WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2014

Hi ladies! So much enjoy reading your posts!

I'm in the same place as several of you ... need to get my head back in the game! Weight is stuck at the moment ... but that is due to inconsistent eating and exercise. Nasty cold isn't helping.

Sylvia... your "arm deterrent " in the candy aisle had me laughing out loud! Will definitely do this myself! ????

Sandy in ON ... you are experiencing great success! Being able to move comfortably is my favorite NSV.

LucyT4dieting ... people commenting on my weight loss affects me negatively also ... what is up with that!!

Hope you all have a great day!

Beth in WNY

Barbie - you look GREAT!! What a wonderful; picture, and you look so happy in it too. :flowerforyou:

peach state gal - like many others on here, we also went through this with my Mom and MIL at different times. For my mom (who also had some dementia) we had an aide come in about 3 times a day to make get mom up, make meals, put her to bed. She also went to a senior day center where she had lunch and also had her vitals, including sugar checked daily. When it became apparent she needed night coverage also, we found an aide to live in. Mom didn't like it, but she understood that all this was keeping her at home. It was less that assisted living, until we got the live-in aide, then it was about the same. The biggest expense was the transportation to and from the senior day center 4-5 days a week. At the time, I lived about 1,500 miles away and managed the aides, etc. For my MIL, we had her move in with us - took some battling but once she was here, she really loved it. Don't know if this will help or not.

Yesterday was finally a nice day! DH did his first grill of the year - lots of grilled veggies - yummmm. Today is cloudy and winter returns tomorrow with highs in the 20s and lows in single digits.

Also, a shout out for DH - he has been asking me to go to the Y with him on Sundays (nope he wasn't going before). He knows I have wanted to add a third day of exercise, and this is his way of encouraging me. Now if only the scale would move downward instead of staying still! :happy:

Jill in western MA

Have a great sun!!
Feeling lousy still.
Barbie,you look great.
HUGS
jane

I'm sad that the Olympics are done now. I'm watching the closing ceremonies.

I went to aquafit again this morning. A friend's daughter came with DD & myself, she's a few years older then DD. She was in a very serious car accident a few years ago and has been permanently disabled by it. She's such a sweet girl. She wants to go for gastric bypass surgery and has started the process. I'm concerned for her because of all that she's been through physically and mentally. She's in psychiatric hospital right now but comes home most weekends. I get the feeling that she's looking for a quick fix for her weight problem. I've offered for her to come with me to the gym any time she wants and so has DD.

DD is working 11 hour days this week and she is very grumpy when she gets tired. I don't deal very well with her moods.

Barbie - you look amazing, thanks for posting your picture. I love your outfit

Meg - I hope you are able to reduce some of the stress in your life. Don't forget to take care of yourself

Yanniejannie - what a friend you are. But don't forget about you!

Sandy in ON (supposed to go back into a deep freeze this week :sad: )

Happy Sunday evening to all you beautiful ladies. Well we did not get the snow they were expecting. Just to be cold this week and I can deal with that. We went to the movie Nebraska last evening and it was so funny.:laugh: You could tell it was not a big budget movie, but it was just like when I grew up and I knew people just like it. The theater was full again last evening, but I can understand that now that I have seen the movie.
Didn't make it to church this morning:blushing: . DH and I slept in till almost 9:30. That does not happen often so we must of needed it. Now this evening I am working a few hours to help cover for a girl in the hospital. Then I have to be back at 5:30 in the morning so will be a short night.

Michelle--thought of you this afternoon when the race went on rain delay. When I left to come to work it was still raining. DH said they would run tomorrow if they can't today. Will you go back tomorrow if they run then?

Yanniejannie--Gwen is so lucky to have you as a friend. Good Luck on getting the taxes done tomorrow.:flowerforyou:

DeeDee--I agree I would also like to see a picture of you in your new sassy boots.

Sue--Who wrote the book Pilgrim at Tinker Creek? I do enjoy reading different views. I enjoied the Shack and the Guard. I have my name on the list at the library for Phone Call from Heaven.

Barbie--I agree you look great and so happy. It's not surprising that you cheer people up when you dance.:flowerforyou:

jb--Hugs!! I need to take that advice and think more before I eat. I have really been stuggling and eating to much. You would think I'd of learned when I gained last week. Thanks for the reminder!!

Jill--Sounds like DH is helping and that is great. Maybe I will have to tell my DH he needs to step up. We talk about walking together and then space it off when the weather is cold.

Kathy--Good for you! One day at a time is the only way to go.:drinker:

Joyce-sounds like you, DD and DGD have a good day at church.

Sandy--sorry to hear about DD's friend. So nice of both of you to be there for her. Surgery is a big step and not for everyone. I have two sisters that had the gastric by pass and they did lose the weight at first and gained it back and now there is nothing they can do. I had the lap band done a year ago and I did alot of praying and studing before hand. The part I like the best is that they did not cut my insides and they can ajust this the rest of my life. I still have to count calories and watch what I eat and now that I have lost so much it is lose and I have not had an ajustment since last May as found this site and doing well. The one thing I have learned is that no matter what this is a lifestyle change and a person must be willing to do it for the rest of your life or nothing will change.

Katle--I have an idea what a bippy is and freezing it would not be fun.:blushing:

Well I am getting ready to turn in the night as 4:30 sure comes early. Have a safe and warm evening.
Blessed! Vicki GI NE

Thanks for the input on handling a cheat meal!. I read all the posts and am cheering each of you on, but listing you all by name is too overwhelming yet! I am trying to figure out who is who still.

I am wondering at what percentage of weight lost did you begin to get comments from folks who did not know you were dieting... I am figuring that folks that KNOW you are trying will say stuff before they really see it just to cheer you on... but a friend you don't see often or someone at work you have not told... is it at 10% less or 5% or 20% - i figure it has to be a percent because of everyones different start weight.

All of you in snow land - I can't imagine how much harder exercise is - I'm in CA and was transplanting iris today and walking the dog, in short sleeves....

Wishing everyone a great week!

Sniff, sniff, Olympics are officially done. The guy from Rio sure looked happy as he was waving the flag for the summer Olympics. Was very pleased that they went off without any problems. The ceremony tonight was one of much culture and beauty, not the usual closing celebration that the last Olympics had but I liked it.

Well as I said earlier my daughter and SIL weren't feeling well this afternoon and I am glad they took a nap even though it kept me from going with husband to friends house. They finally left at 5:30 which is 6:30 their time. They will need to stop for supper, takes close to 3 1;2 hours. A good 10 PM before they get home, it's a school day tomorrow. So when hubbie comes home he asks me when they left. So when I told him 5:30 he about blew up at me. Why did I let them sleep so long. I am not the Mm and Dad here. Yes, I am an adult but Dad had diarrhea and Mom's back was so bad she could hardly walk and one of them was supposed to drive home. SIL woke up and watched Disney with us, very quietly so Mom could sleep. He watched for about an hour. He could have gone upstairs and told him wife they needed to go. I am not their keeper. He eventually did go upstairs and tell her it was time to get up. They both woke up refreshed. I did try my best to get the girls to have every thing cleaned up and ready to go so the moment they woke up the ids would be ready. But I didn't succeed in that all together. The 7 year old if actuallly diagnosed would be ADHD I think. But with the proper teacher and stimulation at home she is an excellent student. Finishes her work and would go around and finish everyone else's if they let her. But left to her own resources she goes from one thing to another without finishing. She loves to use my big plush recliners as sliding boards. That is until I caught her. She's the kind of kid that if you have 10 rocking chairs in one house she would run and get them all rocking at the same time. She loves to draw, unfortunately she uses her own body as the canvas. Her Mom doesn't care one bit. If she were my daughter or staying at Grandma's house with out Mom, I wouldn't let her do it. I told her the next time she comes here and she wants to draw just to ask me for some paper and I would love to keep the drawings. Her father made the bad decision to teach her how to make paper boats, hat and even paper balloons this weekend. so my house was full of those. I gave her a plastic bag to make sure she did take them all home. I didn't want to be the heavy to tell her that as soon as she left to go home they would all go in my trashcan. She did make this one little tiny hat that if laminated or waxed or something it would make a really nice individual serving size of almonds or something like that. Her Mom thought she would keep that.My daughter was the most organized person when she was a child. I don't know what happened to her when she grew up. They brought the laundry with them and the suitcases I brought the girls for Christmas. Didn't realize they were so large!!! So after the dryer, they just threw the clean dry clothes in the suitcases without folding anything. I had laundry to do also and made sure that the odest helped me hang up every piece as it came out of the dryer. and showed her how I use the top of the washing machine to fold as they come out of the dryer. But no go. They want to do it the way they do it. And I guess that's they way they can choose it. I just know that if that's the way a 12 year old is going to learn than more than likely she will do that as an adult.

Daughter and I spent a lot of time this weekend looking at rental homes for fall break. We have narrowed it down to 15 houses. Now we just have to decide how important it is to have a 4 or 5 bedroom home. We have found the cost to be better than we thought they would be. I am used to not sleeping with my husband. I can do it one night but not 4 nights. I did it at Disney World and it's tough. A sound machine can only block out so much snoring. Daughter and SIL would like a separate bedrooms as the kids. And of course the other daughter needs her own bedroom. When we were at Myrtle Beach the girls had their own bedrooms and they would just get up, watch Disney and fix their own breakfast. It's a very artsy house on the beach. No really my husbands style but the info says that there are dolphins that you can see daily so that sounded interesting. But the 64 million question is what is the water and air temperature in mid October in Panama city area???But it was very beachfront which I wanted. Wonderful decks to go out and enjoy the morning breeze, sunset or just watch your family play. Oh, my bedroom would normally be the kids bunkbed room!!! I would have the double bed part of the bunkbed. What fun.

Not talking to much to hubbie after he came home. He didn't like it that I let the kids get off so late and has called me a few choice words. I know in my heart that it wasn't my fault. They are adults. But it till hurts. I kind of stress ate after wards.

Back to a normal week tomorrow. If we had been the ones travelling, I would sleep until close to supper time tomorrow but since they came here and we did nothing yesterday I won't allow myself to do that. I did go ahead to Kohl's tonight and buy another pair of my size 12 Vera Wang jeans. They were on sale for $29 and I had and additional 15% off. Love me good sale. I tried to get the girls to go with me and get them out of the house and away from sleeping sick parents but they both wanted to watch the Disney Channel. So as soon as they left I went.

Joyce, Indiana

Michelle I was reading and re-reading your post and wondering why you thought I was looking for a hoe. Now a hoe can be used in gardening or a *kitten*. Since I really don't use either I wasn't sure why I needed a hoe. Then I figured you are talking about a HOME.

About Gastric bypass. I'm with others. If God meant me to have a smaller stomach he would have mad me that way. I have a SIL that had the lap band done. She had fantastic weight loss, was unrecognizable. But she dindnt follow the very strict diet, ate small amounts but of all the wrong foods. She lost so much weight she was a walking skeleton, bed sores, terrible shape. Ended up i ICU on a ventilator. They gave her 20% chance of living. Eventually had to remove the band and now she is probably double what she weighed before the lapband. The other person recently had a gastric sleeve. So she only has 20% of her stomach left. It is a very permanent surgery. She has lost 80 pounds and looks good. But the meals she eats is terrible. Such tiny bites and then waits 5 minutes before the next bite. Then one day she will have a Snickers bar. Both of these girls went through extensive psyciactric eval. The second friend was quite drinker. I can't imaging her giving up her liquoer for the rest of her life. I think she is still in the honeymoon phase.

Bedtime now ladies. Joyce, Indiana

And I should try and change the ticker ... it shows my loss since I joined MFP ... and not my total loss!

:flowerforyou: jb -you made some great goals. I paticularly also like when you said "At this stage of my journey it's all about problem solving. I have to step aside from my emotions and really think things through on a daily basis. Really think. And plan. "

Problem solving involves analysis of identifying the problem, and deciding what to do about it, if anything (depends if you have control over the problem or not). I have found it helpful to follow 3 points:
1. Assume nothing
2. Question everything
3. Use logic and reasoning (critical thinking)

When (use when, not if) during the problem solving process, new assumptions arise, question those as well. When you get stuck in the process, don't give up, it's a journey. In term of weighloss, We did not get fat overnight, habits took a long time to form, magic buttons do not exist, fat does not miraculously melt away, health can or already has been affected.

If you google " problem solving" or " using logic in problem solving", you will find some interesting tools.