A question for people who've lost 150lbs+

I haven't lost a lot of weight and I'm considered Obese, but let me say one thing, I'm Canadian and not one person here has ever made any rude comments to me about my weight. No one has the right to be mean or rude to anyone no matter what the person's size is. I've never been turned down for a job because of my weight. I'm sure people do make comments about other people, but it's never to their face, that's just wrong. In fact, it's a form of bullying. No one is perfect and no one has the right to judge.

Keep smiling, and keep your head up and be proud of who you are.

I have been turned down for jobs that I've been qualified for, that were likely because of my weight. And I sure as heck have had people yell out of passing cars at me, and I am Canadian.

I'm glad that you haven't experienced this stuff though

I'm still near the beginning of my journey (3 months in) to loose 150+ pounds. The idea that I could be a normal weight and shop in non-plus size stores still seems like a far away fairy tale. Like others on this thread, I don't have an identity outside of "the big girl" or "the fat girl". I never had a slender or regular size part of life.

When I look at the current pictures of people who have lost over 100 pounds, it's hard for me to imagine they were ever in my shoes. But the pain that comes through their words is all too familiar.

Since it will take 2-3 years to lose the weight of another adult human being, I'm counting on the long time to adjust my mindset. I can't see myself turning from a hermit introvert to a social butterfly but who knows?

I get EXACTLY what you are saying. I lost 50 pounds, then worked through all those emotional issues for almost a year, before I could continue with my weight loss.

I was worried that who I was would change, or that I wouldn't be able to cope with the changes. So far, at about half way there, that hasn't been the case. The people around me are happy and excited for me, and for all the progress I have made. They have been nothing but supportive.

I've had a few comments from idiots (one person actually asked me, after I'd lost 50 pounds, how I was able to do my job at my size), but I finally feel like I am no longer the fattest person when I go places. I don't worry about fitting into chairs, or airplane seats.

I would definitely recommend some counselling about the issues that might be holding you back, wether they be low self esteem (me), or previous life traumas (me as well).

Feel free to add me as a friend, I am on MFP every day

I have been going through the emotional stuff too. I almost am fearful of what and who that person will be at another 49 pounds lost, because I just lost 51 pounds.
I am grateful, and love it, but woooaawwww..... a whole new person. A person everyone isn't used to at all. It should be interesting. I find my mind hasn't changed much as I still think I'm the 51 pounds heavier person, and sometimes see the greatness of it, but fail to completely change my mind set.
I do look forward to it, but wonder the difference in men and their views too because I've never had a hard time attracting men at my starting weight so, what will be different.
There's a lot to change with the mind too, that's for sure, and it's an emotional roller coaster of gratitude.
I feel deserving of it, but wonder if it really matters. Thank you for sharing.

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It looks like all of the people responding on here have lost weight, it doesn't matter how much, it is a loss. Our personalities are all different...fat or slim. Other people are always going to have something to say positive or negative. I have been obese for a very long time and have tried multiple times to lose the weight, for my 21st birthday, for my wedding, having children and none of those reasons were enough to get me to a healthier weight. Now I am doing for me and ONLY me, I am not going to let my emotions win again. I think about how I will feel when I have lost what my body lets me lose, I think about the loose skin, and the wrinkles. I also think about how much energy am I going to have (I feel like I have a lot even at this weight) when I am done, how good I will feel wearing regular size clothes, fitting into a airplane seat, fitting into a sports car etc.

What we have to do is build up our positive self talk and learn not to listen to those who don't have our best interests at heart...they aren't going to change!

Take your weight loss what ever it may be, and enjoy it. You will find new friends along the way, who will appreciate you for who you really are.

A bunch of great contributions here. I would jsut add that if the self-esteem is that low, that perhaps you get some counseling as you go through the journey. Best of luck.

My solution to the upcoming social awkwardness is to move
to an altogether different part of the country, with my fiancé.:bigsmile:

And this!

People who knew me when I weighed 245 still see me as unhealthy.

(It's a documented psychological phenomena.)

But people who move to your town (or in her case, in the new town) that had never seen me big will view me as really healthy.

I would like to be added to the group. I have lost 77 lbs and still need to lose 130 or so. I am struggling with not seeing any difference in my size even though my pants are about to fall off. I'm also having a really tough time with no weight loss even though my calories are about the same. I am always under my allotted calories but am seeing little if any loss. I know I have been retaining some fluid but for 2 weeks? I am really frustrated!!

I know what you are going through. I am in the same boat and im terrified of losing the one thing that I was able to excuse my self as to why I im not going out. I just blame it on the fat and weight instead of turning inwards to face my demons and work through them.
feel free to add me.
Im writing a personal blog that I started today that every few days I force my self to look at a demon and fight it.

good luck and having your support would be amazing

Im bumping this so I can comment better later,but yes.There is a part of me that is terrified to be little.
I value my strength and theres something about being bigger that I somehow equated to strength.