Dating advice needed....please

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  • EdgeGoalie31
    EdgeGoalie31 Posts: 11 Member
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    Drop him like a bad habit before you have to go through the trouble of getting a restraining order. Been there, done that! Stay far, far away!
  • robynrae_1
    robynrae_1 Posts: 712 Member
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    Let him know he's making you uncomfortable. Give him the chance to stop at least, just in case he's just missing the signs that he's taking it too far. Some guys are overeager without meaning anything terrible by it. Some people don't get social cues or understand boundaries very well, it does happen. If he takes it badly, gets offended, throws a fit, whatever, then drop him completely. He can't be like that AND not be understanding about you talking to him about it, there's no helping him if that's the case.

    I agree with this, some people don't get social clues and need to be told out right. I would talk to him before the date, and if it doesn't go well, skip the date. Make sure you are clear about what you want, and what you expect from him.
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
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    Just pass on this one, don't go on the date. I imagine this sort of thing is a somewhat common occurrence.
  • Jimaudit
    Jimaudit Posts: 275
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    Run Forrest run!!
  • missbp
    missbp Posts: 601 Member
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    Yeah. I'm with the others on this. He sounds more then a little needy. But I would explain why you don't want to see him. Find a kind but direct way to say, that his constant checking in/up was the deal breaker. His past experience may include being with a two timer or a girl who liked that constant attention. Regardless, I would not go out with him.
  • countryfatgirl
    countryfatgirl Posts: 20 Member
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    Run girl.... ugh men..... Momma's are right most of the time.
  • Tryphenaf26
    Tryphenaf26 Posts: 1
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    I wouldn't go. He sounds obsessive and that may lead to insecurity issues on his behalf. Just let him know that you are no longer interested and you don't think that now is the time for you to date, that you want to focus on you.

    But have you ever gone out to dinner by yourself?
  • _EndGame_
    _EndGame_ Posts: 770 Member
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    Maybe he's just overly excited or something? Maybe it's been a while for him and he's rusty at the whole "dating" thing?

    I probably wouldn't worry too much about it. Meet him, see how it goes, if he seems needy/controlling - ditch him.

    Good luck!
  • ltowne
    ltowne Posts: 129 Member
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    Trust your intuition! I think you already know the answer. Doesn't sound like someone you would want to begin any kind of relationship with. Take care and be safe.
  • bperkins88
    bperkins88 Posts: 357 Member
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    LVL 5 clinger.

    -backs away slowly-
  • staceywallace6
    staceywallace6 Posts: 6 Member
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    He's probably a nice enough guy but it sounds like he's not ready for dating. He's got issues. You don't want those to become your issues too... The kindest thing you can do is cancel the date honestly (not "another time" more like "I'm sorry but I dont want to date you", and then stop all contact with him. If he carries on texting or calling, block his number.

    I had a year of dating, some met online, and I have 19 blocked contacts on my mobile phone. Of those I only met 3 in person... the others were similar stories to yours. This should tell you enough lol

    Plenty more fish! :)
  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
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    So the other night I met this guy and we hit it off quite well he was sweet charming and funny and we exchanged numbers.....he called me to arrange a date which we set up for a few days later....however since then he is constantly texting me asking me to call him and if i don't reply to his text messages straight away he then text's me again asking why i'm not talking to him....

    My mother says that i should not go on the date as he sounds like a fruit loop I mean we haven't even been on the first date yet and already he constantly text's and calls and asks where i am and what i'm doing... what do you think is my mum just been overly cautious or does this guy sound a bit strange?? should i go or not??

    Any advice would be very much appreciated....


    ~Charlie

    Extremely needy right off the bat? Avoid.
  • bperkins88
    bperkins88 Posts: 357 Member
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    yeah , online dating sucks seriously. I've done it twice, and met two psychotic clingers.

    I'm good
  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
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    Trust your instincts. If he seems clingy now it will get worse later.

    Do NOT go on this date. That is the beginning of a relationship where he will try to control you and attempt to know everything about your life, possibly isolate you or even abuse you(physically,emotionally, or verbally).

    I've been there. I've done that. I'm saying this so you don't have to go there.

    Change your number or block his or whatever you have to.
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
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    So, you have a conundrum.

    This chap is charming and fun when you are with him, a complete PITA when you are apart. The solution should you choose to date him is you must spend every waking minute with him or have him bug the crap out of you.

    Sounds...fun.
  • charliex2202
    charliex2202 Posts: 4,281 Member
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    Thank you all for your replies and your advice....i really do appreciate it x

    ~Charlie
  • dieselgrrrrl
    dieselgrrrrl Posts: 4
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    So the other night I met this guy and we hit it off quite well he was sweet charming and funny and we exchanged numbers.....he called me to arrange a date which we set up for a few days later....however since then he is constantly texting me asking me to call him and if i don't reply to his text messages straight away he then text's me again asking why i'm not talking to him....

    My mother says that i should not go on the date as he sounds like a fruit loop I mean we haven't even been on the first date yet and already he constantly text's and calls and asks where i am and what i'm doing... what do you think is my mum just been overly cautious or does this guy sound a bit strange?? should i go or not??

    Any advice would be very much appreciated....


    ~Charlie


    Don't do it! I dated a guy that started off like that and he turned out to be a complete psycho-path! Not only was he crazy and paranoid, but he was abusive too! Save yourself the trouble and date a man that respects your time and doesn't give you that kind of stress. Life is too short!
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
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    My ex was similar and when I wanted to break up with him, he wouldn't let me.

    Trust me, you DO NOT want a guy like my ex lol.
  • mmartinez_az
    mmartinez_az Posts: 580
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    call 911
  • charliex2202
    charliex2202 Posts: 4,281 Member
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    call 911

    Lol point taken :laugh:

    I will heed everyones advice thank you x

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