One Night Stand - Liberating or shameful?

thxo
thxo Posts: 107 Member
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I am just curious to see people's opinion on a semi-controversial topic like one night stands. My fitness pal has quite the amount of diversity in terms of geographic regions, age, ethnicity, etc. So, what is your standpoint? Yay or nay for a one time love affair?
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  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    Nvm.
  • RN514
    RN514 Posts: 1,107 Member
    Not for me.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    friend request sent
  • Sovictorrious
    Sovictorrious Posts: 770 Member
    friend request sent


    I thought you said you were deactivating after our one night stand?????
  • _Emma_Problema_
    _Emma_Problema_ Posts: 261 Member
    Neither. Stupid question.

    Also, context.
  • 1989lukemyers
    1989lukemyers Posts: 158 Member
    Just no, we all have a Build in moral compass, we all have it..yet clearly some peoples have been demagnetised.

    We are meant to find a partner and be loyal and love them and show them respect pretty simple how can you do that in one nite... Don't do it, be happy within yourself learn to love yourself and then your find a nice guy whom will share his world with yours

    Only have time for one love in this short life so make it special all grow old and be lonely bed hoping

    But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy
  • the_jinxster
    the_jinxster Posts: 63
    Gross
  • biggie_smalls20
    biggie_smalls20 Posts: 56
    Conversate for a few, cause in a few, we gon' do
    What we came to do, ain't that right boo? (true)

    Forget the telly, we just go to the crib
    And watch a movie in the jacuzzi, smoke L's while you do meeee
  • eric_sg61
    eric_sg61 Posts: 2,925 Member
    Nobody cares who you're going to bang OP, just do what your gonna do and don"t worry what others think.
  • dcarr67
    dcarr67 Posts: 1,403
    I am just a big double standard...lol It was fine when I was young but I sure wouldnt want my 18 or 16 year old kid to do it.
  • _Emma_Problema_
    _Emma_Problema_ Posts: 261 Member

    But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy

    Exactly. Apparently not the difference between "know" and "no" or "right" and "rite". Also, sex is not a moral issue unless you're discussing consent.
  • Dogwalkingirl
    Dogwalkingirl Posts: 320 Member
    If you are single, confident (not a person doing it to feel loved, or feel pressured etc), careful by using protection then.... to each their own. I am in a committed relationship with a WONDERFUL person but I have single friends who have one night stands...sometimes there are complications, other times not. You only live once!
  • FatHuMan1
    FatHuMan1 Posts: 1,028 Member
    Whatever floats your goat.

    Personally when I was single I had a few. Neither liberating nor shameful, unless you count the liberation of billions of mini me's.

    As far as the sex goes it wasn't nearly as good as long term relationship sex.


    Oh and IBTL.
  • plaingirly
    plaingirly Posts: 378
    I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.

    I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    Not for me, but what others do doesn't matter to me. I would advise friends and family who do so to take safety cautions.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Awesome if it's something you're comfortable with, lousy if you end up feeling bad about it after. Definitely something individual for each person.
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.

    I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
    This. You said it better than I could lol. At least "nicer" than I would have said it.
  • A_nonymous2
    A_nonymous2 Posts: 366 Member
    Regret is a useless emotion. If you do it, understand the rules, it's not love, and enjoy it for what it is. if you don't do it, you don't get that experience. You need to figure it out. I also suspect you're getting a few FR outta this.
  • biggie_smalls20
    biggie_smalls20 Posts: 56
    I bang hunnies all day.....just hit the PEN VK and you good boo!
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    I think the real question is, "Was it good for you?"
  • rhodria
    rhodria Posts: 7
    Do whatever you're comfortable with. It's no one else's business but yours.
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    Never had one, but I am not against it.
    I don't impose any rules on myself when it comes to sex (like no one night stands, no sex on first dates, etc). I like having it happen naturally. I've had sex the next day, and I've had sex after 6 months. It all depends.
    If you want a one night stand, by all means go ahead and have one. Just be very careful who you take home with you. And condoms.
  • new_bella
    new_bella Posts: 199 Member
    Too meaningless...not for me.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member

    But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy

    Exactly. Apparently not the difference between "know" and "no" or "right" and "rite". Also, sex is not a moral issue unless you're discussing consent.

    Context, like when grandpa pulls out the old sextant

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  • JaxDemon
    JaxDemon Posts: 403 Member
    Depends on the circumstances surrounding the need to have one. If you don't want to be attached to anyone and you just want to get laid then nothing to be shameful about. If you are in a relationship and you have one to fill a void that's missing in your relationship then you should be ashamed.

    So many scenarios though but I don't think people should be ashamed unless they are cheating on a current partner because you are actually going out of your way to hurt someone even if you think you are not.
  • IwearBatmanUndies
    IwearBatmanUndies Posts: 324
    contrary to popular belief,Im against it. Im old fashioned-:ohwell:
  • Dogwalkingirl
    Dogwalkingirl Posts: 320 Member
    Just no, we all have a Build in moral compass, we all have it..yet clearly some peoples have been demagnetised.

    We are meant to find a partner and be loyal and love them and show them respect pretty simple how can you do that in one nite... Don't do it, be happy within yourself learn to love yourself and then your find a nice guy whom will share his world with yours

    Only have time for one love in this short life so make it special all grow old and be lonely bed hoping

    But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy


    I think we are ment to do a lot more in the life then "find a partner and be loyal" Also, why do we only have time for one love in this short life? I have been fortunate enough to love many people! I feel most strongly about my partner now and I have chosen to be with only him now. However I am super glad I have a past and have met many others I cared for.

    Everyone has their own views of course!
  • _Emma_Problema_
    _Emma_Problema_ Posts: 261 Member
    I'm an old fashioned girl so it wouldn't be something I would engage in.

    I am not sure it is all that safe either - strangers and diseases etc.
    This. You said it better than I could lol. At least "nicer" than I would have said it.

    They're called condoms. Also, people who are married and in relationships can give each other diseases too.

    I also don't see how their safety makes them either liberating or shameful.
  • 1989lukemyers
    1989lukemyers Posts: 158 Member

    But hey just one guys thoughts what do I no just some guy

    Exactly. Apparently not the difference between "know" and "no" or "right" and "rite". Also, sex is not a moral issue unless you're discussing consent.


    Oh dear, hope you can accept my deepest apologies, for my senselessness and my lack of education in the text, but suffering from dyslexia (which is one hard word to spell when one is haha) I hope you can look past this and be able to live and over come my mistakes :)

    So anyway I would take a guess to say your one of them whom believe it's liberating then?... ;)
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    Have had a few before the hubs showed up. As long as it's between consenting adults, I have no issue with it.
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