Parents who have lost a child.

Hello. I've never posted on here before but feel I must in response to your very sad post. I'm so sorry for your loss. Words are very difficult to come by as I've been in a very similar situation myself 18 years ago with my second daughter when she was only 8 days old. Fortunately for us the outcome was a positive one and so I can only begin to imagine your loss. However, the stress of giving her mouth to mouth etc, the ambulance ride, the waiting in another room and praying as hard as I've ever prayed in my life, and all the other things that you mention immediately preceding your loss I have experienced. It took me around 8 years to come to terms with this experience. Not only have you lost your angel but you will most likely have to deal with these additional feelings too. Our daughter has mild cerebral palsy and we don't know whether this is linked to this event early in her life. My husband, who gave mouth to mouth for 13 minutes before the ambulance got to us, took a very long time to come to terms with what he had to do and how this affected the outcome. What I'm trying to say in a very ungainly way is that I would imagine that not only have you got to grieve for your daughter but you will have to come to terms with the 'emergency' situation too. And I suppose I'm also trying to say that it will take a very long time indeed. I feel so guilty when the outcome for others is not the same as ours. I truly am so sorry for you. I will hold you in my prayers and I hope that you can find strength from your family and friends to get through the days that lie ahead.

I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry.

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My heart is genuinely aching for you, I am so sorry for what you have gone through. It is cruel and unfair, and I am sending all my love and thoughts to you and your family. X

your baby will continue to live as long as you keep her in your heart. I have lost and I keep her close, it was 9 years ago, breast cancer.
There is never a day I dont think about her and remember all the good times..............I keep her in Spirit, and our memories live as welll

I will pray you find the way , don't be afraid to ask for help, even professional.........

Again, please accept my condolensces................LLoyd

I lost my 14 month old daughter October 19th to a malignant brain tumor. It did not come suddenly, and I don't know if it gets any easier, but my heart goes out to you.

i am so sorry for what you have lost, and that your daughter is not with you now.
what a horrible, horrible tragedy.

I would urge you to seek out a support group thru a local hospital, or ask hospice, or call anyone who may be able to refer you to a counselor that specializes in grief. you need support and guidance *right now*, and you will continue to over the coming days, weeks and months.

I have lost two babies, both at birth, both stillborn, 9 and 5 years ago. the acute pain that you feel will lesson, but you will never forgot the pain of losing them, and you will never feel whole again. you are a changed person now. and while you will never forget the pain of their loss, you will never forget her, she will always and forever be your daughter and you will find ways of living without her. parents survive the loss of a child... when you scratch the surface, you realize that there are many of us out there, all surviving.

people are very uncomfortable with death in general, and especially with the death of a child. they may say stupid, terribly inappropriate and irrelevant things to you, trying to be helpful. ignore the bad things- people can be so dense and downright mean. grieve how you need to. this just happened and you are probably in a shock period. the stages of grief are tried and true, they come and go in waves, in different order, and in different intensities... you just have to go thru it.

please find a grief counselor, or someone who you trust who can listen to you without judgment, and please find time to cry- it can be hard when you are expected to be "strong" and "brave". you need to feel it all, and cry, and cry some more. you have suffered a loss like no other. there are online support communities to be found... just start looking. I belong to one, but it is more for parents who have lost newborns or pregnancy losses... you are definitely not alone in your pain- and you will get thru this.

and again, I am so sorry that this has happened to you and your daughter, to your family. it is horrible enough to have lost your precious little girl, and the blame and anger that you may be feeling can put you right over the edge... there will be time to feel everything you need to- try not to get overwhelmed. my babies both died from "falling thru the cracks" and I totally understand and live with the "if only's" and hindsight being so clear. having a support group or a counselor can help to organize your grief and keep you from downing in it.

I've been thinking of you since I read your original post and hesitated writing something because I couldn't think of what to say. I am speechless and filled with sadness for you. It sounds like a scenario that could have happened to anyone. I am so so sorry. You are in my thoughts.

Oh, I am so, so sorry for your loss. You'll be in my prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss. You must be such an incredibly strong person to have even made it through the last few days. I cannot begin to imagine your pain, but I hope you come to find some peace in time.

I'm so sorry that this happened. And to the others in this thread who have experienced similar tragedies. It's all so terribly sad.

I think your journalling idea is wonderful, both to help you put into word the feelings you will be having, and to remember and cherish that perfect little girl of yours. You would have been blessed to see such incredible change in her over those 18 months she was with you and remembering all of those wonderful little things will help keep her in your heart even when she can't be in your arms.

Please reach out if there is anything helpful any of us can do for you during this period of deep sadness.

Im so sorry for your loss. my heart goes out to you. No parent should ever have to know that pain.

My first born son was stillborn. there are no words to describe the emptiness that's felt when I child is gone.

(( Hugs)) and If you need someone to talk to I'd be happy to lend an ear. take care of yourself.

My heart aches for you and your family. It is profoundly sad.Each day passes and your heart will always be full of love and grieving for your little girl. My prayers for you. Big Hug.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers, I hope God's peace will find you.