Non judgemental Friends Please....?

OP, just remember: judgement on your diary doesn't equal judgement on your character. Someone pointing out how you can eat better or move more does not mean they are saying you aren't a unique, awesome person.

You say you need to make major changes - good for you for admitting it. However, nothing changes until something changes, you know? If you are serious about this, it helps to have some no-nonsense friends on your list to give it to you straight. I get that it can be annoying to have someone pick apart every decision you make (hence my private diary - I don't need someone who doesn't know my goals asking me 'Did you really need that ice cream?' Yes, I did really need it. Thanks.), but sometimes it is the wake up call we need.

Anyway, good luck.

Solid advice isn't judgement. It's solid advice. Learn to spot and listen to solid advice, and ignore the bad.

Add me if you wish, I only reply if I have something nice to say. If you want my honest opinion on something I trust you will ask for it, otherwise I assume you want some cheer leaders, I can do that :happy:

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I didn't get a FR
*feeling judged/not one of the cool kids*

Their, there, they're @Blue! Maybe this will make you feel better!

Like i said, i know enough about weight loss to actually lose weight. i never question what I'm doing. Its the motivation that fades away and id like some friends who say " Go girl" rather than ask me why i ate chocolate. because i have my food habits and exercise under control.in case you missed it before, im here to find people who will just say "you can do it" when i need to hear it and even when i dont. And i will do the same for them. If my weight loss habits dont work, ill ask for advice. But for now, i just need some friends who can give me a little push when i feel like giving up.
I dont think theres anymore explaining to do. i need what i need. no offense, thankyou

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So funny because the ones who you think will be judgemental will not only be the ones who say "go girl" about chocolate, but also eat all the chocolate with you. I know I do. It's called everything in moderation. That's the key to long term success and stability. :flowerforyou:
But I won't judge.

hi...my name is sam. i have spent most of my life watching my weight go up and come down. i know what it takes to "manage" it i guess but i tend to really like all the wrong things and "fail" to do what is best for me. i understand what you mean by not wanting to be judged. it not that you don't want the truth...like hearing "You know you ate all the wrong things yesturday." That is no big deal right. that is just the truth and well you know that anyway when it happens. What I always need to know is that i am still in this...that it is not a failure..I need to understand why I went that way that day. to be able to talk openly about food and emotion and what went through my head without someone being mean, nasty, or offering all the answers..."you just need to ....." or "if you would only..." i work myself over pretty good when I transgress and i do not need to be assisted in making myself feel bad. being judgemental is very different from simply telling a person the truth. I can hadle the truth all day. I am an intelligent person and usually aware of the truth. facts are easy to know. Judgement is the assessment of a person from your own point of view and usually with the assumption that you are better or more insightful. Judgement assumes that you have wisdom or insight beyond the others reach. when this is infact not so the person just comes off hurtful and arrogant and is not helpful. Remember that people can only pass judgment when you give them authority to do so. Hope to get to know you better

*sniff sniff*
I didn't get a FR
*feeling judged/not one of the cool kids*

Their, there, they're @Blue! Maybe this will make you feel better!

Yes. Yes it did. Thanks : )

See.........I can be supportive. ::hands out rainbows and glitter::

but what is your are doing something wrong that is making you gain more weight? Do you still want encouragement to gain more weight?

seems counterproductive…

I friend people bc they have had success and will tell me when I am doing things wrong, because I want to learn from them and do it right...

Suggesting something is entirely different from judgment. besides i know quite a lot about weight loss because ive been reading about it for years and have lost weight in the past . the only problem i have is sticking to my plan and the only thing that can help is encouragement. i have a clear idea of what i want. and im asking for exactly that. unsolicited advice? not so much. if i want advice, ill ask. i dont see what the problem is. but like i said ive found quite a number of motivating people and after a few messages i got up and worked out for the second time today. we all need different things. everybody isnt here looking for advice. some are just here for support and encouragement. anyways have a good day, bye

Curious - If you know so much about it then why are you back here? Doesn't that imply that what you know might not be correct, and looking to people have had long term success would make more sense?

If I post a workout and one of my friends says "dude, you are doing way too much volume, or this is not right" just because I did not solicit it does not mean that it is not good advice. That is kind of advice that i want. I would rather discover now that I am doing something wrong then waiting six months down the road….

Like i said, i know enough about weight loss to actually lose weight. i never question what I'm doing. Its the motivation that fades away and id like some friends who say " Go girl" rather than ask me why i ate chocolate. because i have my food habits and exercise under control.in case you missed it before, im here to find people who will just say "you can do it" when i need to hear it and even when i dont. And i will do the same for them. If my weight loss habits dont work, ill ask for advice. But for now, i just need some friends who can give me a little push when i feel like giving up.
I dont think theres anymore explaining to do. i need what i need. no offense, thankyou

If you never question what you're doing, how do you expect to grow or progress in ANYTHING?? Regardless of whether we are talking about our health or any other part of our lives, we always have to question what we're doing so we can learn. No one is born just automatically knowing the right way to do everything. We have to question ourselves and be open to feedback from others in order to get better at whatever we're attempting.

Like I said before, good luck OP. You are going to need it.

I'm encouraging you to eat more chocolate. There, did I do that right???

Well done.