Sexting

I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.

It's not about catching anything or getting pregnant. It's the interaction. There is no interaction with another person with porn or reading.

If your wife/girlfriend/significant other is ok with it, cool. If not, and you need to hide it, it's cheating. As soon as you have to hide, something is wrong.

Ding ding ding! Exactly.

Would you be ok if your partner found out? Would they be ok that you're doing that? Would you be ok with it if they did it? This is what people have to think about. If both of you are open and relaxed about sexting, then go ahead. Some people don't see it as an issue, most people do.

For me, I don't think I'd see it as a deal breaker as would physically being with someone else, but I do think it's very disrespectful. I wouldn't be happy at all. It would depend on the type of relationship we have, how serious we are and how much trust I have in them as to whether I'd continue the relationship.

I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.

50 Shades of Grey is a (terrible, lousy, horrible) novel about imaginary people. If you're sending sexual texts to a real, live person, you are doing something wrong.

Are you telling me you wouldn't be hurt if you found out your SO was doing that?

I would not be hurt by my SO reading smut or watching porn. I would be hurt by him sending sexual text mssages, e-mails, private messages, whatever, to another woman.

just be safe folks

Anything you have to hide is cheating. From an email to a phone call, to meeting in a hotel room. Out of a relationship, or within agreed bounds of a relationship, carry on.

THIS! THIS! And THIS!

If you are hiding something, then there is a reason you are hiding it, and that reason is because you know it's not right. There should be no secrets between partners in life....should be fully open and honest with each other.

I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.

50 Shades of Grey is a (terrible, lousy, horrible) novel about imaginary people. If you're sending sexual texts to a real, live person, you are doing something wrong.

Are you telling me you wouldn't be hurt if you found out your SO was doing that?

I would not be hurt by my SO reading smut or watching porn. I would be hurt by him sending sexual text mssages, e-mails, private messages, whatever, to another woman.

I would agree sexting is with real live people that you have meet in order to get their number. Porn whatever shoot I will watch it with you it's not real you don't know anyone in the video. I would say if as a couple you agreed that it is okay have at it, but if your hiding it don't do it will ruin a relationship for sure in many ways.

I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.

50 Shades of Grey is a (terrible, lousy, horrible) novel about imaginary people. If you're sending sexual texts to a real, live person, you are doing something wrong.

Are you telling me you wouldn't be hurt if you found out your SO was doing that?

I would not be hurt by my SO reading smut or watching porn. I would be hurt by him sending sexual text mssages, e-mails, private messages, whatever, to another woman.

I would agree sexting is with real live people that you have meet in order to get their number. Porn whatever shoot I will watch it with you it's not real you don't know anyone in the video. I would say if as a couple you agreed that it is okay have at it, but if your hiding it don't do it will ruin a relationship for sure in many ways.

Yes. I forgot to add that if you've agreed as a couple it's OK that it's fine. In my relationship, it is not OK.

Anything you have to hide is cheating.

*Pushes Kit Kat wrappers under couch*

I have no idea what you are talking about honey.

:laugh:

Its just fantasizing, not acting...

WRONG. it IS acting, in concert with another (hopefully willing) participant. elements of fantasy are present in this scenario, but it goes WAY beyond fantasy when another person is actively involved. fantasy is in your head. the moment you open your mouth (or your phone) to share your fantasy with someone else (no matter who it is), you are outside your own head, and are no longer in the realm of pure 'fantasy'--you have entered the realm of action.

is it wrong to share your fantasies with ppl besides your (committed, monogamous) partner? idk. i'll let everyone decide that for themselves.

If you have to ask "should my significant other know about this" then its probably a bad idea. Just sayn.