Why do we have to suffer? :'(

I don't know all, but one thing (for me) is true, the last thing I need when I'm feeling "down" is to be "dumped" on even more.

I'm saddened that the majority of the posts are sounding a bit judgmental???? YA Think????

The way it works for me when I'm struggling either with food or life,,,,,,,

be negative towards me and you weaken me even further so that the chances I run to food are increased.

If you are human and want to do some good, be kind, loving, understanding towards others who are struggling with their weight/life.

Like I already said, I'm saddened by this thread

and to you OP (opening poster), hang in there you are most certainly worth it!

My advice to you, start by forgiving yourself for everything you think is wrong with you or life. Start saying nice things about yourself on a daily basis, oh and ignore anyone who is throwing negative comments your way. Anyone who comes down on you is just letting off their own anger/negative feelings, no reflection on you whatsoever.

Good luck

Hello MFP,
ITS JUST NOT FAIR!
Life is not fair

Fixed that for you.

Life isn't fair.

And there is always someone in a far worse position than you, so count your blessings and consider yourself lucky.

The harder you work, the luckier you'll be.

Congratulations! You have arrived!!!
I can see that you are NOW in a place to take charge of your life!
Its up to you, and you can do it!

You sound just like me before I lost the weight. In tears, right after the Holidays, I mindlessly signed up to Weight Watchers. That was over two years ago, and I love the transformation thats has taken place in my life.
I also struggle with depression. Yes go to the Doc, but remember statistically speaking, exercise is the best "med" out there for depression. So find one you like, and go for it!!! Get a workout buddy to help motivate you.
Your diet will also help. Once your start eating more fruits and veggies, the inflamation that is weighing you down, will leave your body and mind, and you'll feel so much better. In the beginning I was sceptical about eating that much Rabbit Food, the gas was almost unbareable and it took months for my body to adjust. But now I crave that kind of food. Find some healthy websites like SkinnyTaste.com and try your hand at being your own chef!
And finally, find support. Whether its online or at a Weight Watcher meeting, this aspect of weight loss is a must. I found an on-line group of WL individuals and we chat almost every day. They keep me accountable. Also DEMAND support from your family. To succeed, your environment must be clean of all junk food. After two years of arguing with my family, we finally have rules about what comes into the house. If they want to eat junk, thats fine. They just have to do it elsewhere.

Good luck out there. I really think you are ready. Gather your courage and be fearless about what you want your life to look like in a year. Yes it'll take patience, so just get through one day (or hour) at a time, and I can guarantee you will see the results you want.
GO FOR IT!!!!!

Suffering is, honestly, part of the human condition. We have to suffer in order to learn. If everything in our lives was super easy and great, we wouldn't know it was easy and great, because we would have nothing to compare it to. By suffering, and wanting the suffering to stop, we find the drive to change our lives. You've taken the first step - realizing you have a problem. Now it's time to make some changes. Start making good decision about your diet, and then start exercising as your body will tolerate. You'll start losing weight. Keep your doctor in the loop, as that will be essential if you have hypothyroidism. Also see out counseling for depression. all of these steps will lead you into a journey that will eventually lead you to a happier place. You will look back and realize how much stronger you are for the suffering you experienced.

Ok.... so..... what are going to DO about it?? Decide, commit, succed. It won`t change if YOU don`t change it.

I'm tall and skinny and still can't buy clothes. There is nothing for either extreme.

When I was 19 I was, to be blunt, fat as ****. I was able to socialize, interact with girls, party. I was fat, but I didn't give up on my life. You shouldn't feel pity about yourself. You need to understand that you are still young and can change your life around pretty quickly. Being fat is not the end of the world. In 9 months you can lose 50-70+ pounds if you put in serious effort weight training and eating healthy. Don't make excuses. Don't blame society for how you feel. Don't say, "Woe is me for being fat!"

You can do it. You don't need to be the fat kid your whole life. It can be fixed in less than a year. You are 19, you are young and stronger than you think.

you can lose the weight
focus, be strong and tough
how bad do you want it>
go conquer!

If someone is seriously depressed about it, then it would seem bizarre and reckless to post opinions on a public forum where anybody can publish anything.

It's a free country and they can post whatever they like be it bizarre and reckless (which are subjective adjectives you are personally ascribing due to your bias, BTW) or not. You make it sound as if this person deserves rude treatment simply because they chose to share their feelings in a way that you personally don't care for. They don't.

Since my post, which was removed, there have been harsher posts on here as well. What I said was harsh but blunt without trying to be abusive or insulting, which is the worst case scenario you could get from posting such an attention grabbing post like this.

Sorry, but "Oh get a grip. Stop eating then and lose some weight." is universally insulting. And again you blame the OP for your insults, as if they "invited it". Nope. Not to mention that you assume this person is just trying to get attention, which is sad. Just an observation, but you seem extremely cynical. Why, I wonder?

It is at best over the top and at worst selfish.

And yet Compassionate people are able to see beyond the surface when it comes to hurting people. The face of a thing may appear selfish. But the real issue runs deeper. It takes patience, kindness, and compassion to dig into that and really help a person. Because digging into a real issue is helpful. Judging and smacking down, is not.

Many people on here are overweight but talk about it in a dignified manner, where they are depressed about it or dont let it affect them.

Good for them. However, compassionate people are not into comparisons and forcing everyone into one mold about how they're "supposed" to act when they're hurting. Helpful people are into seeing an individual and helping them through whatever they've got going on, specifically.

Besides, being overweight is not unfair. Suffering from cancer is, losing a loved one is, etc, but not something which you are fully in control of so if you are going to be all me, me, me about it then why should you expect empathy?

Please note that 99.9% of the people on here (including the compassionate and helpful ones) have all agreed with the 1st half of that sentence. The difference is that, again, helpful people see beyond the "me, me, me", dig deeper, and try to help the person see the error of their ways with empathetic language. That may include tough love, yes. But it's all in *how* you say it. I'm simply suggesting there's a better way to speak to hurting people and encouraging folks on here to practice it.

Thanks

My legs are really short, my pants drag on the ground and they get holes in them. I have to buy new pants ALL the time. Life's not fair for, myself and all other short legged people out there.