How to Tell if Your Date Is Married?

PlanetoftheAtheists
PlanetoftheAtheists Posts: 112
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I think the person I am dating is married. What are the signs to look for?
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  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Try Googling and Facebook stalking. Does he only see you on weeknights? Unable to call or return texts at certain time of the day? Indentation on finger where wedding band should be?

    Ask him too, be up front with your suspicions.
  • Greenrun99
    Greenrun99 Posts: 2,065 Member
    A wedding ring????
  • ZombieGeezUs
    ZombieGeezUs Posts: 476
    If he never invites you to his house. Or if you suggest it, he tries to come up with an alternative every time
  • Iceberg_Simpson
    Iceberg_Simpson Posts: 737 Member
    It's never a good sign if her husband drops her off to your date.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    If he never invites you to his house. Or if you suggest it, he tries to come up with an alternative every time

    That isn't necessarily a red flag. I won't have anyone at my house because I have kids, not because I'm married. I just refuse to have guys I'm not serious about meeting my children.
  • ZombieGeezUs
    ZombieGeezUs Posts: 476
    If he never invites you to his house. Or if you suggest it, he tries to come up with an alternative every time

    That isn't necessarily a red flag. I won't have anyone at my house because I have kids, not because I'm married. I just refuse to have guys I'm not serious about meeting my children.

    True. But what if he doesn't use that excuse?
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    OP-Are you male or female?

    How many dates have you been on?

    Why do you suspect this person is married?

    I think more information would be helpful in figuring out what's going on.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Ask them straight out....are you married?
  • PlanetoftheAtheists
    PlanetoftheAtheists Posts: 112
    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    Like I said....ask her straight out...confront her about it.
  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    Check for an intact hymen. :wink:
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    Maybe she's a complete pig at home and has no friends?
  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange
    There does appear to be some red flags for sure.
    Ask her if she has ever been married or has any kids.
    What does she drive? (Hint:, an SUV or a Minivan could = married)
    Call at strange hours to judge her reaction.
    Others have asked you about if she meets ONLY on weekends.
    We need more information in order to give accurate advise.
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
    Dating for three months and you still don't trust her? Time to move on, buddy.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    How serious is the dating?
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,042 Member
    It's a set up. She's looking to marry you, get a life insurance policy and off you. If you're never known about by her friends or family, you won't be missed. Or maybe she's just a horder. Good luck with it though.

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  • ansonrinesmith
    ansonrinesmith Posts: 741 Member
    Won't give you a home phone number?
  • julie3227
    julie3227 Posts: 162
    If the person is getting many phone calls that they forward while you're together.
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    Easy way: ask

    Slightly less easy way: check the electoral register
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    Like I said....ask her straight out...confront her about it.

    This. Put on your big boy pants and ask her.
  • kittenful
    kittenful Posts: 318 Member
    Dating for three months and you still don't trust her? Time to move on, buddy.

    ^This.
    You're suspicious that she may be married. Ask her. If you do and still don't know what to think, then it's time to leave. Trust builds a relationship. Suspicion breaks it down.
  • eric_sg61
    eric_sg61 Posts: 2,925 Member
    If he never invites you to his house.
    This
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Easy way: ask

    Slightly less easy way: check the electoral register
    Ha! My answer exactly lol
  • tworthen79
    tworthen79 Posts: 1,173 Member
    Maybe she's embarrassed to have her friends/family know she's dating you. Not that you're unattractive, but maybe you're not the type of person she wants others to know she's attracted to. Or it isn't as serious as you think it is. Maybe she dates others. Maybe shes a serial killer and hides bodies in her freezer.

    Ask her?
  • LuLuChick78
    LuLuChick78 Posts: 439 Member
    Bump to keep reading as this unfolds.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    A wedding ring????

    A wedding band tan line.
  • QuincyChick
    QuincyChick Posts: 269 Member
    I think just straight up asking her is the only way to settle this. If she becomes upset, cite the reasons you've noted here (not meeting any of her friends, never going to her place, etc.)
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Won't give you a home phone number?

    Meaningful 10-15 years ago, mostly irrelevant today. Home phones are becoming more scarce.
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    Ask???
    Hire a private detective?


    "Just like watching the detectives
    Don't get cute
    It's just like watching the detectives
    I get so angry when the teardrops start
    But he can't be wounded 'cause he's got no heart"
  • tworthen79
    tworthen79 Posts: 1,173 Member
    1. a ring/tan line
    2. takes calls privately
    3. doesn't sleep over (if you're intimately involved)

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