Feeling really let down

You're getting a lot of the same advice- really good advice. Don't get frustrated.. take your time, and keep at it. You WILL see the results! Put in the hard work, and it'll pay off! :-)

Cut out most of the junk (I looked at your food diary) and weigh your food (don't eye ball and be honest in your diary). Try using a heart rate monitor when you exercise (mfp is just an estimate of cals burnt). Drink 2 litres of water a day. Come back in two weeks and report your progress.

^^^^ this. I too looked at a few of your food diary days and I see way way too much junk foods/snacks, high carbed foods, fast foods, pre-cooked foods.

If you really want to lose weight, you need to cut back on the junk, start making your foods from scratch, that way you know exactly what you are eating. I am not saying you can't have a small bag of chips, cheese puffs, candy etc. Just have one a day, not 5-10.

If you really want to lose weight, then you need to change your eating habits. Those habits are what got you where you are today, so do you really think you can lose weight by eating all the same foods you did to get where you are today????

I've just had a look at your diary and you eat s**t. Sorry I don't have any other way of putting it.

You tend to skip breakfast and lunch and make up by snacking on rubbish. 3 packs of crisps a day are 500cals, bottle of coke, mcdonalds, chocolate. This is the stuff that got you fat! Hello!!!!

Start by having breakfast and replace those sugary snacks with fruit.

Its been a week - you really need to think much more long term or you will give up! I haven't lost on the scales for 2 months, dropped a dress size tho, lots of inches and my fitness has gone through the roof - don't be ruled by the scales. What have you really learned or achieved this week?

To all the people thinking I WANT to give up for real, you don't know my situation. I do not want to give up for real, I just felt like that at the time. I have lost 20 pounds doing another thing, slimming world, which wasn't working anymore. I've done more work over the last two years losing weight than you probably have. I am sick of going through not losing weight each week. sick of it. losing weight for me, when I'm good at staying under calories, etc, is still really hard obviously. Some people on here have a really negative attitude. Who do you think you are telling me that I'm 'not ready' for MFP. That is so rude. And talking about turds is really gross. I don't like that.

READ the advice given and give it a try. To be honest looking at your food diary I would not say you've been trying really hard, its been one week and there was fast food in there a lot.

EXCUSE ME?! For you information, I have Mcdonalds TWICE a month. I have 5 other people in the house. My parents and 3 siblings. We used to have Mcdonalds EVERY WEEK. And I rarely have burger king, it's rare I even have takeaway twice in a week, as I said I only have it once a fortnight usually. It so happened my parents wanted it when we were out shopping. And that was the £3 pound meal. a downsized meal. Very similar to a happy meal. I could of easily had a full meal if I wanted but I did not. Have you bothered to see that actually I have done so much exercise this week, stayed UNDER my calories? And WHAT is so wrong with not being so healthy? I still ate a lot of fruit, Most of the week I had healthy meals for dinner. That night I had SFC chicken, was because my mum was cooking it for the rest of my family, and I only had 10 pieces of chicken and a handful of chips. Yet again, I ended up putting that within my calories. It is only my first week, and you are not an angel yourself, so give me a break. You don't know my story. Leave me alone. If you are not going to be supportive, leave me alone. It is my first week.

You don't need to justify yourself to me, you know in your heart what is true.

1. Don't make a post if you don't want responses.

2. Also, looking at your diary, you have 1-2 meals a day (nothing nutritious) and then eat most of your calories in snacks all day. Where's the proper food?!

If you eat better quality food (not McDonalds for lunch and then snacking all day long on crisps and junk) and eat proper meals, you're going to be fuller for longer and less likely to snack.

To all the people thinking I WANT to give up for real, you don't know my situation. I do not want to give up for real, I just felt like that at the time. I have lost 20 pounds doing another thing, slimming world, which wasn't working anymore. I've done more work over the last two years losing weight than you probably have. I am sick of going through not losing weight each week. sick of it. losing weight for me, when I'm good at staying under calories, etc, is still really hard obviously. Some people on here have a really negative attitude. Who do you think you are telling me that I'm 'not ready' for MFP. That is so rude. And talking about turds is really gross. I don't like that.

Any new exercise regime, will cause your body to reserve more water temporarily for muscle repair. This generally drops away within a week or two. Don't worry, keep going.

Make sure you:

1) are eating enough to support the activity level you are undertaking (ie your deficit is moderate)

2) are accurately logging both your food and exercise burns

3) give yourself a couple of months.

Make one change: don't eat your exercise calories back. Again, you may not be burning what the data base says. If you make ONE change, make that one and see what happens (and water). Keep dancing and walking.

Additionaly I wouldn't record "going to shops and back" and "vacuuming" as exercise and I am not sure what "dawdling around" is but don't record it. Generally I wouldn't enter activities that you would anyway do. You did all theses things before too and it didn't stop you from gaining weight.

If you want to lose weight and more importantly keep it off really think about what you're eating. Your diary seems to be crips, crisp a few more crips and some crackers! You say others are negative yet all you're doing is moaning! I'm sorry but if you really want to lose weight and want to keep it off you need to change your habits. You can eat what you're eating, stay with in calorie goal and lose weight undoubtedly but the second you stop tracking you'll pile it all back on plus some. I know - I'm talking from my own experience. I still eat stuff I like but less of it and less often, I've switched full size chocolate bars for treat size, large packets of Haribo for small. I make sure most of my calories most of the time come from veg & lean meat and I drink gallons of water a day (and no full sugar soda!). I have a diet I can stick to forever and the weight is coming off slowly but constantly (and is actually coming off quicker than it went on at the moment!). I hit the gym 5-6 times a week and am fitter now than I've probably ever been which at 41 years old and still obese is a depressing indictment of how unfit I was!).

Weigh, measure and track everything. Be honest with yourself - the rest of us ultimately don't have a vested interest in your success or failure, so if you lie in your diary, or guess weights thoe only person you're hurting is yourself. If you really want to lose weight stop looking for quick fixes, reasons to get the hump with others and all the other excuses you are using to block yourself. The mental change and gaining self-responsibility is a big part of this weight loss thing! If you want to do this you can. This may seem harsh but from what you're writing here I see myself even up to last year and it doesn't work. Good luck

To all the people thinking I WANT to give up for real, you don't know my situation. I do not want to give up for real, I just felt like that at the time. I have lost 20 pounds doing another thing, slimming world, which wasn't working anymore. I've done more work over the last two years losing weight than you probably have. I am sick of going through not losing weight each week. sick of it. losing weight for me, when I'm good at staying under calories, etc, is still really hard obviously. Some people on here have a really negative attitude. Who do you think you are telling me that I'm 'not ready' for MFP. That is so rude. And talking about turds is really gross. I don't like that.

Okay, I was nice the first time.

You are full of excuses and looking to put the blame elsewhere. FYI, turds really can weigh more than 2lbs, and that's not gross unless you're a child - it's just a fact you need to consider. Chores are not exercise either - they're part of the calculated calorie intake you're given, so don't record them and use them to justify eating more.

Quit the whining, woe is me nonsense, and don't get angry when people tell you to be realistic. Time to start being an adult and take some responsibility.

Cut out most of the junk (I looked at your food diary) and weigh your food (don't eye ball and be honest in your diary). Try using a heart rate monitor when you exercise (mfp is just an estimate of cals burnt). Drink 2 litres of water a day. Come back in two weeks and report your progress.

^^^^ this. I too looked at a few of your food diary days and I see way way too much junk foods/snacks, high carbed foods, fast foods, pre-cooked foods.

If you really want to lose weight, you need to cut back on the junk, start making your foods from scratch, that way you know exactly what you are eating. I am not saying you can't have a small bag of chips, cheese puffs, candy etc. Just have one a day, not 5-10.

If you really want to lose weight, then you need to change your eating habits. Those habits are what got you where you are today, so do you really think you can lose weight by eating all the same foods you did to get where you are today????

SIGH. You do know that I live in a family with 5 other people? 3 are kids. I spent a long time eating healthy. I even cut out my treat night now. That was difficult for me. You people look at my food diary. Then you fail to see how much exercise I do. I'm pretty damn active. You do know back in the olden days, they used to drink full fat milk blah blah. They stayed thin through exercise. And I am doing a very large amount of it. I do know I need to change it to healthier. But it's very hard for me to get back on that track. I love my savoury food, and ever since little I have loved crisps.

Excuses.

I could say that I am 35, have 2 kids, work full time, have a 2 hour total commute to work each day, have a fused big toe that limits my mobility, blah, blah, blah, blah....I STILL work out 4-6 times per week. I still watch what I eat (I don't really log much as I don't need to right now). I get it, I honestly do. I was you once. I thought I could do it with little effort. You have excuses and if you don't see them as that then you aren't going to try to find ways to still do it without using them. Yes, some of us have been pretty harsh on you, and I apologize. You seem to just need some type of wake up call that you need to change a few more things to be as successful as you seem to want to be.

I was hoping I would have a large water loss the first week, but instead, it took me two weeks to lose 1 pound. But then things got a little better!!!