Guys, do you like it when the woman makes the first move?

I agree ^^^^^@MityMax96
And with the amount of times a woman has to reject advances by lets say rude individuals, it's understandable that they would be quick to shrug off any moves made by strangers, so at least some hints are apreciated when their is some interest.

In theory, I like it.

In practice, I've had women pursue me and it never worked out. I felt flattered, but not particularly interested (and a few were pretty hot). Go figure.

It seems so different nowadays! Men are a lot more shy and wanting the women to approach, eh??

Absolutely! This saves me having to try and guess what you are thinking!

i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.

But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???

If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?

i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.

But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???

If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?

no. it's "normal" for a guy to make the first move. he's doing it because he's interested and she's saying yes because she's interested. that's the way it works. men have "learned" to approach women they are interested in. so if you are a girl and you've NEVER been approached, there is something wrong with you, because it's what men are "supposed" to do. if you're a guy who has never been approached, that's normal because women were taught not to approach.

(i used all the "" because that's in a stereotypical world where men approach and women do not)

I have no shame... If I want something, you're going to know about it. I think that waiting around for someone to notice you is a good way to go unnoticed. It's nice when a man makes the first move but it's not necessary. One of my lady friends has been single for a while and is online dating. She feels the need to sit back and wait for men to come to her, when really, if you like someone (or their profile/photos in her case), do something about it! Why wait around? If they don't like you for it, oh well. There will be plenty of men who find that display of confidence attractive and will appreciate it.

i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.

But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???

If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?

no. it's "normal" for a guy to make the first move. he's doing it because he's interested and she's saying yes because she's interested. that's the way it works. men have "learned" to approach women they are interested in. so if you are a girl and you've NEVER been approached, there is something wrong with you, because it's what men are "supposed" to do. if you're a guy who has never been approached, that's normal because women were taught not to approach.

(i used all the "" because that's in a stereotypical world where men approach and women do not)

And thus stereo types are the problem....

Cause for me, I fail to see the difference between the two scenarios

so what you are telling me you isn't an emotional, hormonal 21 year old that feels ugly when her friends all get hit on in public and she's the fat one. awesome info. :laugh:

hey wanna get a beer sometime? :drinker:

Ideal situation is when the girl drops hints that she's interested and then waits for the guy to actually try and set up the first date. Now in the day of internet dating though, I think it's safe to say anything goes.

Drops hints sounds like playing games. Can't we just be honest and direct?

LOL
In my case.....dropping hints don't work.
I have never been able to pick those up......
They go right by me, cause I always make the assumption she isn't interested in me......

My wife would always say something like "she was hitting on you"......if some woman was "dropping a hint".......
I never knew it.

Absolutely! I think a strong, confident woman is the sexiest thing there is.

Aaaaand I never had any confidence with women, so I might still be alone if my wife hadn't made the first move. (Still basically had to shout it in my face)