    KnitSewSpin Posts: 147 Member
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    Met my husband on eharmony 9 years ago. He's a wonderful man!
  • mel_2812
    mel_2812 Posts: 66 Member
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    Met my boyfriend almost (already) 3 years ago on POF.

    He's the kind of man every women deserves and should have. I consider myself so lucky to have him by my side.

    We're looking to buy a house together after we return from our 1 month trip in Europe (planned for May 2014). I would love to say ''Yes I do'' one day and have my children with him. Slowly but surely! :)
  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
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    Did it for a number of years looking around.... lots of dates, nothin ever lasted past a few months....

    took my profiles down 2 years ago... a lot less dates...and I seem to get stood up a lot more often by getting dates from friends, or girls I meet while out and about....

    maybe im losing my sex appeal?

    Either way, good luck OP....if anything the online dating jungle isnt boring
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
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    I met the BF on yahoooooooo! that was when it was a little easier to search profiles. Never had any luck with any of the others except for adult friend finders but those weren't going to become anything more than fun.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
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    ETA: I just relooked at your profile picture -- so chick. You will have much more success if you look and reach out to men. They don't get nearly as many messages/winks. Go after dudes with filled out profiles and pictures. Ignore anyone who messages you without a profiled that isn't filled out.

    You know this is probably good advice. I think as women we often adopt the let him approach me first attitude, and maybe with online you do have to be a bit more aggressive.

    Although I remember being more aggressive on a BBW dating site and still found the guys just wanted casual. Not sure, but yeah dating sucks.
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
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    I met the BF on yahoooooooo! that was when it was a little easier to search profiles. Never had any luck with any of the others except for adult friend finders but those weren't going to become anything more than fun.
    Woohoo, congrats haha. I met mine online as well, but not on a dating site. Actually, the bf and I started as "enemies" and then became friends with insults, now total cuddlebuds haha.

    The online world can surprise us all, but personally, I would have rather stayed single than to go on a dating site :|
  • WannabeStressFree
    WannabeStressFree Posts: 340 Member
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    As someone who has used dating sites off and on for awhile, I would stick to meeting someone in real life, not online - especially do not use POF (plenty of fish), the only people I have met on there in person ended up being really nasty men as in not nice. I honestly think a majority of people online do not have the social skills to date in real life and love to hide behind a computer and cell phone, they are one way talking through texting and act completely different when you meet them. I've given up the whole online things and am happy working out for now and getting the healthy lifestyle I've always wanted :)

    ^^^ This above for me. I tried Match, POF, OK Cupid.
    I met a great guy on Match, but it didn't work out. Otherwise POF and OKCupid: lots of junk to sift through, it's disheartening for me and rather be off them. I know a lot of great couples that met online, so I know it's a good outlet for some.
    I'm also trying to be happy working out and being happy! Maybe I'll try them again, just not now.
  • rubble20
    rubble20 Posts: 8 Member
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    I've actually done the online dating thing quite a bit. In my opinion it depends on what you are looking for. Plenty of fish pof.com is great for dating. Get a lot of weirdos on there for sure, and I could tell you a lot of stories haha but there's a lot of good guys too. I've done pof off and on for the last 5 years. POF is also free which is nice.
    If you want a relationship, I'd try match.com. I only tried this site once because there's a monthly fee involved but the people on that site definitely seem to be more interested in finding an actual relationship as opposed to one night stand.
    Did not really like okcupid. I think that's just me though because a friend of mine has used it and has actually had a bit of luck on there.
    Eharmony didn't produce many matches for me so I dropped that one.

    In the end though, I'm currently in a relationship with an amazing man who I didn't meet online. Met him the good old fashioned way, through a friend.

    Good luck out there! :)
  • Carissa145
    Carissa145 Posts: 604 Member
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    I know this sounds crazy, but I found my SO on MFP, and neither of us were intending any sort of relationship. We just found after about 500 messages that we got along very well. But this may be rare :) good luck!
  • Clameater
    Clameater Posts: 317
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    I know this sounds crazy, but I found my SO on MFP, and neither of us were intending any sort of relationship. We just found after about 500 messages that we got along very well. But this may be rare :) good luck!

    This... I've had similar experiences, except with a multitude of both men and women all at the same time and they know about each other

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