Cutting down on your friends list

I don't delete people. I feel no need to delete anyone and I don't even know why people delete people. I think one person deleted me but idk and idc. The only thing I am real strict about is only adding females. On all my social networks I usually only add females and occasionally a male here or there. But I feel like I can be myself more and broadcast more comfortably when its just only females. But this isn't facebook or instagram so I am not as strict on this site as I am on all my other sites.

delete after 20 days of no show... but there are a few exceptions since I've known them from other sites.

I guess I don't understand why it would matter. I probably have friends who haven't logged in for a while. Since they don't post anything, doesn't bother me. I don't even know how to find out who's on there if they aren't posting.

Only reason I'd take someone off my friends list is if they were doing something that bothered me.

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Ooh, how do you delete from feed? That'd be much nicer than deleting whiney people.

ETA: I delete if diary's private - what's the point if you can't pinch dinners?

I delete a friend who has not been active for more than 30 days. I'll happily add them back if they return to MFP and send another friend request. I keep my list small, because it's easier to interact with a few, rather than trying to manage a list that is so large I have a difficult time remembering details that are important.

I'm not on Facebook (just twitter), and try not to use MFP like a clone of Facebook. I like the fact that there are certain topic categories in the Community section that guide the discussions, otherwise conversations tend to stray way off of health, fitness, and proper eating.

So weird this topic came up today. I just went into my friend list and deleted some people that hadn't logged in for a while. I figure if they haven't been in for 4-6 months, then they have dropped out. If they come back and friend me, then great I will add them back. This is the first time I have cleaned out my friend list. No particular reason I did it either, just that I was looking around.

I will go through every now and then and remove people who don't log in or deactivated. Other than that, I don't really delete,

There are a few comments that i would lie to say:
1. I only delete people that either disappears for a long time, or come on once every three months, those people are annoying to me.
2. People that dont interact with me on a daily thing, or someone that isnot committed to loosing weight, and think this is just a big joke.

I delete if there's no interaction, you creep me out, or you haven't logged in in a long time.

Even a nice set of abs isn't enough to keep you off the chopping block.

I keep people I like, even if they haven't logged on for a while. I admit there are a few that I don't really like and keep on because they like me, and that's OK. But I don't delete people who haven't logged on in a while unless I know they're not coming back.

I manage it pretty closely. It's interesting. the more you do that, the more dedicated FL you wind up with. Almost no one flakes anymore. They are everyday loggers. That's what I want.


But, I do enjoy a smaller FL. It's more fun and more personal, and you get to know people better. the larger the list, the more difficult it is.

I love the friends I have. They're dedicated, funny, witty, and very active. I like keeping a small list of tight-knit friends over 300 friends who don't know me at all.

No quota. I go through my list every few weeks. If someone hasn't logged in for awhile I check on them. If I get no response, they are gone. Also if I look at a user and thing Who the F*** are they....they get the button.

I don't delete anyone. If they are getting on my nerves I just hide them from my news feed. No one ever has to know. :bigsmile:

I only cut those who are not wholesome in their communication -- I mean, if I have to dig through a garbage can to dig out a piece of candy, it is not much worth it... I choose not to read through the "F" word or a barrage of other "four letter words", though I am not the thought police type so that I would cut a person for any chance choice word that they should utter. However, if every other word is the "F" word or worse, they have to go... I can think of one time in the past two years I cut a person and within 24 hours of them requesting my friending them, I released them... simply because I just knew that we were incompatible on those grounds.

As far as somebody who has not been on for 6 months, that does not bother me.. I mean, it is not like they are clogging up my feed or anything... If they are not online, they are not costing me any time or energy. And should they return, I try to make a post saying Welcome back.. perhaps that bit of encouragement may help them stick it out.

Why do people leave the site? Sometimes a lack of commitment, sometimes an unusually busy schedule... sometimes perhaps even an economic hard time that meant they could not readily jump online and post... It could even be an illness or a a family illness.

Other reasons I suppose I would unfriend would be if I found out a person were underage (particularly female)... I know of other teachers with pulled credentials because they interacted with underage people online (albeit in a compromising way but I don't want to take any chances with stuff like that)... Finally somebody that was particularly bothersome with their nutritional program could not stay... That being said, I have some great friends who have been a support to me who I know are involved in various programs and even have offered me opportunities... BUT they have never been pushy about it and continue to be friends though I chose a different nutritional direction... Those are always welcome... But those who would "preach Fat-burn-o-matic-o-care" to me day and night would not stay on my list very long... That being said so far, I have been blessed to not have to cut anybody for that.