Things People Say When You've Lost Weight

Funny how so many people get "have you been sick" and "don't make yourself sick".

Makes me think that most people have never known anyone that lost weight and didn't do it by going on some crazy *kitten* crash diet and make themselves weak and ill.

Lately, I've been getting "don't lose any more/you're too thin". At least this one I get. I don't carry much fat in my upper torso anymore, so my ribs and clavicle are visible. I just reassure them I'm taking care of a couple of vanity pounds hidden by my clothes, my goal is in a healthy weight range for my height, and I'm only losing about a pound a month so it won't come off too fast.

The other one I get is the constant "how can you eat THAT" or "surely you've had to cut out flour/sugar/carbs/etc". Always from the same people. Obviously they don't listen or they don't believe me, so I just say "I eat what I want, just not as much" and move on.

I wonder what they'll say when I start to bulk? That should be in the next couple of months.

I have started getting some my aunt busted out the "youre wasting away" line and I just said thank you, I am just aiming for a healthier me.

After my first initial 50lbs, I got "Wow! Your body is starting to match your face now (: (:"

Didn't take me more than a second to tell them to *kitten* off. There are compliments, and then there are double-sided compliments. I don't need negativity - if someone can't be decent and give a mild-mannered compliment, then I certainly can't give a mild-mannered response.

I think those people are a little jealous that we are trying to change our lives for the better. Consequently, these people try to feed us crap or attempt to encourage us to stop our journey.

skinny bi@tch
are you ill
if you loose those puppies when you loose weight we're getting a divorce..... yep that was just the hubby

During my journey of losing 60 lb in 6 months just by changing my eating habits my customers would come in after a few weeks see me and say "Are you sick"? I just chuckle and tell them what I did just by changing the way I ate. It seemed to motivate a few and they asked for more specifics on what I ate. I never mind the questions or interest as it gave me a boost to realize just what I had done. I looked better and I was healthier and it was noticeable to others. THAT felt good.

Considering the fact that NO ONE has noticed I've lost any weight, then no. I don't know what it's like to be commented on with weight loss. :explode: :grumble:

I kinda wish someone would comment, even if it seemed somewhat condescending, because then it would mean that my hard work is yielding results.

Usually I get the typical "You don't need to lose anymore weight.", "You're going to disappear", etc, but, I got a new one the other day which was just aggrivating.. I had turned down breakfast pizza at work because I'd already eaten my normal breakfast at home. I later ran into the woman who'd offered the pizza in the breakroom (and by offered, she said "There's breakfast pizza in the break room, but I'm guessing you won't be having any."). I was getting my yogurt and she stopped me and said, "It's nice to see that you do eat."

Ugh...

I have lost 66lbs in a very healthy way, i have got a lot of attention and most of the time i am not comfortable with it, a dad at my kids school telling me i look sexy! ( was shocked and accepted his slightly drunken embrace as i was so surprised and taken aback by his comment! )a friend asking me with a very serious and concerned face - am i ok or have I been sick? and not being really interested when she heard i had taken up running - i think she wanted the drama of a major sickness! my husband telling me i have no *kitten* now to look at and i might need a boob job as my breasts have lost so much ( to which my reply was have you looked in the mirror recently darling! he has man boobs and a huge beer gut and accepts them why should he not accept me and my new found fitness?a good looking man i have know for years has started to pay me attention ( very unwanted) i get looked at so much more by men now ( am 46 yrs old) and one of the first comments i got which still astounds me was from a very very skinny mum who has told me a few times - be careful you don't want to loose anymore weight, she is a size 6, i was a size 14 when she was telling me this - i mean does she look in the mirror at herself - or maybe she has a warped body image thing going on?!!
i feel very proud of myself as i have put in such hard work to get this far ( have gone from 104kg to 73kg in under a year)
comments are such a minefield - the whole you look amazing makes me feel even more crap about how all my life i struggled with weight and obviously did not look hot in societies eyes.
i know people are trying to make me feel good and that is great . the best thing is that at least 3 other mums have come up to me at school and said that they have lost weight through healthy eating and exercising specifically because i have been their inspiration - as one mum put it i have seen heaps of my friends do it but when i saw you do it i thought to myself if someone like her can do it - i can!! oh those thoughtless well meaning comments!!!
the best thing is that i feel fantastic, i am so healthy, i have heaps of energy, i can now run and play with my kids and i feel and look great - well done me!!!!!!
loved all the posts it showed i am not alone in being commented AT - re significant weight loss!

It's not just fitness. It's anything new and improved about you; people are going to be skeptical that you came by it through hard work and dedication. Perhaps it's because we're saturated with quick-fix ads to the point where we think that that's the only way to get things done anymore. Or maybe we're just so jealous of people who succeed where we have failed, that we can't just make ourselves believe it's true, and be happy for them. It's an envy society, either way, and we have to live in it while changing it.

Wealth is the same thing. People never want to believe that you made a little money through hard work, either. You got lucky, or screwed someone over. If you're even a modestly financially successful person, people always want to know your "secret". There was no secret. I woke up before the sun for ten years, and put in the hours. I sacrificed, planned, and executed. I stepped over barriers instead of letting them turn me back. I didn't get lucky. I worked.

When I showed my old neighbor pictures of the new house we were buying, his response was: "You're a *kitten* with too much money."

Basically fitness is like wealth - Of course everyone wants it...but until they get it, they are going to hate everyone else who has it.

When it comes to fitness, it's different for us men, generally, though. Someone can call me fat, and it's okay because it's not an implied summary of my worth based on the remnants of a centuries-old socioeconomic system that treated me as cattle. I can only imagine what women go through on a daily basis. I've been guilty of it in the past, as though freely offering my unsolicited opinion on your appearance is not the least bit offensive on multiple levels. What's worse, it's not just men; women do it to each other! It really does objectify a person. And that's no good for anyone. It's bad for you for obvious reasons. It's bad for me because, seriously, who wants to be that guy?

You took control of your health because you wanted a healthier you. It's got nothing to do with me. You sure as hell didn't do it so that I'd offer my appraisal.

If it's an acquaintance, here's the extent of my comment: "Hey, congratulations on taking control of your health! Keep up the good work." No opinion offered on the appearance vis a vis my preference about how your body should look. Just a simple positive acknowledgement of your progress.

If it's a closer friend: "Wow, whatever you're doing is working!" No annoying questions. No disingenuous expressions of concern. No imposition of my own values. Just a slightly more intimate acknowledgement and encouragement.

If it's my wife: "Get over here. Now." But that's a different story.

TL;DR Haters gonna hate, and stop treating women like objects. Unless they say it's okay.