What my Psychologist told me
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There are so many great comments here, thank you!
So, after giving it some thought, I think I will give it up temporarily. I'm having a b-day party for my kids on March 15th so I will make that my day to indulge in a piece of cake.
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Yeah, I think that's a good idea. I liked Ed's advice. It was what i would say. Take a temporary break to reduce the stress of the binges while you work out the underlying issues and find better coping skills.0 -
I am sorry for your loss too. When I need help I get counseling and go to support groups too. While in counseling, you are learning about yourself and how to manage your emotions. You are expected to practice what is discussed, and talk about how that went. Eventually you complete counseling and use these tools on your own. You are doing good work! For breaking free from addictive behaviors I learned that the steps are to: 1) Avoid people, places and things that are triggers. 2) Seek positive outlets daily to dwell on. 3) Love yourself more and 4) Ask for help. Good luck!0
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Well when I started at 560 and worked with my therapist to understand and get a grip on my emotional issues that was leading me to bury them with food. My therapist told me that in the being abstaining from those trigger foods was probably a good idea but at some point, we had to get a handle on my depression and then have to come to an understanding of what is behind my overeating then we will need to work on my relationship with those foods because there is no way you will get through life completely avoiding those foods.... So learning moderation and self control was the more viable option long term...... This advice help me overcome my additions to said foods and in the process lose a few pounds and keep them off....... Just my 2 cents.... Best of Luck
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My Mom died suddenly a year ago and I started binge eating too. I gained a ton of weight and after time I am just learning to handle her passing in a more positive way. Destroying my health is not going to bring her back. She was my best friend and I know she would want me to take care of myself, so I am now.
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Again I think rather to approach food as I want this and not that. Don't think of it as deprived of things I want. See that Krispy Kreme donut. I do not want that I want this Blueberry Yogurt Parfait. When you want that chocolate cake say I want only this much ( a controlled portion ). I find it helpful not to 'desire' something just say ... Nope. I eat out of anxiety sometimes myself. I look at fat and sugar and carbs as 'addictions' I must control. Do not keep red light foods in the house. Period.0
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I didn't have time to read all of the comments, but thought I would offer my two cents. I have the same problem, but it is not limited to sweets. It is all processed carbs and starchy whole foods. I am not able to eat one serving of mashed potatoes or one serving of peas. I want to eat all of it once I start. Let's say I have peas with dinner and I overdo on the peas. That may not be so bad, but I won't stop there. I will have the peas ( all of them) and then proceed to eat chips, sweets, etc. for the remainder of the night once I start. I have to NOT start. Right now my diet consists of lean protein, certain fruits, and certain vegetables. That's all I can handle with portion control. I am not saying I will never eat the things I love again, but I know I cannot eat them and lose the weight that I need to lose. Best of luck to you.0
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Yes. I enjoy chocolate a lot. However, I am finding that I have to give it up completely because I don't have the will power to eat just one piece. So yes you aren't the only one. My husband loves chips and dip, I can eat a little bit of that and walk away. He can't, he'll eat the whole bag of chips and the container of dip in one sitting. Chocolate on the other hand does nothing for him. Everyone has their things that get to them, so your psychologist is right. But don't focus on what you're giving up, focus on all the wonderful foods that you can still have :-)0
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Is anyone else in this predicament where you binge on certain foods? Have you given the food up completely?
There is no such thing as moderation in my book - if I have chocolate, ice cream or cake in the house, I have to eat it. I literally think about nothing else while it is there. I am a junkie
I tried the whole moderation thing because here at work, there is always cake or buscuits around for anyone to help themselves to and they are inconveniently located right near my desk where I can see them :grumble: If I think "well I can have a little bit and allow it into my calorie allowance" I find that is what I will do, but I will keep going back and having more and more until I use up all my allowed calories and then I can't have a steak for dinner, or I have to do extra cardio after my workout to compensate. So it is better for me to just not have any in the first place. If I don't have any then I don't crave it but if I have even a little bit I need to eat it all!
I truly believe that food is as addictive as drugs, alcohol, sex or any other "thing" that given the right circumstances people can obscess about.0 -
His response was " Never eat it again. Do I really need to have it? Will I really miss it?"
That was last week. I haven't done it yet as it got me thinking. Is this really the best way?
It depends on the person. Some people can be social drinkers - other people it's one taste and "Next stop, Drunk Tank".0 -
His response was " Never eat it again. Do I really need to have it? Will I really miss it?"
That was last week. I haven't done it yet as it got me thinking. Is this really the best way?
It depends on the person. Some people can be social drinkers - other people it's one taste and "Next stop, Drunk Tank".
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The psychologist who leads my women's eating disorder support group would disagree with your therapists advice. She is a big proponent of "normalized eating" and believes that cutting out any particular food is not ultimately workable for most people.
Getting behind what the food means to you, what you hopes it does to meet your needs, and ultimately, the awareness that it CAN'T meet your emotional needs, is one of the keys to overcoming disordered eating.0 -
My Mom died suddenly a year ago and I started binge eating too. I gained a ton of weight and after time I am just learning to handle her passing in a more positive way. Destroying my health is not going to bring her back. She was my best friend and I know she would want me to take care of myself, so I am now.
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From your post I sense your mom was an awesome mother and human being.0 -
Hey guys,
I started seeing a psychologist when I lost a loved one, had the hardest time in the world accepting it and began questioning life. He's been a huge help. We also discussed how I use food as a coping method. Not any food, just the sweet fattening crap. I told him that I have tried moderation many times and most of the time it leads to binging.
His response was " Never eat it again. Do I really need to have it? Will I really miss it?"
That was last week. I haven't done it yet as it got me thinking. Is this really the best way?
Is anyone else in this predicament where you binge on certain foods? Have you given the food up completely?
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I don't think that's the best way to deal with a food addiction. Is it really going to be reasonable to NEVER have a piece of birthday cake or chocolate again? No cookies at Christmas? I think that kind of all or nothing thinking will just lead to binging and guilt.
I think it is reasonable to tell yourself that you are abstaining from trigger foods for awhile...but eventually you have to learn to eat them in moderation.
She's not talking about an 'addiction'. Foods are not addicting. We do use them to self medicate, which is what she admits to doing.
OP - if it's a problem for you right now, try abstaining and see how it works. When your head gets settled down, you might find you need your comfort foods less often. To abstain from something you love for the rest of your life will likely lead to you feeling deprived.0 -
The psychologist who leads my women's eating disorder support group would disagree with your therapists advice. She is a big proponent of "normalized eating" and believes that cutting out any particular food is not ultimately workable for most people.
Getting behind what the food means to you, what you hopes it does to meet your needs, and ultimately, the awareness that it CAN'T meet your emotional needs, is one of the keys to overcoming disordered eating.
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She did say that she decided to take a break from the binge foods until mid march when she plans to eat a slice of birthday cake.0
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Hey guys,
I started seeing a psychologist when I lost a loved one, had the hardest time in the world accepting it and began questioning life. He's been a huge help. We also discussed how I use food as a coping method. Not any food, just the sweet fattening crap. I told him that I have tried moderation many times and most of the time it leads to binging.
His response was " Never eat it again. Do I really need to have it? Will I really miss it?"
That was last week. I haven't done it yet as it got me thinking. Is this really the best way?
Is anyone else in this predicament where you binge on certain foods? Have you given the food up completely?
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I agree with you. This is the approach I have chosen. Moderation just makes me feel like I need/want more.0 -
His response was " Never eat it again. Do I really need to have it? Will I really miss it?"
That was last week. I haven't done it yet as it got me thinking. Is this really the best way?
It depends on the person. Some people can be social drinkers - other people it's one taste and "Next stop, Drunk Tank".
TOOT TOOT ! ALL ABOARD !
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She did say that she decided to take a break from the binge foods until mid march when she plans to eat a slice of birthday cake.
Yes I did say this
This is going to be an interesting b-day party. We will be celebrating my daughter, my son and my daughter's roommate/best friend. My daughter is GF, her roommate is vegan and my son will eat anything you put in front of him :happy:0 -
So sorry for your loss. Hopefully this psychologist is helping you learn new coping strategies to deal with the feelings we have when suffering through something so powerful.
In terms of your food question...not sure. I think it depends on the individual. I am learning that if I have chewy candy and chocolate I crave it even more and go back to the cupboard time and time again. I am going to cut it out completely until Easter and see if I can do it. Not sure if I can do it but I need to try.
I hope you're able to overcome your "craving" foods and your pain right now. Hugs.0
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