After 65 lb weight loss.. NOW being called fat?

Let me first commend you for doing such a great job! Some people are just mean spirited and disrespectful. Keep doing what you're doing and int he end you are the winner.

We all like to live in our comfort zones
But the world outside our homes has some realities. harsh or good. it depends what they turn out to be for you
but really truth and reality do not change whatever way we like to look at it.

There is an arsehole born every minute. I am not sure why anyone would get a sense of satisfaction by making someone else feel bad. You are doing a great job of getting fit and healthy. You look wonderful. Try not to let stupid people's opinions matter. Really, are you ever going to see these people again? Why let a random stranger's opinion matter.

Try to remember that there are only a few people's opinions that should matter in your life - and you get to choose who they are!

My standard thought is, well you are ugly - at least I can diet. It makes me smile to myself and I can let it go.

Please don't let yourself fail because of a random stranger. You are so much better than that!

You look awesome! Keep it up

Don't let them get to you. They are there for the same reason as you are....to lose weight or get in shape. they must feel insecure about themselves. That was terribly rude and hateful. Im sorry you had to hear that. All the more reason to stick it out though, show them!

There is no cure for stupid unfortunately.....don't let others bring you down..you have done an amazing job and you look great....you need to become your own hero..you have done this by hard work and willpower, it belongs to you don't let them or anyone take this away from you.....you can lose weight, you proved that..and they are stupid and insensitive and there is no cure for that....

OP - I think you're being a bit too sensitive on that comment from back in October. As others pointed out, you have PAGES of positive posts and support here. One post by an obvious troll from months ago is NOTHING. Please, ignore it, and if you're going to comment, maybe comment on all the great stuff people are saying! And maybe let us know how it is going for you

I read your post and then some of the replies....look, no matter what, you are still obese. But, you know that you are WAY LESS obese than you were. You know that you are doing the right thing for you. And when we see the starting pic and your 265 pick, we too can see the progress. That's your clue -- you're doing the right thing! Those girls at the gym? They didn't know where you started from. They didn't have a handy picture to see "oh wow, she started even larger and now look at her, she's doing great." So to them, you were just someone fat working out.

Now, should they have commented like that? Uh, probably not. It sounds rude in the telling. Especially if they were laughing. We can't cure people of rudeness or idiocy or meanness, etc. You have control over you and how you react though. Remind yourself that while you're still obese, you're doing the right things, you're making progress, and no one and nothing will derail you. Repeat that over and over to yourself and make it the truth.

Always also bear in mind that they may also be sincere in truly wanting to know. So an answer like "well, it was hard when I was 330, but with 65 pounds gone already, it's getting easier every day." And let it go. If they weren't sincere, it won't matter WHAT you say. If they were, at least you weren't a jerk to them. When I first started, walking up the 3 flights of stairs to where the treadmills were wasn't happening. I took the elevator. I came with all 4 of my teenagers one day and rather than take the stairs, they stayed with me. A woman walked by, saw us waiting, started to go through the door to the stairs and then said "uh, you know there are stairs, right?" and then kept on going. She sounded VERY snarky to me, and I was annoyed but didn't let it get me down. I saw her in the locker room afterwards and I came up to her and asked her nicely why she felt the need to say that. She was instantly mortified. She had meant it as a way to inform, because a lot of people never saw the stairs apparently, because they were through another door. She apologized profusely. I felt better because i asked nicely and didn't attack her first, giving her the benefit of the doubt, and I felt better because I had confronted the situation rather than seethe about it for days, weeks, or months.

So remember - they may have been laughing at something else (or had a weak moment of inappropriate laughing) and they may have been impressed with what you were doing and just immature at how to handle it but wanting to know.

You are doing a great job. Remember that and keep going.

I think there is a very sick reality in this country that when a person reaches a certain size due to morbid obesity, the comments (of any type) slow down or stop. People avoid all contact - even the sick insults.

In some crazy way, people who make these comments to you (and posters above/below) who've lost so many pounds feel safe doing so because you've moved from obese to "fat", whereas before, they might never have commented. I'm not saying it's right or even fair, but they feel more comfortable to do it now than before.

I think that's right. I think that is absolutely correct. It's awful, but it's correct.

And I don't know how to keep those comments from hurting. I still don't want to go outside sometimes, even though the last comment I got was years and years ago. I'm so sorry that you got hit with the sh*twagon, as someone else said.

You are doing an AMAZING thing for yourself! You committed to get healthy! I've been there...I've been called fat and had children say insensitive things to me...it hurts really bad. You are a beautiful worthwhile women! We here are MFP supporting and cheering you on!

I feel the same way. Do this because YOU are going to feel better. There is a big difference between the pics you put up - you've done an amazing job, are pretty, and should not listen to what those girls said. Please don't allow their words to keep going in your head. Fight it, and put good things in their place. Seriously, you look good, and you're going to be so much happier if you keep doing your best to be as healthy as you can. Those girls must have been very insecure themselves to be so bent on making another human being miserable. You can do this!!!!!!

The only thing you can control in life is you - what you DO, what you think, how you respond to out side influences. You can't control anyones comments - you can only control how you react to them. Shrug them off. Give up that negative energy and focus on all of the good! Good people here helping you! Good advice! Good progress!

I agree with a poster from months ago - your 256# pic looks healthier than I do now at 227. Keep it up!!!!