Cutting down on your friends list

It's pretty simple. If I really like you, I won't delete you even if you've been gone for months. If you're a new friend or someone I just don't interact with much, I'll delete you after a week of not logging in unless I know why you've been gone (vacation, taking a break, etc.). If you want to add me when you come back, fine.

Otherwise, I delete people for saying dumb things on a regular basis (or for saying something I find so unacceptable that I can't overlook it even once), for rage quitting, for getting really extreme with their diet/exercise habits, etc. I don't want to have to scroll through 9 pages of crap on my news feed to get to the posts from people I like.

ETA: I do get messages on occasion from people I've deleted, wanting to know why. But unless I feel like I personally owe you an explanation, you're not likely to get one.

I just came back after a little break. After a few years on the site I needed it. I was really happy to see that only like one of two people deleted me. So I think I will just keep everyone from now on. I underestimated how great it felt that 146 people liked me enough to tolerate my absence. Then again the same people tolerate my presence so clearly they are all insane.

I admit I'm a little confused by people who delete others because they're not 'dedicated' enough. MFP is just a tool. The people you're talking to, and about, are real people. Just because they're not super-dedicated to food logging doesn't mean they aren't worthwhile or stop being my friends. Honestly, for a large portion of my FL I have no idea how 'dedicated' they are to logging food. They're generally on my FL because they're smart, reasonable people with a good head on their shoulders who say interesting and/or amusing and insightful things. They're on my friends list because they're just good people that I actually like, regardless of how often their consecutive days counter resets. I don't see the sense in kicking these people to the curb because they're not sufficiently dedicated to their diary.

Yeah, I definitely have some people on there that are incredibly dedicated to nutrition and exercise. They know who they are, and I draw a surprising amount of inspiration and strength from them. But there are also others that are incredibly dedicated to nutrition and exercise but they're not on my FL because I just don't like them that much. I interact with people I enjoy interacting with, and I keep those people around.

Worthwhile human beings that I actually get along with are surprisingly hard to come by, so I try to keep the ones I find whether they're sufficiently hardcore about MFP or not.

I delete who I want when I want because I want.

QFT

I admit I'm a little confused by people who delete others because they're not 'dedicated' enough. MFP is just a tool. The people you're talking to, and about, are real people. Just because they're not super-dedicated to food logging doesn't mean they aren't worthwhile or stop being my friends. Honestly, for a large portion of my FL I have no idea how 'dedicated' they are to logging food. They're generally on my FL because they're smart, reasonable people with a good head on their shoulders who say interesting and/or amusing and insightful things. They're on my friends list because they're just good people that I actually like, regardless of how often their consecutive days counter resets. I don't see the sense in kicking these people to the curb because they're not sufficiently dedicated to their diary.

Yeah, I definitely have some people on there that are incredibly dedicated to nutrition and exercise. They know who they are, and I draw a surprising amount of inspiration and strength from them. But there are also others that are incredibly dedicated to nutrition and exercise but they're not on my FL because I just don't like them that much. I interact with people I enjoy interacting with, and I keep those people around.

Worthwhile human beings that I actually get along with are surprisingly hard to come by, so I try to keep the ones I find whether they're sufficiently hardcore about MFP or not.

DELETED.

Just the ones who deactivate mostly. I have removed a few who were just annoying though.

I support, if others cannot be bothered to do the same, why should I continually see their bloody updates on my newsfeed.

Sorry, support or be cut. Don't like it - don't worry I will not lose sleep over your grief.

I delete people that add me and don't ever interact. I delete people when I have over 20 pals, usually. I delete people when I'm in a bad mood. I delete people for no reason. I delete people for reasons. My friend list is a dangerous place to be.

you should maybe consider switching to decaf.

I unfriend if I take a look into their diary and notice that their goal calorie amount is below 900. I cannot support that... or if they haven't been on in forever (like weeks and weeks)

No not on here, only Peres on fb

I also delete people that have friend list of their own over like 50. They obviously don't need ME. :bigsmile:

I delete anyone who:
-promotes disordered eating
-regularly nets fewer than 1200 calories a day (unless they're like 5' or under!)
-supports pseudo-science like detoxes, cleanses or fasting
-believes there is such a thing as "good" and "bad" food
-doesn't regularly record their intake
-doesn't interact or use their account
-annoys me for some other reason

Oh, I like you. We have similar mindsets.

I will delete if someone has not even logged on for over 2 months. I will also delete people that believe in "detoxes", "juice fasts", and who eat under 1200 calories a day regularly.

That said, I know I have deleted from a few recently because I have not been logging much here. Sorry, but going through my mom's passing, trying to sell a house, and moving to a new state took priority. So those friends that are still on my list are the ones I figure may actually give a dang about ME. I was still here, still interacting, and the like. I was simply eating maintenance and dealing with other stuff for a little bit.

BTW, things have now calmed down and I hope to be back to logging next week.

1. I delete people that add me and don't ever interact:grumble:

2. If I have 50 friends on my list probably i will not accept a FR or maybe i will :huh: ... and if I do... back to point number 1

I like to interact with my friends and more than 50 ... not sure if i can do that!

I'm thinking off adding you and not interacting, what's the survival rate?

I make cuts on a regular basis because I don't like being treated like a piece of fruit. If you don't interact, you don't last.