"You're still fat"

Gah... I'm always astonished at how people can be so hurtful. In college I had a group of "cute guys" holler something at me about thunder thighs. I cried for days. Thankfully, I know the truth about myself and I now have a husband who happens to love my thick bottom half You keep doing what you are doing; but do it for YOU. Forget those buttheads.

p.s. I totally also holler in my car a "good job" to all those I see puttin' in work.

I I obviously have a weight problem. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this.

You will never be able to satisfy everyone... but just be happy with yourself, that is the key. I quoted what you said above because weight problem or not, always work towards being healthy. Exercise and eat to live a long healthy life... not to be skinny.

There are skinny girls, possibly even the ones that put you down, that are just given their thin body with a silver spoon. They can eat junk all day, but on the inside cholesterol levels, blood pressure, blood sugar could be rising...Also, if they hold such negativity in their personality/character, that is a poison in itself!

They don't have to work for a figure, but they need to work on personality or another area in their life. Point is, nobody is perfect, but those of us that do work to lose weight or to gain muscle etc... feel so good and so accomplished and if you do it right, you will work harder to maintain the figure you gain (or lose, however you want to put it).

Words can hurt, but they can also be used to fuel your fire! Keep on keeping on girl!

& Thank you for sharing because many of us have been there and you are not alone!!!

omg.. i feel your pain. I've some rude/inconsiderate relatives who make judgments & comments about my weight gain; without caring to know if I have health issues!?!?!
So proud of you for your 4 mile run.. just keep running & run over these bad/mean people (in you mind)!
Words have a way to hurt more, and they keep lingering in the mind. But please don't let it get to you!

A possible retort:
"You're still fat."
"But one day I'll be slim however you'll always be stupid."

But frankly, they're not worth your energy. Focus on your goal.

Take up strength training and know that you could probably crush them but choose not to.

That sums it up for me ..... Your post really hit home for me. I am terribly sorry that you had to experience that. HOWEVER, you ARE better than them. You are focused on a goal. Take it one day at a time and all will end well. You just have to believe in yourself nad be honest with yuorself,

I just joined today and read your post after signing up.

First of all, when you wrote the post you were down 15 lbs (yeah!). BUT WAIT!!!!! NOW YOU'RE DOWN 29 lbs!!!!! Major accomplishment!!!! I'm so proud of you. I've been there, feeling humiliated, worthless, self-loathing, . I've started journaling to unload some of the hurt from my past. I just heard this quote for the first time, and it really struck me, thus the journaling:

"Depression is anger we turn inward on ourselves"

WOW! There's so much to that. In my life I swallowed food while I was swallowing hurt/anger and keeping it all inside. In our culture it's considered the unforgivable sin to be overweight. For moral support I download videos/documentaries of people who've lost weight, and to a person they all say people feel free to be rude to overweight people.

I've already lost 70 lbs. and have 25 to go. I have vowed to God that I will reach out to anyone He puts in my way who is hurting. You can be such a blessing to others who feel what you've felt. Let that spur you on. There are so many people "living lives of quiet desperation'.

those skinny girls who said those hurtful things usually have 'eating disorders' or 'image problems'.

they know how much of a pain it is for them to 'maintain' their figure while pretending like they eat a lot all the time.

Typical example is when skinny girls post photos on facebook /instagram of how much food they've eaten all the time... to tell people that they have a 'fast' metabolism.

That's 100% eating disorder.

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First, I commend you for sharing this story. That takes courage. Second, congratulations on the 4 miles. That's awesome. Finally, good for you for staying determined to be healthy.

I feel sorry for those girls that laughed at you. If the only way they can feel better about themselves is to "attempt" to tear down someone else, that is a sad existence.

Love the quote; just keep on working at it.

Cruel people are losers. Don't give them any power. You can feel sorry for them for their misguided bullying behavior but given it was a drive by you cannot influence them. What you do have control over is your response. You have grace, you are doing great things for yourself and you have this community and your own support system to reinforce you. As best you can ignore the hurtful comments and know they are lesser people than they can be. Let kindness and gentleness rule the world instead of cruelty and meanness. Start with youself.

In reply to "your still fat" comments....

Yup they who speak in such a shallow way, speak volumes about their value system! I personally would rather be surrounded by KIND people and those who discern by personality than outward appearances any day! With that said, I am guilty of self sabotage but thinking negative thoughts that are often associated with food and words like FAT.... Tacked to deep emotions of fear of abandonment.... Go figure!

I live in Asia. Many many of my friends (who are well within their ideal body weight range) are thrown when they move here because women are expected to be anexorically thin (as in, I can't believe their toothpick legs can even support their bodies) and shopkeepers rush to them when they enter the shop informing them that "we have no clothes for fat girls here" even though they are a size 8....

Now I'm a size 16 (down from a 26 three years ago) and my co-worker just said the same thing to me "Yeah I noticed you're a little slimmer these days, but you're still very very fat you know..." Oh really, I didn't know, thanks for educating me...

But you gotta laugh at these people because they live in a very sad world where they compete for the smallest lunches, and bemoan how they gain weight even as they shrink their meals to walnut-sized proportions and watch and criticize each other and don't enjoy life and all it has to offer.

Are we here because we want to be what society wants us to be? That's a losing battle because NONE of us will EVER be what the media and beauty industry want us to think we need to be....even supermodels can't meet all their expectations which is why different models are used for different things....some for their body type, others are hand models, others are face models, others foot models. And all are air brushed and photoshopped beyond reality. Those girls can laugh at you all they want, but they, too, are still ugly, still disproportionate, still have eyes too small, too close set, teeth still crooked, still freckles, still have cellulite, still have normal human variations that they think are imperfections, etc etc. And they know it.

If you are exercising, eating real, clean, unprocessed foods, drinking in moderation, and smoke-free, you will live to a ripe old age and have very good quality of life in your golden years no matter how much you weigh, this is the truth, according to recent research. Fat (even obese) people with these four healthy habits have the same life expectancy as thin people. However, overweight people who do not exercise, smoke, drink, and eat junk are 7 times more likely to die younger than genetically predisposed and die painfully (diabetes, heart disease, etc). THAT should be why you are here, not because you gave a crap about what some idiot in a car says to you as they drive by. ..

people who criticize you are themselves much criticized and self-critical and their hate reflects the amount of self hate they have for themselves. They are to be pitied, not taken personally.

Hugs! Keep jogging, keep eating well, quit smoking, and don't overdo it on the wine and you will outlive those fools and be able to say..." I may still be fat, but you're still dead, lady..." if you so choose.

tjfrisque wrote: »

This is a good example of why we need to teach our children kindness at a young age. I made my son at 9 or 10 go knock on the door of someone he was cruel to and apologize, I also made him call a classmate one time. I have two other children and it's the one thing I will never except.

You sound like a great mom! I bet your kids will never yell such cruel things out of a car window.

It's hard for me to imagine people being so cruel, but I know they are. Look, I am really sorry this happened to you. I know it hurts hurts hurts!! So what if you are "still fat?" Those girls have issues of their own...obviously, or they wouldn't be trying to forget them by hurting you. You are amazing and making wonderful progress and you made the choice to be healthy. No one can take that away from you!!! Just know I feel for you and you will achieve your goals and rise above ANYONE who tries to bring you down!!!

They sound like a bunch of insecure, little *kitten*! Ah man, I have had all sorts of people yell stuff at me out of cars and no matter what it never hurts any less. Just remember that the jokes on them, you are the biggest now that you will ever be and each day you will be a slightly slimmer and a better you. No-one can kill your spirit or motivation to be a healthier and happier you! I had an egg thrown at me once and cried like a baby covered in yolk lol but it only motivated me more.