first weigh – in; shock & horror

weighing in and confronting that is the first step.
Perhaps your wife will walk with you?

You can do this - the first step is deciding to do something about the problem and now you have to make a lifestyle change.

Baby steps - the first thing will be to make sure you keep track of your foods and weigh and measure everthing - you will get used to this after a bit of time and it won't seem like a big deal. As far as exercise you just need to move - you don't need to overwhelm yourself - if you have to do as suggested and start moving indoors - make a point of making sure you get up and walk from one room to the next - when you are comfortable go out and walk (if you are worried about other people's opinions don't - first it's none of their damn business and second you are making the changes you need to make) If you can only walk down the street two houses up start there - it doesn't matter - soon enough you will feel the progress! Good luck with your journey and don't be afraid to ask for help!

Also you are blessed with a wife who loves you no matter what - I am sure she will be there for you during this challenge!

Yea for stepping out of your comfort zone, logging in, and putting it out there! Have a great walk tomorrow. Set some smaller goals so that you are not as overwhelmed. You are worth fighting for!

This^^^
Difficult at first, but you can do it!

You can do this! You have already taken the first two steps. First, you have admitted you need to do something and second you resisted a late night snack. You are on the first steps of your journey.

Try to do little things each day. Perhaps walking a few houses and resisting a snack or two. Then walking further or stretching. Perhaps switch a highly processed snack for a piece of fruit or handful of nuts.

Good luck and we will all be here to encourage you on this journey towards a healthier you!

When I read your story the first thing that came to mind I see you are so worth this battle. Sometimes we(me included) think o f all of the things we are going to give up. Well. Think of all you will gain... Better health, feeling better, and more years to spend with your deserving wife. Don't give up .. I remember something I read.. Nothing tastes as good as looking good feels. Keep us posted..

I know there is a guy who has posted his success story on here who has dropped 300 lbs (starting at 500+ lbs). This is the perfect place for you to be. Take small steps, set realistic goals, achieve them and set new ones. You can do this and it may not be as much work as you think. I found losing weight with fitness pal to be very easy compared to the ways I used to try to lose weight. Eating sensibly in smaller portions and just doing 20-30 minutes of exercise each day is all it took to drop about 1-2 lbs each week. Take it one day at a time and don't worry about the road ahead. We'll be here along the way for encouragement ) Enjoy your walk tomorrow!

Yay for taking the first step! MFP is a great place to be. It will offer you lots of support. We're here for you

Well done for getting yourself on here and for being so wonderfully honest in your post here.
Now, my question is this... will you be one of those who joins, gets started, plunges in headfirst, then disappears again, or will you be one of those amazing success stories that turn up a year or two later on this site ?

The key is in making this a lifestyle change, and not just a 'diet'. The key is long term, not short term. The key is accepting this will take time, maybe several years, and in making small changes a bit at a time, so that you are not so overwhelmed and disheartened that you give up. This is your life you are trying to save, and only you can do it, though hopefully with a good amount of support along the way.

I know you can do this...but do you know you can do this ?
Feel free to add me.
I am not overweight, but I am a good supporter and encourager, and I will speak up if I see things I think can be improved upon.

(((Hugs))) That moment hits all of us in one way or another! Remember that we're here for you and get it done I highly recommend the success stories because then you can see ordinary people do extraordinary things when it comes to weight. You've got this!

Just start logging your food & getting exercise. You can do this! Do this for yourself!!

Look I'm gonna go against the general flow of this thread (and be a bit mean) and say that at 430lb the 'just diet/log food/etc' ship has long sailed. Yes, there are success stories out there but the odds of you winning at doing this on your own (without professional help) are close to zero. Even if you're blessed with staggering reserves of willpower the outlook is not particularly encouraging.

You have to play the long game here. You have at least 200lb of excess weight to lose and you want it gone permanently.

There are three approaches I'd consider.

First is psychological - why did you get so big? What is your relationship with food? General emotional health?

Second is physical - what is your current state of health? Any particular complications from the excess weight (arthritis/sleep apnoea/diabetes etc)

Third - what is your current energy intake and expenditure (this is where MFP comes in). I wouldn't consider restricting until I have worked out what I'm eating/expending in a typical week, at what times of the day, what emotions if any are attached to the eating and then you can see where things are going wrong.

I'd see my doctor and get yourself referred to a dietician; and secondly get referred to a weight loss surgery clinic for a consultation.

COI: I am a general surgery resident flirting with an interest in bariatric surgery. I have no particular expertise in nutrition beyond my personal experience and struggles, but I have read the papers and evaluated the research on the various interventions for weight loss. Weight loss surgery is not the poison it is often made out to be on this site. For many people it is their only choice and a life saver and the higher your BMI the more likely this is to be the case. As part of the deal you will be expected to lose some weight pre-op anyway (I do have issues with some of the dietary advice I've heard given by the nurses pre-surgery). PS I live in the UK so our wages are fixed, this is not an attempt to drum up business.

No lie, I just had a nightmare a few minutes ago. It's not important what it was, just that it was the kind that sends your eyes flying open, chest heaving, body curling inward to protect itself. Even after the full realization that it was just a dream my heart is still pounding. I picked my phone up off the nightstand, looking for distraction while I calmed down. Still trembling with a version of the feelings you describe in your title, your story was the first thing I clicked on.

Bad stuff led me here. Now my nightmare and discomfort have a purpose. Now the bad stuff is my friend.

Of course there's no comparison. I don't pretend to understand your difficulties, can't imagine the amount of fear you've been burdened with for so long. But right now you and I have one thing in common:

Bad stuff led us here.

So now what? Will your nightmare and discomfort gain a purpose? Will they become your friends?

I think you just chose to begin, what a heroic moment! Now, you're going to need a plan. There has been some good advice I won't repeat, but also you need a team. We all do. Start with your wife. Show her this thread and talk about next steps. Stick with your plan to do as much of a walk as you can manage both physically and emotionally. I'd also visit your doctor in the near future to get checked out and set up some reasonable goals without doing too much too soon. Also, ask for a referral or do some research to find a therapist or expert to help you with your agoraphobia. You may find that your weight gain and phobia are too intimately entwined to leave it unaddressed. Small risks, small steps, small rewards snowball like a muh fuh and you want that process to have a clear path.

Finally, no, no it is not impossible for you. You can have this. You can have health, and comfort, and peace. But you can't just choose it. You must choose, plan, execute, evaluate, repeat. If you're strong enough to endure the shock and horror you just stared down, you're strong enough to do this.

Warm hug, and on your feet soldier.

Last year on April 10th I walked five minutes and got tired at 107.5 kilos weight. This morning I walked 45 minutes at a 10.5 minute km and weigh 85 kilos. I increased my initial five minutes by a minute every two days to get to 15, then 20 up to 30 minutes. Once I got over 30 minutes day I started to walk for speed and now walk for speed and time/distance. I eat a wide variety of foods at a reasonable deficit and am losing.
I am sure you can do the same....just get going....
Good Luck !

Weight loss is an interesting journey to survive in a healthy way. You can achieve your target if you make a commitment with your self.

Good for you starting an account! This will not be easy, but it will not be as hard as you think, and you CAN do this. Honestly I wouldn't even recommend going out doors and exercising yet. You need to talk to your doctor about that first. Start small and cut your calories to the recommended number mfp gives, or as close as you can get, and the pounds will drop off soon. Eat whatever you want, just not too much, and that's really all it takes! Your life will get so much better.