To share or not to share your food journal

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  • DebsReady2
    DebsReady2 Posts: 9
    I'm new to MFP so I like to share. I like to see what others are having...to remind myself that food is not the enemy. Plus it gives me ideas on what to make.
  • krazyforyou
    krazyforyou Posts: 1,428 Member
    Mine is open for accountability. So what if I eat a pint of ice cream, its my *kitten* that pays the price not yours. But have had great suggestions from fiends on things to do to make decisions easiser.
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    I debated whether or not to make my food journal open. I chose to keep it open. If you want to ask questions, receive support, and get input on your weight loss and exercise, people generally need to see what you eat. I've never had anyone be terribly judgmental, outside of one guy who didn't seem to understand that a small woman could be eating 1500 calories a day to maintain, not to lose weight.
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    I have nothing to hide. Anyone can look at my food diary. They will quickly become bored and leave.

    I thought that too, but it turns out that I like seeing what other people are eating when I get bored of what I'm eating.
  • susieoj
    susieoj Posts: 181
    Mine is open and it's honest - if you're embarrassed to be eating what you're eating that's a big red flag - either feel good about eating it - I log those Oreos if I eat them and I enjoy every darn bite of processed crud - or I don't eat them - I like having the food diary open because it helps me remind myself to keep my relationship with food positive and productive, I don't want to feel like I want to hide from anyone what I'm eating. If I'm going to have some type of hidden life I want it to be way more interesting than that chocolate bar I munched the other day.
  • kmbweber2014
    kmbweber2014 Posts: 680 Member
    I do it for accountability. If I am worried someone might judge me for my food choices I probably shouldn't eat like that. But that being said If I want a burger I'll eat a burger, today I had most of a giant fish burrito and it was good. People that look at my diary know it is not the norm for me so I know they don't judge me for it.
  • judyblow
    judyblow Posts: 5 Member
    I've been on MFP since March of this year and I've lost over 70 pounds. I share my food journal because I need the accountability and I want to know that others are looking at what I'm doing. I've hit a few plateaus and had to tweak my food but it was the suggestions from my friends that helped me see the changes that needed to be made. :smile:
  • guroprincess
    guroprincess Posts: 140
    I share mine, but only with a password. It's a happy medium for me. Originally I had it all the way open, and really received some nasty comments. Then I locked it down, and a couple of people unfriended me. I told them that I had it password protected and that my nutritionist and trainer had access to it to keep me grounded. They still unfriended me. My thoughts are, if you don't have the password, there's a reason why. I still keep motivated knowing that the people that matter, who have the knowledge and have helped me set my goals and know me personally have the password. If I need to open it up for help from the "forums" I will, but frankly, the people with the knowledge are better equipped to handle my questions.
    To each their own though...

    This exactly. I know that I don't exactly eat "clean" and honestly not everyone needs to know everything. The people who I'm very close to or need to know have the password, otherwise, I see no point in opening it up to the world.

    The only person who needs to hold me accountable is me. This has always worked for me and I like it best this way. I'm not interested in commentary or criticism at this point-- I'm eating within my caloric limits and that's what's best for me. If I asked for help, I would certainly open it up though.
  • bsuew
    bsuew Posts: 628 Member
    Lots of different idea's I'm sure. I did have mine opened until a few really ugly comments about days that were shorter on calories. Some days my acid reflux and irritable stomach just can't handle anything else. So the days that I'm having issues with my digestive system, it's better to have it closed. I'm on prescription medication for both and still have flair ups. So for me it's closed. My mom taught me if I can't say anything nice keep my mouth shut lol. So closing it kept my mouth shut :laugh:
  • sympha01
    sympha01 Posts: 942 Member
    Personally, I'd think it makes more sense to keep your profile private than your diary. I've never had my diary openly judged, for what it's worth, but I kinda think, so what if someone DID?

    Also, FWIW, if I make a new friend, and then learn that the new friend keeps their diary private from friends as well as strangers, I tend to write them off immediately. Even though most of my friends have really different nutrition goals from me and from each other, it's super helpful and motivating to be closing the diary out each day for them as well as for me, and I enjoy checking in on my friends' diaries for meal planning ideas or sometimes just to say some version of "Wow, girl, I'm jealous of what you ate today!"
  • guroprincess
    guroprincess Posts: 140
    Personally, I'd think it makes more sense to keep your profile private than your diary. I've never had my diary openly judged, for what it's worth, but I kinda think, so what if someone DID?

    Also, FWIW, if I make a new friend, and then learn that the new friend keeps their diary private from friends as well as strangers, I tend to write them off immediately. Even though most of my friends have really different nutrition goals from me and from each other, it's super helpful and motivating to be closing the diary out each day for them as well as for me, and I enjoy checking in on my friends' diaries for meal planning ideas or sometimes just to say some version of "Wow, girl, I'm jealous of what you ate today!"

    You immediately write off people because they don't make the same choices as you?

    Must be fun at parties.
  • Briargrey
    Briargrey Posts: 498 Member
    Mine is private for now because I don't have a need for anyone to see it. If I were to come to the forums to request help on an issue, then yes, I would make it public, because the diary info can be critical to gaining good feedback. It's entirely up to you and how well you will react to potential comments. Just know that if you do ask for help, you will be requested to open it up.
  • Briargrey
    Briargrey Posts: 498 Member
    Personally, I'd think it makes more sense to keep your profile private than your diary. I've never had my diary openly judged, for what it's worth, but I kinda think, so what if someone DID?

    Also, FWIW, if I make a new friend, and then learn that the new friend keeps their diary private from friends as well as strangers, I tend to write them off immediately. Even though most of my friends have really different nutrition goals from me and from each other, it's super helpful and motivating to be closing the diary out each day for them as well as for me, and I enjoy checking in on my friends' diaries for meal planning ideas or sometimes just to say some version of "Wow, girl, I'm jealous of what you ate today!"

    Wow. Definitely don't friend me then. I'm not in it for the friends anyway, but I did accept a few who sent me a request. But I didn't change keeping my diary private, because it is mine. I don't think I'd ever unfriend someone just because they kept a setting different than me.
  • SkimFlatWhite68
    SkimFlatWhite68 Posts: 1,254 Member
    I'm more than happy to share my food diary. Maybe it will give others some ideas, and it keeps me accountable. I write notes explaining things if I've gone off track, thoughts and feelings about the day.

    If anyone in my friends list who reads it is judgemental, and keeps it up on a regular basis, I'll delete them as a friend, because that isn't friendship.
  • plumsparkle
    plumsparkle Posts: 203 Member
    Mine used to be open, and I had a few friends who had said they wouldn't friend anyone with a closed diary. But then they started being very judgemental, things like making sarky comment if I had eaten fast food or chocolate, even if I had stayed under my calories, telling me I needed to up my work out levels (I have fibromyalgia, and can't always work out as long or hard as I would like) and generally being quite judgemental and often downright rude, so I decided this was hard enough without that kind of criticism and closed my diary. Sure enough, every one of those "friends" unfriended me. But reading thiss thread has made me decide to open it again, but this time lose the critical 'friends' and not shut myself off from helpful comment.
    And yes, I can take constructive criticism, but a nègative or rude judgement being made every day, with no attempt to discuss why I had made that choice, and no reference to anything positive I had done is not constructive!
  • sympha01
    sympha01 Posts: 942 Member
    Personally, I'd think it makes more sense to keep your profile private than your diary. I've never had my diary openly judged, for what it's worth, but I kinda think, so what if someone DID?

    Also, FWIW, if I make a new friend, and then learn that the new friend keeps their diary private from friends as well as strangers, I tend to write them off immediately. Even though most of my friends have really different nutrition goals from me and from each other, it's super helpful and motivating to be closing the diary out each day for them as well as for me, and I enjoy checking in on my friends' diaries for meal planning ideas or sometimes just to say some version of "Wow, girl, I'm jealous of what you ate today!"

    Wow. Definitely don't friend me then. I'm not in it for the friends anyway, but I did accept a few who sent me a request. But I didn't change keeping my diary private, because it is mine. I don't think I'd ever unfriend someone just because they kept a setting different than me.

    Don't worry, I won't friend you. I'm not a friend collector either -- I really only want a few MFP friends who I can interact with meaningfully (and the ones I have turned out to be really helpful). I know there are lot of people around here who seem to be in it all for acquiring more friends they can keep up with and for the "rate the person above" you games and not especially the fitness. To each his own. You be you, girls and boys. Have fun!

    But my perspective is that this isn't a general-purpose social networking site -- it's a fitness site, and that's why I'm here. The people on my FL are not real world friends (though some of them could be). These are people I've made connections with about healthy meal planning and fitness, and the point HERE (as opposed to say, Facebook) is to share our fitness-related experience, frustrations, and accomplishments. Anyone who isn't going to be open about the eating part of it, well, I don't see how I'm going to be interacting with that person much.

    I don't know, probably some people with closed diaries have food shame issues, and while that breaks my heart a little for them, I can't help them at all. And for what it's worth, I know there are people here who are all about the physical training and aren't challenged by the food part at all. Which is fine and great for them, but I'm not really going to have a lot to talk about with that person either, because I ::personally:: am not that invested in their personal best in a tabata workout, or a 10 mile run, 2 hours on the elliptical, or whatever advanced / beyond-my-ability-to-conceive fitnessing they did today.

    So maybe it was a little harsh to say that I "write off" friends with closed diaries, but really, I do figure that these are people I'm not going to be interacting with (they're not real world friends!), and will probably be defriending after a few weeks to minimize feed clutter. I personally will choose to connect with people who are prepared to contribute to interactions that are going to be largely focussed on food: how we feel about it, different nutrition goals, how we handle planning from shopping thru meal planning and cooking, how we eat the good stuff, manage or mitigate cravings, and be good to ourselves.

    And then, we can talk dirty about food together.
  • Siansonea
    Siansonea Posts: 917 Member
    Food shame? That's a thing? Message to anyone who has it: snap out of it. No one has the right to judge anyone else because of what they eat or how much of it they eat. Being overweight or obese isn't a crime, and it doesn't make a person a "bad person" or anything stupid like that. Eating "unhealthy" isn't "wrong" either, or if it is, I don't want to be right. Some people prioritize fitness, and some people prioritize other things in life, like enjoying food. There's no right or wrong answer here folks. Do what you want, eat what you want, be as fit or un-fit as you want, and if anyone wags their finger at you, give them your middle finger. That's what I do. Life's too short for shame of any kind. Take back your power! :drinker:
  • Go4it1985
    Go4it1985 Posts: 169 Member
    PROs
    You feel more accountable as your friends may check it out
    You may receive useful feedback and advice
    If you are having a problem losing weight people may pinpoint where the "problem foods" are
    Some successful people who've lost weight may have some great diaries which you can check out and see what their foods are. You can maybe model an eating plan from that if you are just starting out.

    CONs
    You may be liable to criticism (which is wrong way for people to go about it. Gentle constructive feedback and only out of legitimate concern, not an ego thing)
    It might get annoying for some people if you have lots of friends commenting on it constantly
    It may tempt you to lie on your diary because you fear judgement (which defeats the purpose of this tool)
  • Briargrey
    Briargrey Posts: 498 Member
    Personally, I'd think it makes more sense to keep your profile private than your diary. I've never had my diary openly judged, for what it's worth, but I kinda think, so what if someone DID?

    Also, FWIW, if I make a new friend, and then learn that the new friend keeps their diary private from friends as well as strangers, I tend to write them off immediately. Even though most of my friends have really different nutrition goals from me and from each other, it's super helpful and motivating to be closing the diary out each day for them as well as for me, and I enjoy checking in on my friends' diaries for meal planning ideas or sometimes just to say some version of "Wow, girl, I'm jealous of what you ate today!"

    Wow. Definitely don't friend me then. I'm not in it for the friends anyway, but I did accept a few who sent me a request. But I didn't change keeping my diary private, because it is mine. I don't think I'd ever unfriend someone just because they kept a setting different than me.

    Don't worry, I won't friend you. I'm not a friend collector either -- I really only want a few MFP friends who I can interact with meaningfully (and the ones I have turned out to be really helpful). I know there are lot of people around here who seem to be in it all for acquiring more friends they can keep up with and for the "rate the person above" you games and not especially the fitness. To each his own. You be you, girls and boys. Have fun!

    But my perspective is that this isn't a general-purpose social networking site -- it's a fitness site, and that's why I'm here. The people on my FL are not real world friends (though some of them could be). These are people I've made connections with about healthy meal planning and fitness, and the point HERE (as opposed to say, Facebook) is to share our fitness-related experience, frustrations, and accomplishments. Anyone who isn't going to be open about the eating part of it, well, I don't see how I'm going to be interacting with that person much.

    I don't know, probably some people with closed diaries have food shame issues, and while that breaks my heart a little for them, I can't help them at all. And for what it's worth, I know there are people here who are all about the physical training and aren't challenged by the food part at all. Which is fine and great for them, but I'm not really going to have a lot to talk about with that person either, because I ::personally:: am not that invested in their personal best in a tabata workout, or a 10 mile run, 2 hours on the elliptical, or whatever advanced / beyond-my-ability-to-conceive fitnessing they did today.

    So maybe it was a little harsh to say that I "write off" friends with closed diaries, but really, I do figure that these are people I'm not going to be interacting with (they're not real world friends!), and will probably be defriending after a few weeks to minimize feed clutter. I personally will choose to connect with people who are prepared to contribute to interactions that are going to be largely focussed on food: how we feel about it, different nutrition goals, how we handle planning from shopping thru meal planning and cooking, how we eat the good stuff, manage or mitigate cravings, and be good to ourselves.

    And then, we can talk dirty about food together.

    Makes much more sense that way :) I am all about talking dirty about food, and we're probably more alike than we think <g> Anyway, thanks for the explanation!
  • sympha01
    sympha01 Posts: 942 Member
    Makes much more sense that way :) I am all about talking dirty about food, and we're probably more alike than we think <g> Anyway, thanks for the explanation!

    I've been defriended specifically for making a comment about California roll being "the missionary position of sushi" (because the person couldn't handle dirty talk, not because she was a California roll partisan) so I know it takes all kinds.
  • TiaXL
    TiaXL Posts: 31 Member
    I share mine because it is about me. I am accountable to me and all those that I let in are on the same path.
  • perfect_storm
    perfect_storm Posts: 326 Member
    It depends so you want people to be honest with you and try to help? I like any feedback, if you have a bad day most people do not slam you for it they just ask if it is a bad day if they notice you are eating like crap then they might tell you you need to pay more attention. Most people support you if you get a friend that is cruel about it...delete them they are not doing you any good but an honest friend is.
  • tapirfrog
    tapirfrog Posts: 616 Member
    I keep mine private because I have a horrible history of disordered eating. Thinking of opening my diary makes me feel pain and chaos, and I have had enough of that.

    Maybe in my next life I will be able to let others online see what I eat. For now, I just don't need the trigger.
  • brraanndi
    brraanndi Posts: 325 Member
    I share mine but i make sure that i add interesting friends, not judgy ones.
  • AlyRoseNYC
    AlyRoseNYC Posts: 1,075 Member
    I think mine is public. I don't remember ever changing it to private...I doubt there are food journal stalkers out there anyway. And if there are, it doesn't really affect me.
  • littleburgy
    littleburgy Posts: 570 Member
    I will be happy to share it if I ever have problems. But as is, I've been losing at a good pace and don't see the need to.

    I'm just weird about what I like being public and online in general. Contrary to social media trends, I don't need everyone knowing everything about what's going on in my life.
  • Ackbersingh
    Ackbersingh Posts: 22 Member
    I share mine with my friends. Having to be accountable helps me and also for advise and any constructive comments. It's also nice to see what others are eating as it gives me ideas and motivation. I've got nothing to hide, I'm not perfect I will have good and bad days. As for the 'haters' I've never taken notice of them so why should I begin now ???? in saying that I have never had any negative comments ????
  • Yooperm35
    Yooperm35 Posts: 787 Member
    I share mine - don't really care what people think about what I eat. I like to look at others who have been successful long-term in losing and keeping weight off to see what their maintenance diary looks like
  • ChazzyEvilKitty2014
    ChazzyEvilKitty2014 Posts: 64 Member
    How do you share your diet info? I have the app on my phone and I always click complete diary, although I've noticed it doesn't post if I eat under 1200 calories?
  • bumblebreezy91
    bumblebreezy91 Posts: 520 Member
    Mine is public. If I need advice, having my journal closed doesn't help me. If someone sees a post of mine and is inspired or wants some meal ideas, they can check it out. It doesn't hurt me to keep it open. Sometimes I even have McDonald's. I'm not ashamed of what I eat and nobody's negative opinion of my food choices make a difference unless I asked for advice/opinions/help. I get that people don't want to share their diaries sometimes and that's fine, but if you ask for advice from other members on the forums or in your friend group, it's rude to keep it closed--open it temporarily or the only advice you'll get is to "open your diary" and "log everything accurately" and "drink more water." What else can be said to someone who wants personalized advice but won't open their diary?

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