Guys, do you like it when the woman makes the first move?

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  • PatheticNoetic
    PatheticNoetic Posts: 905 Member
    i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.

    But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???

    If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?

    no. it's "normal" for a guy to make the first move. he's doing it because he's interested and she's saying yes because she's interested. that's the way it works. men have "learned" to approach women they are interested in. so if you are a girl and you've NEVER been approached, there is something wrong with you, because it's what men are "supposed" to do. if you're a guy who has never been approached, that's normal because women were taught not to approach.

    (i used all the "" because that's in a stereotypical world where men approach and women do not)

    And thus stereo types are the problem....

    Cause for me, I fail to see the difference between the two scenarios

    Thousands of years of women being thought of less than a man and bought and sold for family gain have essentially been switched up in just the last few decades. Both genders are going to fumble around with the new dynamic a bit.
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  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    Who wouldn't like it if someone came up to them, told them they were attractive (or whatever) and invited them somewhere?

    Seems to me that if you wait around for someone else to make the move, you are potentially missing out on something great because a guy was focusing on job stress (or something other than being social) at the point a woman notices him.

    i haven't read this thread, just chiming in.
  • aloranger7708
    aloranger7708 Posts: 422 Member
    Would like to report back, since I'm the OP!

    I made a move. I could tell he was really flattered, and he said he liked me. But... interested in someone else and apparently has been for a while, I guess I just didn't pick up on it since he never mentioned it until I Had the guts to ask. It hurt. Hearts broken. But I'll rebound!
  • PatheticNoetic
    PatheticNoetic Posts: 905 Member
    Would like to report back, since I'm the OP!

    I made a move. I could tell he was really flattered, and he said he liked me. But... interested in someone else and apparently has been for a while, I guess I just didn't pick up on it since he never mentioned it until I Had the guts to ask. It hurt. Hearts broken. But I'll rebound!

    You win some you lose some.
    Keep on truckin.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Don't mind if they do, but I do like to lead more than follow.

    Well, unless we are roll playing.
  • DannyMussels
    DannyMussels Posts: 1,842 Member
    Yup.
  • CharlotteAnneUK
    CharlotteAnneUK Posts: 186 Member
    So if I started sending friends requests to the guys on this stream does that mean I'd get more male MFP friends because I've initiated the move....
  • jennyjcss
    jennyjcss Posts: 439 Member
    So if I started sending friends requests to the guys on this stream does that mean I'd get more male MFP friends because I've initiated the move....

    Hahaha!! Now that's priceless remark. What do you say..Shy guys?? Want us to initiate? ;P~
  • Kr1ptonite
    Kr1ptonite Posts: 789 Member
    Yeah I like it. Either way he makes it or she does. As long as somebody does.
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  • jayche
    jayche Posts: 1,128 Member
    Short answer: Yes
    Long answer: Yeah
  • TitanGM
    TitanGM Posts: 1,161 Member
    My brain says: YES!!!
    My ego says: NO!
    My logic says: YES why NOt?
  • Staniel_2013
    Staniel_2013 Posts: 120 Member
    Absolutely, Yes.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Depends on the move.

    Reaching for the zipper on my trousers? Absolutely.

    Reaching for her Pepper Spray? No thank you.
  • No_Finish_Line
    No_Finish_Line Posts: 3,661 Member
    yes because i'm a ***** and seldom start things.

    had one friend that i was into. started seeing signs that she was interested but still couldnt make the first move. one night she just sat in my lap and started making out with me.

    how i miss college

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