'selfish' for losing weight

I don't think that's selfish at all you need to surround yourself with more encouraging people.

Do it for yourself & prove the fat *kitten* wrong!!!:laugh:

Be selfish. It's your body and your life. What anyone else thinks is irrelevant.

I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.

I think that regardless of reason for wanting to lose weight and the things that motivate us, making healthy, good goals and following through with them is an admirable trait in a human being. My main reason for wanting to lose weight is to look good AND to wear cute clothes! Is it vain? Oh, hell yeah. Not a doubt about it! But that doesn't mean I shouldn't do it. It doesn't mean that it won't benefit my health and likely extend my life by a few years or more. My vain reasons won't make the benefits of maintaining a healthy weight disappear and my vain reasons for wanting to get in shape are nobody's business.

Also. . . vain does not equate selfish. Ignore this person and keep heading toward your goal. Good luck!

You're making the fat, lazy people around you feel bad about themselves with your success. You really should be more considerate! I bet you never once considered how other people would feel when you started to look hot and they stayed as a not.

Wait, that's not how it works.

Tell them to shut up and have another cookie.

Number 1 reason I am losing weight: To look hot as fluck naked and rock the teeniest bikini at the beach with my son on my hip.

Am I vain for admitting it? Absolutely. So? Who cares what the reasons are? If the reason is sufficient for you, that's all that matters.

If you are 85lbs over weight, it is not hard to believe you would have the desire to lose it for other reasons too than just vanity. That being said, whatever your reason is, people need to respect it.

Actually we all know that losing weight is time consuming and at times expensive. We spend time at the gym, working out, counting calories, researching and even reading and writing on the forums. If we are neglecting our spouses, children, friends etc to do this then maybe we are being selfish. But...maybe we've neglected our heath so long that those close to us are glad to give us that time. On the other hand eating more than our share of food for our size and activity level is in fact selfish. We are storing extra fat on our bodies and spending extra money on food. We could donate that money to a charity that feeds others who need some fat. If we are consumed with our appearance and maintaining it is our first priority in life then that's selfish. However, if we neglect our health and are unable to play with our children or expect them to sit at our side in the hospital due to our self-induced illnesses then we are selfish. It's all about boundaries. It likely that only we ourselves know if we are being selfish or vain in regard to the time, money and essentially priority we give to losing weight.

We're always raised to think of selfishness as a bad trait, but I think it's super important to be selfish. We need to put ourselves first, and manage our own needs as a priority. Embrace your selfishness, I say!

I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.

Why do you feel the need to tell everyone your reasons? Maybe that;s what people are more annoyed about, you telling them constantly rather than your reasons. Just get on with it

The main reason i want to loose weight? The same reason most women (including myself) wear mascara: to look cute, nice attractive, better or whatever other vain reason. If loosing weight makes you feel better and healthier, go for it!

That's my main reason for losing weight. Yeah its great for the health benefits and all that, but lets face it, I look frikkin awesome in clothes and I don't care how selfish that is!! You do what you want!!

How can wanting to improve yourself and be healthy be selfish. You carry on with what you are doing, you are doing well. The people who are saying that are just jealous that you are able to do it. They are being selfish in trying to discourage you. Keep up the good work.

Whoever is telling you that you are selfish is being very selfish themselves, losing weight is a very personal thing and we all have our own reasons! Go ahead, lose the weight, we are all here to support each other & unless that will make you dangerously underweight I can't see any issues! Healthy is good!