What my Psychologist told me

I have no point of reference to this. I just wanted to say that I hope you get better, life is awesome and I hope you learn to live it to the fullest! Good luck.

I don't think that's the best way to deal with a food addiction. Is it really going to be reasonable to NEVER have a piece of birthday cake or chocolate again? No cookies at Christmas? I think that kind of all or nothing thinking will just lead to binging and guilt.

I think it is reasonable to tell yourself that you are abstaining from trigger foods for awhile...but eventually you have to learn to eat them in moderation.

maybe it is best to abstain from your most desired "bad foods", at least until you have come to a place in your life where you feel more in control of your actions and can use moderation and are better able to employ healthier ways to cope with stress.

I can't eat chocolate or most sweets in moderation.I have tried and other than sweets I do a great job with moderation and portion control.so I try to avoid all sweets. I do have them and won't say I can NEVER have them again, but for me I can't just have one piece or even one portion. I bought candy on Valentine's day and told my husband I was going to have one piece and freeze the rest. SEVEN pieces later I finally admitted it was a horrible idea and gave them to the kids and told them not to tell me where they were......I am out of sight out of mind with sweets. So guess that was my long way of saying I agree with the doctor.

I've found it more helpful to get my head around why I want to overeat, how overeating (in general or certain foods) makes me feel, what feelings I'm covering up or avoiding with overeating etc. For me, overeating in order to cope with unpleasant emotions is a habit that I learned in childhood and practised for 20+ years, so it's not something that's going to go away easily, but I have been able to change things with time.

I have to look at the payoff - what is it that I'm getting out of reaching for the chocolate or biscuits every time I'm upset, bored, lonely or whatever. What am I getting out of overeating, and what other ways can I deal with those emotions instead of overeating? For me, cutting out all the foods I tend to overeat would not only have created cravings for those foods, and made it 10x harder for me to change my lifestyle permanently, but it would also have given me an excuse not to look at the real reasons for me overeating, and address those.

I still love food, all different kinds, and it's something that brings me a simple pleasure in life, you know, along with music, and walking in the sunshine, and gardening, and drawing. I still use food to cope in some ways. Sometimes, a cookie makes you feel better, just like a cup of hot tea, or a hug, or watching your favourite film. And yeah, sometimes for me, I still rely on food a little too much to cope, but thanks to calories counting, and healthy eating in general, it's under control. The vast majority of the time I can now enjoy foods in moderation along with a healthy lifestyle and much healthier coping mechanisms.

I truly believe that if I'd given up eating chocolate, biscuits, ice cream, cake etc etc that I would have lasted a few months at most before caving in and giving up. Either that, or I would have just found some other unhealthy way to cope. I have learned to eat in moderation, and to do that, I've been forced to address the causes of the need to overeat.

So, that's just me, and what has worked for me. Ultimately, you have to do what works for you, and for some people, that does mean making drastic changes to their diets. There are others that find it helpful to cut out certain foods for a period of time, while they work on healthier habits, and at a later date reintroduce those foods. (When I started on MFP the one thing I did cut out for a while was Nutella, as I found it too hard to control my intake of at first. I introduced it after a few months and to be honest I rarely eat it now, even if there's an open jar, as my tastes have changed a bit.) I would hope that if you're seeing the psychologist for any period of time that he would help you deal with the underlying causes instead of just encouraging you to avoid certain foods.

YEP....Sweet things especially chocolate is my nemesis. If I have a little there is like a flip that gets switched in my brain and I lose my damn mind and begin binging on anything and everything...but prefer to binge on sweet stuff, like baked goods. I can't even replace it with artificial sweetener because it will do the same thing for me.

Ok so this is my struggle. I have up all sweeteners of all types when I first began to lose weight...the longer I gave it up the less I cared about it. I would not even eat jelly, cereals, drinks with sweetener of any kind in them, I mean nothing (unless hidden in food like pasta sauce or I allowed myself protein powder / bars)....anyway...once I began to eat it again, I thought this is no big deal I can handle this and for a few months I could until I was eating sweets everyday and felt I could not go without them. So I had to stop again.

At this point I vacillate between thinking I need to stop fully again and think about how realistic it is to not have anything sweet for the rest of my life....sure I can do it, but how realistic is it....don't know...I know it is a daily struggle and I seemed to struggle a bit less when I was really strict on them however getting to that point is so incredibly difficult and I have tried so many times again.....WOW all of those words to just say I have no idea right now.

Well when I started at 560 and worked with my therapist to understand and get a grip on my emotional issues that was leading me to bury them with food. My therapist told me that in the being abstaining from those trigger foods was probably a good idea but at some point, we had to get a handle on my depression and then have to come to an understanding of what is behind my overeating then we will need to work on my relationship with those foods because there is no way you will get through life completely avoiding those foods.... So learning moderation and self control was the more viable option long term...... This advice help me overcome my additions to said foods and in the process lose a few pounds and keep them off....... Just my 2 cents.... Best of Luck

Nacho cheese doritos. I love all kinds of chips and doritos were one of my favorites. But not nacho cheese. I liked the sweet chili flavor better. One day I bought nacho cheese and I was hooked. Couldn't stop eating them. Whatever size I bought, that's how many I ate. Even giant Costco size bags. I had never been addicted to a food like that before. It was like food crack or something!

One day I had just started a Costco size bag and was totally disgusted with myself. Then I became angry. I took the full bag into the kitchen and literally pounded it with my fists until it was a bag of crumbs. To ensure I wouldn't eat the crumbs I dumped them into the kitchen sink and soaked them with water. Boy did they smell bad!

I have never had one bite of nacho cheese doritos since that day. It's been almost a year. I still have 'danger foods' that I'm tempted to binge on. If I can have them without binging I eat them. The first time I binge on them, I don't allow myself to eat them anymore.

No matter how good that food may taste, it's not worth it to have food have that kind of power over me. After all, it's just food.

In, for the inevitable argument over sugar / sugar + fat and food addiction.

OP, you might want to check out this book, and the term 'hyperpalatable foods.'

http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/compulsive-overeating-and-how-to-stop-it

Give this a read and see if it resonates: http://www.gretchenrubin.com/happiness_project/2012/05/quiz-are-you-an-abstainer-or-a-moderator/

I choose to abstain from certain foods simply because I have a hard time eating them in moderation - they can be binge triggers - so it's easier on me mentally and physically to not eat them.

It was the only way I could cope with a nicotine addiction so - who knows - it may be the best way for you to cope. Perhaps just cut out the worst offender at first?

Me 2. I can never have another hit again, or I will smoke.

Hey guys,

I started seeing a psychologist when I lost a loved one, had the hardest time in the world accepting it and began questioning life. He's been a huge help. We also discussed how I use food as a coping method. Not any food, just the sweet fattening crap. I told him that I have tried moderation many times and most of the time it leads to binging.

His response was " Never eat it again. Do I really need to have it? Will I really miss it?"

That was last week. I haven't done it yet as it got me thinking. Is this really the best way?

Is anyone else in this predicament where you binge on certain foods? Have you given the food up completely?

I'm very sorry for your loss. It sounds like your psychologist did wonders to help you through your stages of grief. It also sounds like he may not understand much about ED. I don't know about you but I've gone to the store, bought food, brought it home and binged on it and have no memory or only a vague memory of any of it. Just saying "Never eat it again" would not have been helpful to me. Perhaps he can refer you to a psychologist, counselor or support group that can help.

I wish you the best. :flowerforyou:

Didn't read the comments, here are my thoughts....

How does does the advice sound to you? Does it feel reasonable and like something you'd actually want to do and happily be able to do --- or would making it off limits make you want it even more? Can you learn other coping techniques through cognitive behavior therapy that will lessen your desire to binge in the first place, making moderation a more reasonable possibility?

You know yourself better than any of us know you. Go with your gut.

For me that would require giving up all food, except for calamari and hard boiled eggs which I hate. I can overeat on anything.

I think that your psychologist is not an expert on nutrition or diet, and should stick to his area of expertise. What you do need to do, is not eat when you are depressed, or bored, or anxious, or stressed, or whatever. Instead, find other healthier ways to deal with these emotions. Exercise really is great for dealing with all of those things.