"Oh, so you're starving yourself?"

Love it! :P

So my mother just informed me that they are having Chinese take out for dinner and since I just had Red Robin for lunch (and was hoping to have a semi healthy, filling, yet not completely bulky meal for dinner) I told her I was planning on having yogurt, granola and a ton of fruit for dinner. She replied, "Oh, so you're starving yourself?" I said, "No! I'm not starving myself! I ate a lot of food today and since I'm still full, I don't feel like eating a bulky dinner." She proceeded to run outside and yell to my neighbors (there were 5+ of them outside,) "She is starving herself tonight!"

I'm not really embarrassed or anything like that because I know that I am not starving myself by choosing this meal. I have been craving yogurt, granola and fruit for a while now and I am not in the mood for a bulky meal so I am mainly eating just to eat haha.

I am a bit mad about this, though. This isn't the first time she's criticized my eating choices. It seems if I am not eating the junk food she wants me to eat, I am not eating "correctly" to her.

What can I say to her? I've tried, "I'm doing this for my health, please support me." and it obviously doesn't help.

Anyone been through something like this before?

People are uncomfortable with change. It scares the bejeebus out of them! I'd ignore her. What she did was nuts but others have been there before. At another site I read about how one woman's mom cussed her out endlessly when the poster asked her mom for the recipe of a food. She asked for the recipe so she'd know how many calories were in it along with the serving size, and her mom went off saying "what kind of #$%^ing diet is this #*&@ing !@#$*&&%" it was THAT bad.

If you were starving yourself, would you even be eating? Nope. Instead you're eating protein-rich food and are going to do it in sight. It's not like you are being secretive. She's just uncomfortable, and I wouldn't give it more attention than warranted.

Ask your mom why she wants you to stay fat?

Meanwhile just keep doing what you are-It's working for you!

So my mother just informed me that they are having Chinese take out for dinner and since I just had Red Robin for lunch (and was hoping to have a semi healthy, filling, yet not completely bulky meal for dinner) I told her I was planning on having yogurt, granola and a ton of fruit for dinner. She replied, "Oh, so you're starving yourself?" I said, "No! I'm not starving myself! I ate a lot of food today and since I'm still full, I don't feel like eating a bulky dinner." She proceeded to run outside and yell to my neighbors (there were 5+ of them outside,) "She is starving herself tonight!"

I'm not really embarrassed or anything like that because I know that I am not starving myself by choosing this meal. I have been craving yogurt, granola and fruit for a while now and I am not in the mood for a bulky meal so I am mainly eating just to eat haha.

I am a bit mad about this, though. This isn't the first time she's criticized my eating choices. It seems if I am not eating the junk food she wants me to eat, I am not eating "correctly" to her.

What can I say to her? I've tried, "I'm doing this for my health, please support me." and it obviously doesn't help.

Anyone been through something like this before?

Since you're on MFP I assume you're an adult.

As such you do not have to answer to anyone else. Stop explaining/debating/arguing with her. The end.

Some battles are destined to fail you cannot win this with force or a degree of diplomacy. I get that you mother is worried about you, I don't think educating her is going to solve anything as she will say OMG is that all you had to eat - you are starving yourself!

Keep doing what you know is right - compromise where you choose to For eg. For the Chinese meal you could have steamed vegetables and skip the fried noodles etc.... these will help with the family thing and is not heavy calories.

One thing we have going on at home now is shared diary events (thanks Google!) with the family - now this does go both ways if you mum wants to plan a family "take-out or eat in" dinner that varies from the norm then she can put it in the shared diary a day or so ahead - so you can plan ahead for meals (at least a little). It also helps with the "I never know where you are anymore if you are safe"...etc.... You don't need to share all the details in return but you may need to be prepared to share some details "out a the XYZ club with friends".. maybe something that may help for your situation? That way she won't be offended if you are out "with friends" etc..... as you have already planned thee events ahead. For eg. We put in when we will be at the gym so the tribe at home can co-ordinate cooking dinner when we won't be home. Adding details like "We will work out our own dinner" or "put aside a couple of portions for us later".

WTF? Running out and telling the neighbors? That's just whacked.

For real. You mom has issues. That's just nuts.

Someone else sort of said the same thing up there, but I think this is more about her than you. You choosing a healthier option for your dinner probably made her feel guilty about her choices and I think she got defensive and lashed out. I am a little lost about her running out to yell at the neighbors, though. :noway:

Take your share and have it for lunch tomorrow.

How old are you?

Drink a ****load of Jim Beam. Go out and drag her *kitten* around the front yard by her hair. Then call her a slut and punch her a few times. Then when the cops come say "that ***** started it". And then pass out. Just saying that's how we handle family bidness in Texas.

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