i need to start from the VERY beginning

jbug5j
jbug5j Posts: 277 Member
i have no routine. i have many tools but i dont use them. i do for a few days then get to thinking "whats the point this never worked before" or some bs like that. i NEED to start SOMETHING from the very beginning. small at first. very small. then work up to tired and sore. i need to develop a habbit. does anyone have any suggestions? ideas. ANYTHING!? im desperate.
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  • rrsuthy
    rrsuthy Posts: 236 Member
    What are your goals? What do you LIKE to do?

    If you don't want to do any of the thinking (and that's not an insult), then someone like Jillian Michaels would be good for you. She has the 30 day shred programs and she tells you exactly what to do.

    Cindi Whitmarsh has some great programs as does Jessica Smith.

    Body for Life is great, but you have to like to lift weights.

    Billy Blanks has a great 30 day starter program.
  • firstjog11
    firstjog11 Posts: 58 Member
    I get that way when I work out alone. The biggest thing for me is finding a workout "buddy". That keeps me getting up in the morning and doing my workout, because someone is waiting for me. My hubby and kids don't make good workout partners for me, it's too easy to say, we'll do it tomorrow. Find a coworker, friend, neighbor, or even just another person at the gym to team up with. Good luck!
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1138633-14-pounds-in-4-months-in-the-wrong-direction

    Start logging your calories every day. Even if you don't feel like it. Even if you are over.

    Drink more water.


    #EatLess
    #MoveMore.

    It's simple. Do that every day, and you will get there. Look within yourself, we can't help you, if you don't help yourself.
  • mahanaibu
    mahanaibu Posts: 505 Member
    I'm not sure whether you are talking about diet, exercise or both. If it's diet, I would highly recommend investing in a couple of sessions with a nutritionist. Have him or her help you figure out, using foods you like, what sort of day of eating works for you.

    Beyond that, log your food every day. That shows you what works and what doesn't, to add up to the calorie goal that MFP has given you. Try to eat healthy, unprocessed foods, with plenty of vegetables and fruits. If there's one habit to develop, it's the daily logging of foods. It's too easy otherwise to pretend we're not eating all that much, or to fall away from the whole effort.
  • minizebu
    minizebu Posts: 2,716 Member
    Are you at home now, or at work?

    If you are at home, then put down the computer, go to your treadmill, get on it, and walk for five minutes at 3mph. Do it now please.

    Not at home? Then either now (if possible) or at your next break, get up and walk around the interior or exterior of your building for five minutes.

    Five minutes is not a lot. You can do it. Then, later, do another five minutes. Give yourself permission to do only five minutes at a time. It may not seem like you are doing much, but it is more energy than you would expend sitting at the computer lamenting your situation over the Internet.

    Get up, get moving. Even just for five minutes. You will feel better. Keep this up for a few days. Then challenge yourself to do just a little bit more. Then build on that.
  • jbug5j
    jbug5j Posts: 277 Member
    werent u just whinning in another post that you were depressed and lazy and stopped your meds and would "do it later" ?

    I belive the advice you got was to seek professional help?

    I think that advice best applies. Fix the inside and the outside will follow.

    no i was not whining. i was posting on a community site looking for help and support because this is hard. and i NEVER once said i was lazy. so thank you very much.
  • What kind of "tools" do you have? Do you have any exercise equipment? One of my best investments was a good, quality recumbent bike. Like you, I find myself growing bored very quickly if I'm on a machine with nothing to occupy my brain. So I take my Kindle with me and I read or listen to music or watch a movie while I'm pedaling. It makes the time fly by, and before I know it, I'm done! Another favorite way to get exercise is to turn on Pandora, find an upbeat station (one of my faves is Bollywood Workout!) and just KEEP MOVING for 20 minutes. I don't do any fancy dance moves, I just do simple marching, side-steps, kicks, anything else that feels fun. The key is to stay moving! 20 minutes a day; that's my bottom-line minimum for exercise. I try to think of it like brushing my teeth; it's not an option, it's a must-do for my health. If you'd like to check out my weight loss blog (the good, bad, and ugly!) you can find it at www.vickyfountain.com :)
  • quamsi
    quamsi Posts: 13
    This is my third go. FIrst time I did weightwatchers and did okay but quickly got bored with it. Next time I did MFP and went hard-core from the beginning. I went low-carb, exercised hard and ate right. And gave up after a month. Too much for me. I crashed and gained back the weight plus 10 in a few months. I am back and taking it very slow. First item of business was to break the soda and fast food addiction, without stressing too much over exercise and other foods. 30 days soda-free now and NONE of the stress I had before. After another 30 days, I'll add in a little extra exercise. My end goal is the same as it was the other two times. But this time I am just taking baby steps. Sure, I'm eating my previously forbidden white bread and even snacking on junk here and there, but I'm mostly staying under my calorie goal. And just cutting soda from my body was a big health-step.

    So, yeah. I think you can do it. Feel free to friend me if you'd like. :)
  • Slrajr
    Slrajr Posts: 438 Member
    Step one: track everything you eat.
  • jbug5j
    jbug5j Posts: 277 Member
    This is my third go. FIrst time I did weightwatchers and did okay but quickly got bored with it. Next time I did MFP and went hard-core from the beginning. I went low-carb, exercised hard and ate right. And gave up after a month. Too much for me. I crashed and gained back the weight plus 10 in a few months. I am back and taking it very slow. First item of business was to break the soda and fast food addiction, without stressing too much over exercise and other foods. 30 days soda-free now and NONE of the stress I had before. After another 30 days, I'll add in a little extra exercise. My end goal is the same as it was the other two times. But this time I am just taking baby steps. Sure, I'm eating my previously forbidden white bread and even snacking on junk here and there, but I'm mostly staying under my calorie goal. And just cutting soda from my body was a big health-step.

    So, yeah. I think you can do it. Feel free to friend me if you'd like. :)

    i definately could start there. i did give up soda once. i went a whole year without it. lol i even had dreams about drinking soda i missed it so much. now i have a mountain dew almost every time i work ( i work at save a lot) i could stop getting those. :) good advice. :)
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    Step one: track everything you eat.

    These are not the answers she's looking for.
  • jbug5j
    jbug5j Posts: 277 Member
    Step one: track everything you eat.

    These are not the answers she's looking for.

    (dork moment)
    these aren't the droids you are looking for
  • likehemingway
    likehemingway Posts: 37 Member
    werent u just whinning in another post that you were depressed and lazy and stopped your meds and would "do it later" ?

    I belive the advice you got was to seek professional help?

    I think that advice best applies. Fix the inside and the outside will follow.

    That was VERY rude. This girl is looking for help, not rudeness.
  • obum88
    obum88 Posts: 262 Member
    The hardest part is diet so start there.
  • Are you at home now, or at work?

    If you are at home, then put down the computer, go to your treadmill, get on it, and walk for five minutes at 3mph. Do it now please.

    Not at home? Then either now (if possible) or at your next break, get up and walk around the interior or exterior of your building for five minutes.

    Five minutes is not a lot. You can do it. Then, later, do another five minutes. Give yourself permission to do only five minutes at a time. It may not seem like you are doing much, but it is more energy than you would expend sitting at the computer lamenting your situation over the Internet.

    Get up, get moving. Even just for five minutes. You will feel better. Keep this up for a few days. Then challenge yourself to do just a little bit more. Then build on that.

    These are great points! Even though I ride my indoor bike every night, I'm still sitting on my butt most of the day at work. So anytime I go to the bathroom during the day, I do a quick set of marches, kicks, and hip twists in the bathroom. It only takes a minute or so, but it wakes up my muscles and feels great! Every little bit counts!
  • TeaBea
    TeaBea Posts: 14,517 Member
    This is my third go. FIrst time I did weightwatchers and did okay but quickly got bored with it. Next time I did MFP and went hard-core from the beginning. I went low-carb, exercised hard and ate right. And gave up after a month. Too much for me. I crashed and gained back the weight plus 10 in a few months. I am back and taking it very slow. First item of business was to break the soda and fast food addiction, without stressing too much over exercise and other foods. 30 days soda-free now and NONE of the stress I had before. After another 30 days, I'll add in a little extra exercise. My end goal is the same as it was the other two times. But this time I am just taking baby steps. Sure, I'm eating my previously forbidden white bread and even snacking on junk here and there, but I'm mostly staying under my calorie goal. And just cutting soda from my body was a big health-step.

    So, yeah. I think you can do it. Feel free to friend me if you'd like. :)

    i definately could start there. i did give up soda once. i went a whole year without it. lol i even had dreams about drinking soda i missed it so much. now i have a mountain dew almost every time i work ( i work at save a lot) i could stop getting those. :) good advice. :)

    One healthy decision at a time.....baby steps, trying to change everything at once is overwhelming.

    Re: exercise. Add something simple. My "no brainer" exercise is Leslie Sansone Walk at Home..... low impact, doesn't require equipment or a bunch of space. I just pop in a DVD (from Wal-Mart, Target, etc) and move. If the weather is bad....I still have no excuse.

    Here's a free You-Tube video by Jessica Smith (these are authorized)....but similar to Leslie

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s4IH12Piuf4

    Re: eating habits. Do you eat many veggies? I was someone who liked veggies, but rarely ate them! I added a serving of veggies everyday. Then I looked at breakfast. I ate sugary cereal.....I found whole grain (lower sugar) cereal that was much more filling.

    Just make one change......then another, then another. THIS is what establishes habits.
  • jbug5j
    jbug5j Posts: 277 Member
    Are you at home now, or at work?

    If you are at home, then put down the computer, go to your treadmill, get on it, and walk for five minutes at 3mph. Do it now please.

    done :flowerforyou:
  • nklp
    nklp Posts: 62 Member
    werent u just whinning in another post that you were depressed and lazy and stopped your meds and would "do it later" ?

    What a nasty piece of work. Having depressing is different to being 'depressed and lazy'. It's a genuine illness and something which kills people. She's brilliant for having the courage to reach out to others for support and for joining a support group like MFP.
  • nklp
    nklp Posts: 62 Member
    Are you at home now, or at work?

    If you are at home, then put down the computer, go to your treadmill, get on it, and walk for five minutes at 3mph. Do it now please.

    done :flowerforyou:

    And now do another five!! You can do it!
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  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    i have no routine. i have many tools but i dont use them. i do for a few days then get to thinking "whats the point this never worked before" or some bs like that. i NEED to start SOMETHING from the very beginning. small at first. very small. then work up to tired and sore. i need to develop a habbit. does anyone have any suggestions? ideas. ANYTHING!? im desperate.

    I see you've lost some weight, so you are doing something correctly. Just take the weight loss in small increments, accurately log in all food and exercise, weigh all solid foods and measure liquid foods, and just see where your downfalls are. Change your eating habits accordingly so that you net the required calories, which means eating back your exercise calories if you choose to exercise.

    The first few weeks I started logging in food and exercise, I did it just to get an idea of what I was eating. I tell you, I went over my calorie count every day! I didn't gain weight, but I certainly didn't lose either. Then, I just made the decision to get back into my old clothes again. I made that decision because if I gained any more weight I would have to go clothes shopping, and I HATE to shop for clothes. I really do.
  • lrmall01
    lrmall01 Posts: 377 Member
    This is going to sound a little bit corny, but I think you should really consider some type of journal or maybe using the blog feature here to get down your reasons for wanting to lose weight, get fit, etc.

    It doesn't sound like your problem is really knowing what to do, but more on the side of wanting to do it. Honestly anything will be temporary until you really have a reason. For me it was having kids and wanting to be able to keep up with them.

    You should spend some time soul searching in order to understand why you really want to make any kind of change. Reading some books and blogs on positive outlook, self motivation, etc. would probably be better for you than a fitness book at this point. Actually, if you can get your hands on a copy of Tom Venuto's "Body Fat Solution" book, it covers both bases really well. He probably spends at least a third of the book or maybe half talking about the mental aspect of fitness.

    And while I do agree the other commenter wasn't exactly tactful in the way they mentioned your medication and depression, I think the advice was sound. If medication needs to be part of the process make sure you are getting professional help.

    Best of luck to you.
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    Never mind. :)
  • c1aireee
    c1aireee Posts: 269 Member
    I am indoors all day and I like to do blogilates u could even just do 1 video a day to start also I just do a lot of walking even just round the house! I bought a pedometer and it helps to show just walking around he house burns a lot at the end if the day!
  • CharChary
    CharChary Posts: 220 Member
    You need a plan! Goals for every day. I started looking at it as a day-by-day thing. Focused on just getting through the day with simple goals: workout today for 45 minutes, stay under my calorie limit, etc. it started to go from daily, to weekly, to monthly and i started seeing change! You just need a plan and to stick with it. I also created the "no excuse," rule in my head for eating/working out. It is basically just a way to get my butt in the gym without making those usual excuses like "what's the point, i won't stick with this...etc."

    you have to believe in yourself/push yourself. Don't wait around for motivation: create it.

    end cheesiness ;) it's true though!
  • jbug5j
    jbug5j Posts: 277 Member
    thank you all for you suggestions and support (from here and my other post) i will keep trying and hopefully i can post back on here when ive lost a few pounds :D
  • What sort of workout do you like to do? I have tried a lot of different plans and it is hard to find one that you like and want to stay with!
  • Love this!
  • In 2011 I was introduced to a new program that included tracking. Tracking works for me. I love to see that I've exercised more and eaten less calories and then it shows up on the scale. Unfortunately, I'm also the person who thinks this is a temporary solution and I can do this by myself. I can't. I'm back to tracking food and exercise because I know it works. I'm 57 years old and have been overweight and under exercised my entire life and I keep working at it. Then, yesterday I saw where a 63 year old woman lost 250 lbs. I'm thinking that if she can do it, I can do it, I only have 100 lbs. to lose. She did not require surgery to remove excessive skin, but she did have to change her eating and exercise and more importantly, she had to change her mind. I think I'll add that to my program, a change of mind. Good luck to you, find all the help you can, love yourself and know I'll keep you in mind when I'm having a tough time and get thru it thinking about you and sending you good thoughts.
  • grr83sharon
    grr83sharon Posts: 2 Member
    minizebu, I love your reply. It's perfect. I'm actually in the same boat that jbug is. Except that I'll admit I am lazy. My husband never wants to work out with me and we'll find any excuse to eat out. So I need to exercise on my own. I have no 'fat friends' so if I do find a work out buddy, they're all fit while I'm near death huffing and puffing. I have self esteem issues to go to the gym (I know I know, I need to work on that). So Minizebu, I love that you said just walk for 5 minutes a day. After what did they say, 66 days (I know for regular stuff it's much shorter but when it comes to exercise it's around there) it becomes a habit. Now to just get off my tush and move!