How to Tell if Your Date Is Married?

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  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    It is strange. My spider sense would be tingling, big time.
  • inside_lap
    inside_lap Posts: 728 Member
    Dating for three months and you still don't trust her? Time to move on, buddy.

    This!
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    A wedding ring????

    While the majority of people do wear them, there are also those couples that don't. My parents never did nor do my husband and I.

    I don't wear mine, don't want to glove my finger while rock climbing.
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2759628/
  • DavidC1857
    DavidC1857 Posts: 149 Member
    Rather than ask her if she's married (aka basically stating flat out 'hey, I don't trust you' and potentially making life more difficult), why not just sit down and talk to her about your actual concerns, not the conclusion you're hypothesizing based off those concerns? In short - mention that it feels weird that after 3 months, you don't know where she lives and you don't ever go over. But, take some advice from this thread, and since a potential reason may be that she isn't ready for you to meet her kids, then also let her know that you understand it may be related to her kids, and that's okay, but you're just looking to open up lines of communication and talk about it.

    If she won't talk about it - the reasons why don't matter; run away, it's a bad relationship. If you can't talk about items and learn to communicate, then it's not worth it, in my opinion.

    She could have had some really bad experiences with having someone over or letting someone close, and maybe she's being super paranoid and/or cautious. Maybe it is the kid thing. Maybe it's that she's still married. Or, she's divorced but the ex still lives with her and she doesn't feel comfortable enough yet talking to you about her unusual circumstances.

    There could be lots of reasons - and without good communication, you'll never know.

    This post makes WAY too much sense to be on the internet.
  • _funrungirl
    _funrungirl Posts: 145 Member
    If you are having doubts at the 3 month mark, its probably time to move on.
  • TheRealParisLove
    TheRealParisLove Posts: 1,907 Member
    So, you've never been to her house and she has never been over to your place. You've only met in public places and you don't even know where she lives.

    Does she provide any kind of business services that you pay for? Like do you buy insurance from her or take your cat to her for medical treatment?

    I suspect that maybe she doesn't even think you are dating, but are merely friends, colleagues or thinks of you as a client.

    To know for sure, invite her to your home the next time you date. If she refuses to visit you at home, you aren't dating. It is time to move on.

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