hooking up with the ex good or bad
Broderick50
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Ok I know this one may get locked quick. But yesterday my recent ex like 3 months ago told me she wants to be friends with benefits. Usually I'm not friends with any of my exes just not a good policy, but I'm leaning toward breaking that rule. My question is do you guys think it can be done and not get complicated and messy with our breakup being recent it will be hard to seperate feelings.
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Bad idea, IMO.
With exes the best way to recover is to go no contact and STAY no contact, for a good length of time.
If you still even have ghosts of feelings for your ex, sleeping with her is just going to fan them back up into life and then you'll be in for a world of emotional hurt. She's an ex for a reason, right?0 -
this won't end well.0
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Just say no.0
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It will probably get complicated and messy. Most things usually do. If one of you were to develop feelings and the other doesn't you're just asking for trouble.0
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Ok I know this one may get locked quick. But yesterday my recent ex like 3 months ago told me she wants to be friends with benefits. Usually I'm not friends with any of my exes just not a good policy, but I'm leaning toward breaking that rule. My question is do you guys think it can be done and not get complicated and messy with our breakup being recent it will be hard to seperate feelings.
I thought you were giving back all the gifts?
Dude, I can hardly keep up.
I did give everything back she approached me with this yesterday0 -
Not good. She's an ex for a reason.0
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Definetly will not end well if you pursue that. At all. Jealousy will ensue eventually when either yourself of herself find another partner.0
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Can it be done? Sure. But why would you want to at this point in time?0
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Bad idea, in my experience0
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Hit it and quit it!0
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Getting back with an ex isn't always complicated. Circumstance dependent.
However, being friends with benefits with an ex always is.0 -
Nope - not a good idea because you mentioned the "F" word - feelings!
Find a FWB if that's what you want but with someone else - someone you have had no previous bad history with. Just my thoughts.
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Very few FWB situations are true FWB situations. Usually there's one party secretly hoping it turns into more.0
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I completely understand the urge to accept something rather then nothing. but I think you are likely to end up worse off then when you started. there is a reason she became an ex, move on you are better than a friends with benefits kind of deal,,...
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Can it be done? Sure. But why would you want to at this point in time?
Why cause it's been 3 months since I had sex and there ain't a lot of prospects in Beckley,WV.0 -
No Way!!!
Sounds tempting but will mostly likely lead to drama.
Move on!!!0 -
Ok I know this one may get locked quick. But yesterday my recent ex like 3 months ago told me she wants to be friends with benefits. Usually I'm not friends with any of my exes just not a good policy, but I'm leaning toward breaking that rule. My question is do you guys think it can be done and not get complicated and messy with our breakup being recent it will be hard to seperate feelings.
I thought you were giving back all the gifts?
Dude, I can hardly keep up.
I did give everything back she approached me with this yesterday
is she bringing everything back?
well I sure hope she does
otherwise, it ain't flipping fair is it.
She put everything up in her house like it had been there for years but she still wears the ring I gave her.0 -
I don't think that will end well but I guess it highly depends on how y'all broke up. Can you emotionally handle the fact that you will probably not be the only one tapping that? Can she? If not then I'd stay away.
But then again, if she's a rockstar in the bed it may be worth the associated destruction derby that will probably take place. Just take care of yourself emotionally first and don't start another thread when she puts a tire iron through your front windshield when we finds out you've been exploring other options at the same time.0 -
Won't end well.
But the journey could be entertaining.
And it sounds like you're going to do it anyway, so may as well get it over with!
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Hit it and quit it!
Yeah, like THAT won't cause problems. :noway:
Like someone else said: She's an ex for a reason. Keep it that way.0 -
There are three ways this could turn out:
Option 1.
You will have these 'benefits' and both thoroughly enjoy them until one of you finds another partner. Then jealousy and problems will ensue.
Option 2:
You will have these 'benefits' and both thoroughly enjoy them until one of you suggests getting back together. One will say no, and jealousy and problems will ensue.
Option 3:
You will have these 'benefits' and both thoroughly enjoy them until one of you suggests getting back together. The other will agree, and eventually you will no doubt split for the same reasons you split the first time, until one of you suggests being 'friends with benefits'.0 -
Are you...no you are aren't...MAN Rule # 1 She is an ex for a reason, never go back.0
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Can it be done? Sure. But why would you want to at this point in time?
Why cause it's been 3 months since I had sex and there ain't a lot of prospects in Beckley,WV.
Dude... keep looking, seriously. This is the express train to heartache. 3 months isn't so bad.0 -
Bad idea, IMO.
With exes the best way to recover is to go no contact and STAY no contact, for a good length of time.
If you still even have ghosts of feelings for your ex, sleeping with her is just going to fan them back up into life and then you'll be in for a world of emotional hurt. She's an ex for a reason, right?
^^^ All of this. Go get a different friend with benefits. There are plenty of girls that like sex, they just can't announce it the way that guys do.0 -
Can it be done? Sure. But why would you want to at this point in time?
Why cause it's been 3 months since I had sex and there ain't a lot of prospects in Beckley,WV.
Dude... keep looking, seriously. This is the express train to heartache. 3 months isn't so bad.
when you were used to 3 times a day for the last year 3 months is awful0
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