Why do we have to suffer? :'(

very good advice:drinker:

you can change this, log on MFP everyday and enter all what you eat and drink, get some supportive friend son here and go for it, you will be amazed at hew good you can feel with supprt

Some people can't do all kinds of things through disability or injury, and that really isn't FAIR.

But you have a chance to change this, to do something about it. It isn't always easy, but it certainly isn't impossible. lose the "it's not fair" attitude and adopt the "I'm not doing this any longer, I am going to kick butt and lose weight" attitude.

With willpower and determination you can get to a healthy weight and enjoy all those things. You can do it.

^THIS

If you have never experienced even a little bit of the feelings he is describing then you are just lying to yourselves. I'm not disagreeing with people who are telling him to get passed those feelings, but show some compassion. And before you tell him his feelings are not valid because of your one leg/dead parent/empty bank account or whatever, just stop. Your suffering does not invalidate another's - if you live in a developed country, you already have it better than 50% of the world - which means whatever you have to complain about is insignificant compared to their issues.

To the OP - each day, hour and minute gives you an opportunity to make positive change in your life. Go slowly - don't try and rush the process. Start with following the advice of some of the posters here:

1. Find a form of exercise that you enjoy and do it on a regular basis. It could be exercise videos, swimming, walking to the mailbox and back - whatever it is, consistency is key.

2. Track your calories - try to make good decisions with your food but don't deprive yourself of things that you enjoy to eat.

3. Think about working with a therapist, or look into something called minfulness to help you deal with some of your feelings.

Losing even 5-10% will help you feel physically better - which in turn may help you attack some of the other issues.

As somebody who has felt that way before:

1. Stop thinking of yourself as some kind of victim. No one has forced you to be who you are or to feel the way you feel. If there is something about your life that you don't like. Change it.
2. Learn how to build a better self image. http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/12/10/how-to-build-a-perfect-body-a-discussion-on-body-image/
3. Regardless of your size now, you can do things to change that, primarily by losing weight and learning about body recomposition. Until you get there, learn how to dress in ways that can help you feel more confident, and make a better impression on others. http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/12/16/how-to-level-up-your-wardrobe-a-primer-on-first-impressions/
4. You're 19. Be patient.

I just wanted to say that I wish you some happiness and joy in your life because you sound so unhappy and I know life isn't easy but we can do things to at least help make it better a bit. What are some things you enjoy? Start doing them more, providing they're healthy and positive things!

I understand depression and thyroid issues (i have both, along with a ton of other medical conditions) but you know what? I'm not going to let it stop me. We have to live life...and not waste a moment of it. It's too precious, you know?

Hang in there. Make some positive changes in your life. Start walking, eat some healthy foods instead of bad ones, make small steps at first and it'll get better. Also, if you have depression, maybe you could try to see a doctor or therapist for some help? I've been there...it's tough but there's no shame in asking for help.

Honestly, I really think you just are having one of those horrible days.
I can't share in your greef of being obese but I can tell you that I have met obese people and honestly they were the most cheerful and happy people in the hostel!!!! And you know what else!!!! Everybody loved them!! And honestly, It's not because people aren't jealous of them (djeezus christ I was, wish I could be happy all the time, and so confident :-D) but I honestly think it's because they don't judge other people, open minded, happy!

And it's really like how you look at life!!! I've had my own problems, and ever since I've been feeling I have been lucky! After my little accident I decided to drop my studies and go travel, because that's all I ever wanted to do! And despite the fact that it was hard there on my own, and I struggled to find work there. I saw the postive things, like honestly there were a lot of people in worse circumstances and they could still laugh.... I remember losing my entire backpack and well be angry and stressed out for a day and then think.... puh sad, now I have to buy everything all over again, wel at least I will finally have photo's in different clothes then 2 years ago :-D (Backpackers don't shop very often)

I honestly think that if you can't change your mentality whether you will or not drop kilos you will still be that scared little girl that's not going to dare and talk to people are go to the movie alone..... It won't make you that much happier!
Be proud of the person you are! and you might actually be able to lose wheight a lot easier!!!

Good luck!

You people are all being so mean for offering thoughtful, knowledgeable, and truthful advice. Someone should start a thread.