Self Esteem and Personal Image

I feel like I could've written this about myself. I am very, very introverted. I used to think something was wrong with me. Now, I understand that it's just who I am and that there are a LOT of similar people in the world.

When I was fat, I spent way too much time trying to match the labels other people gave me. I was the smart one or the quiet one or the chubby one or some other "type" that seemed to make the people around me more comfortable with themselves. And I tried really hard to live up to that so that I didn't have to be alone.

And then a funny thing happened about a year and a half after I started losing weight (and by that time, I had lost about 100 lbs). I suddenly became very sure of who I was and what I wanted from life. For the first time in my life, I had goals that did not revolve around school or work. My beliefs and values were clearer than ever. I felt this unbelievable sense of freedom, and I realized that it was because I no longer cared what other people wanted me to be or what they already thought I was. I don't need anyone else's approval, whether it's about my looks or my career or my training or anything else. You said it perfectly: I don't care. If I spend the rest of my life alone, I don't care because I feel really, really, fantastically lucky to be me. It is the most liberating feeling ever.

Congrats to you on a level of self-awareness that a lot of people fake really well but never actually achieve.

Pretty darn awesome.

That was awesome. Just like you.

Saying s**t like that is why people will never like you. People like a brave facade which thinly masks a deep cavern of insecurity - it creates the need for constant support and validation!







Just kidding.

That's awesome man! Two thumbs up

Yes you are awesome . You were one of the very first people i added a long time ago, when i first found this site because of how awesome you are.

Dang, man, that's some heavy stuff.

I had no idea.

Glad you figured out that you're awesome. Hope life decides to throw you a bone to make your circumstances even awesomer too.

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