Women with non dieting husbands

I don't strap a bag of Doritos to my mouth like a feedbag.

My boyfriend doesn't put one chip in his mouth at a time. Nooooooo... he dumps the bag into his mouth. And I ain't talking about some snack sized bag...
He's 6'2.5 and 177. How? HOW.

Hubby is physically active, so he needs to eat. When he gets back I plan on making a lot of the same meals that we did before (pasta, rice, meats, etc), and will just eat less of the high calorie stuff, and more of the veggies, etc. It's also a good motivation to keep exercising so I can eat more of the delish stuff that I love! :laugh:

I refuse to make multiple meals at a time. Its something I won't do as I don't want that behavior modeled for my kids. I usually will plan to eat higher cal at dinner, and lower cal the other meals. I will serve a salad and a veggie so I can fill my plate, and will only put butter/salt on his servings. There are a few recipes I cook that he absolutely loves that don't break my calorie budget, and there are a few nights where I will tell him he has to fend for himself (because I am at the gym, etc) and that is the meal he will eat his kraft mac and cheese, ramen, pizza etc.

Low calorie meals are still yummy. My boyfriend just eats a lot more of it. & I will sometimes make him mashed potatoes and I will just have brown rice.

It helps to have support from him...try and see if you can make some recipes that he will actually not even realize are diet recipes.!

Try having a husband who is "making better choices and losing weight' who not only eats what you eat, but what the rest of the family eats as well. He practices ZERO moderation either. UGH

I don't strap a bag of Doritos to my mouth like a feedbag.

My boyfriend doesn't put one chip in his mouth at a time. Nooooooo... he dumps the bag into his mouth. And I ain't talking about some snack sized bag...
He's 6'2.5 and 177. How? HOW.

He is prolly active?
Or just he can down a lot of calories.....
How old is he?

He walks about 10 miles at work. But even before that when he was a deckhand on a fishing boat, he had winters off. He literally did not move for 4 months at a time, and nothing happened. He goes to the gym like once a month... sometimes twice if I b*tch at him enough hahaha
He's 25.

I make my husband foods he likes, but I don't care for. It makes it so much easier for the both of us. Or I will make meal with salad to have before hand. If I eat the salad I don't feel like eating as much of the regular meal.

Wrap his Big Mac in divorce papers. That'll straighten him up.

Why do people always do this? She's irritated that her husband can eat cheese, so she should divorce him? Moron.

To the OP: My boyf and I eat the same meals. He cooks, but he cooks healthy meals that fit into my diet for our shared meals. About once per week we have a naughty meal e.g. fish and chips which isn't balanced, but I build it into my calories. He then gets to eat his junk food for lunch (which I eat at work separately from him) or for snacks. We often have sticky deserts but again, I build that into my calories and macros.

I understand why you would want to cook him a nice meal before he goes away. You don't necessarily need to make that unhealthy for you too, e.g. you could cook some extra veg for you, and eat some of the yummy unhealthy stuff, but not all of it. Self control is the issue!

In general I would say that cooking a separate meal for hubby just because you're on a diet and he's not is not a good idea - just because he doesn't want to lose weight, doesn't mean he doesn't need to eat healthily.

(Besides, it rankles against the modern woman philosophy.... we're no longer property, a woman's place is not in the kitchen, and we have a right to expect equal division of household responsibilities and shouldn't be pandering to our hubby's every demand any more. We're allowed to vote and everything )

My partner eats what I cook, but we also plan what we both would like to eat, since we both pay for groceries. I'm a strict vegetarian and he's not, though he was a vegetarian for years (but that was before I met him) so he doesn't complain. He's also a former chef so he hated cooking when he got home from work because that's what he did all day. I make the food, weigh out my portion and he eats what he wants. Generally if he's still hungry he'll make himself chicken nuggets/fingers as we get him a box per week, and sometimes I don't make enough-he's over a foot taller than me and has a physical job. Since I'm not eating chips everyday he's stopped too. He's one to mindlessly eat if someone else is, and I am too, and since I stopped he has as well. I still cook our fave meals (vegan sweet potato shepherds pie is one of his faves, dumplings, perogies, udon stir frys), I just eat less than I used too.

I make one meal for the family, and people can pick and choose what they want from that. I have a husband and two small kids, so many of our meals are kid friendly not only in terms of type of food but also as far as making sure they pack enough calories to fill their active little bodies up. I just eat less of the high calorie stuff and pile on the veggies. We regularly have things like hot dogs, mac n' cheese, pizza, and tacos. I measure my portions out to fit my goal, and I try to make more homemade stuff so I can adjust the recipe, like using high protein pasta in mac n cheese. My husband is eating something like 3000 calories per day to support whatever it is he's doing for fitness these days, so he ends up taking dinner leftovers to work for lunch each day. Other than that, I just use self-control. It was tough at first, especially since I have a toddler who grazes all day, but it's really not that bad.

We eat the same things he just eats a lot more of it...

Wrap his Big Mac in divorce papers. That'll straighten him up.

Why do people always do this? She's irritated that her husband can eat cheese, so she should divorce him? Moron.

It's called sarcasm....

Ok, fair enough.

Problem is, I've seen that kind of post so many times on this forum, and serious rather than sarcastic. People think they're being clever, but actually it's tired, not that funny, and doesn't help the OP. She has asked for help with something she is finding difficult and making snarky remarks trivialises a problem which to her is serious. Without some indication that it is meant as a light-hearted remark it just comes across as jerkish. Besides, would you tell a complete stranger to divorce their husband if you were speaking to them face to face, even in jest?

Wrap his Big Mac in divorce papers. That'll straighten him up.

Why do people always do this? She's irritated that her husband can eat cheese, so she should divorce him? Moron.

It's called sarcasm....

Ok, fair enough.

Problem is, I've seen that kind of post so many times on this forum, and serious rather than sarcastic. People think they're being clever, but actually it's tired, not that funny, and doesn't help the OP. She has asked for help with something she is finding difficult and making snarky remarks trivialises a problem which to her is serious. Without some indication that it is meant as a light-hearted remark it just comes across as jerkish. Besides, would you tell a complete stranger to divorce their husband if you were speaking to them face to face, even in jest?

So women how do you still make things for your husband without eating it

I suppose I could have said "put on your big girl panties and learn some willpower," but I don't think that was the solution the OP was looking for (too obvious, and probably not "supportive" enough since she is clearly not accountable for her food consumption).

I've also gotten warnings from the mods for being "hateful" in my suggestions, so I will just stick with being absurd/silly.

Its harder with all the junk in the house for sure. That is why I slip up more than I would otherwise. After awhile some of the 'bad' food looks gross. I try to put that in my head.

Just because someone can eat McDonalds every day and not gein weight Does Not Mean they are Healthy!

Both my husband and I had pretty low "good" cholesterol numbers on my work check-up. I started eating better and working out. He has not changed. A year later... mine almost doubles. his has not moved.


THAT matters to me. I'm an older parent and want to be around as long as possible for the kids