Husband eats what he wants/ I'm trying to lose weight

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Sorry, this might not be the supportive feedback you were looking for, but it shouldn't matter if your husband eats what he wants. He's not the one trying to change and lose weight, you are. I've lost nearly 50 lbs since last March and I did it by myself and I'm a mother of two teenage girls that also eat whatever they want. Are you the one making the meals and doing the shopping? If so, then just make healthy meals and make sure your portions are smaller than your husbands and fit in your calorie goals. When your husband reaches for a bag of chips, make yourself a bowl of popcorn or some other healthy snack. If you're truly dedicated to losing weight then what other people do shouldn't matter. You are in control of your own eating.

Are you trying to restrict yourself too much?

please open your food diary if you would.

Well I would not say that I have No support system. My family truly is supporting me the best they can, but they do not alter their eating habits if they do not have to.

My husband is actually under weight and can pretty much eat whatever he wants and not gain. It gets frustrating, but if he does not want want I am eating he is on his own to make him something else, order something or have a bowl of cereal. I do not make 2 meals to fit him, I worry about me.

You focus on you and let us be your support system. Tell your family your feelings and that this is what you want to do. Let them know that you do not want them pushing food on you and that if you go to gatherings you may bring your own food, or if you go out to eat pick a place you know you can eat healthy.

My husband is incredibly supportive but he eats whatever he wants. He's slim and has a fast metabolism (and it just hasn't caught up with him yet though I'm always telling him it will eventually) so I have to always watch him eating stuff I can't even touch. My advice to you is do this for yourself. Not for him, not for anyone else. Focus on you. If I were in your shoes, I would ask him for emotional support and motivation but really, what he eats is really up to him and the same goes for you!

Good luck!

You will find it easier to stick to a program if: (a) you take some time to write down the particular reasons you want to get healthier; (b) you pick a food plan that is not super restrictive and, for the most part, does not require you to eliminate your favorite foods (noting that fried foods would be tough to keep in the plan); and (c) you learn to stop eating when you are full, and not continue eating just because your mind tells you its yummy.

You can find some of my (a) on my profile page. So, this is me applying (b) and (c)....I love pizza and don't plan to give it up. I know 2 decent sized pieces of cheese or veggie pizza are enough to fill me up AND generally fit within any calorie limitations. I know I will want more than 2 pieces sometimes, but that wanting more than 2 pieces is a mental thing and not a physical need to fill me up. I also know that there are healthier things than pizza so I don't eat it more than once a week (sometimes twice a week and sometimes not for a few weeks)....but I'm good knowing I don't eliminate pizza from my food options.

Remember, this works best when you're not trying to follow an overly restrictive food plan because following an overly restrictive food plan for the long haul is not realistic. Instead, this is a lifestyle and in life, we eat foods we love and sometimes we over indulge. The key is to try to eat healthier food options, and eat indulgent foods in moderation.

If you want to send me a FR, I'm cool with that.

This calorie counting has gone on for 2 years with me so I am not even bothered what he eats anymore. Do this for you and be stern.

p.s....do not allow your husband's eating habits to be an excuse to your own healthy goals. and that's all it is....a stumbling block to I CAN. Keep in mind that YOU CAN make healthy choices regardless of what choices your husband makes. It comes down to how important it is TO YOU to get healthy...and making sure you know those reasons (see (a) in my previous post).

The only reason you can't be healthy is because of your choices

Since when does eating what you want equate to being unsupportive?

Am I in bizarro land, or should I feel guilty because I run almost every day and eat like a pig?

This is a great point.

I do a lot of running, in addition to triathlons, so I eat lots of carbs according to the distances I run. My husband avoids carb, eating a low carb diet. Does make me insensitive and unsupportive? Nope! It just means I'm doing what's right for my health and body. Does it mean I'm sabotaging him when I bring home a loaf of bread? Nope! Just making my dinner!

I'll be your buddy.

I agree; everything is about choice. I'm trying to live a positive healthy lifestyle, my hubby does his own thing I don't sweat over it. I've given up on some certain foods before him, and still limit what I take in. I've given up alcohol and that's the one things he still tries to peer pressure me on, but I'm holding my ground and he's excepting that.
Don't let others around you effect your choice, your taste, your goal! And Don't beat yourself up if a little slip slides through, just aim again and continue....
It took practice for Robin Hood to hit the bullseye

Since when does eating what you want equate to being unsupportive?

Am I in bizarro land, or should I feel guilty because I run almost every day and eat like a pig?

This is a great point.

I do a lot of running, in addition to triathlons, so I eat lots of carbs according to the distances I run. My husband avoids carb, eating a low carb diet. Does make me insensitive and unsupportive? Nope! It just means I'm doing what's right for my health and body. Does it mean I'm sabotaging him when I bring home a loaf of bread? Nope! Just making my dinner!

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I get it - my husband is 5'11" and about 150# - he tries to be supportive, but sometimes without thinking he suddenly gets a sweet tooth or wants to go out for ice cream and actually says 'lets go' forgetting that I shouldn't have it.

He is really good about meals - and we can adjust and eat as a family (and my kids are little skinny minis too - thanks daddy!) So sometimes its hard when he wants to go out for a treat - or something. I've told him to try to get it out of his system at lunch when I'm not around - but that doesn't always work either.

I try to be EXTRA careful at breakfast and lunch when he isn't around, so that I can have some small stuff or make a crazier dinner when he and the kids are around.

I also eat what I want whenever possible.