My husband hates healthy food...help?!?

No one hates all healthy food.
Southern food -- try okra, greens (collard, kale, etc.), rice and beans. Use less butter or fat, but you can still add some -- maybe a bit of bacon or some of his fresh meat. Like tabasco sauce?
Google healthy, southern food and you'll find hundreds of suggestions.
Lots of ways to bake chick that tastes as good or better than most fried (although really excellent fried chicken is hard to beat, but also uses less oil and is better drained.
Don't change things all at once. If your dinner is usually a meat course, bread and vegetables, change one of them at a time. Use some whole wheat, not 100%. Try wild rice. Use spices. Add vegetables to dishes… like some lettuce and tomato in a sandwich or some zucchini in soup.
Try spaghetti squash with a sauce you already like.
Try different kinds of rolls. Traditional corn bread doesn't have added sugar, but it can have some spice.
Mashed potatoes don't need butter, use a meat-broth gravy or some parmesan cheese. Use sweet potatoes with cinnamon instead of white potatoes?
Put things like butter, salt or parmesan cheese on at the end of cooking instead of mixing them in. When they're on top, you taste them more, and need to add less.
USE THE WEB and see what ideas you like. Look on the recipes board here.
Let him cook for himself sometimes if he doesn't like what you make.

He likes home cooked everything. I love to cook & there are very few options for restaurants near us anyway so we only eat out once every other week when we have to go to the next town. We live in the middle of nowhere in the middle of nowhere. He DOES like vegetables, he just likes them super buttery & preferably with bacon added. When I call him wonderful it isn't sarcasm, he's amazing! He fully supports me getting healthier & in shape & is open to making some changes in the way we eat. He comes home for lunch everyday & I always make us separate meals since lunch is simpler. He works six, sometimes 7 days a week on a cattle ranch & he works HARD. I don't want him to have to give up anything he loves just because it's bad for me to eat. I have no problem having a salad at night & just a tiny portion of the fried stuff or whatever it is he's really wanting. I don't want him to have to sacrifice anything for me if I can help it.

Well, it sounds like maybe you should do that. Load up on vegetables and have a smaller portion of the delicious fried stuff. Since he'll eat veggies, you could try cooking them with a little oil, maybe broiling them and adding a spice rather than completely smothering them in butter. If you make a casserole or something, add a lot of veggies. If he doesn't want as many he can pick around them, and you can eat more of them.

When I cook for myself and boyfriend I make mine a healthier version of whatever the food is. Like if it's chicken parm I bread & I fry his and just sautée mine with Pam and put less cheese on my piece. You don't have to make two completely different meals but yeah you might have to spend a little more time on it if you are serious about eating healthier.

Just because you want to change the way you eat, doesn't mean he has too.

I'm not trying to change the way he eats, I just don't want to have to cook two separate meals every night. If we had kids I wouldn't mind cooking one meal for them & something small for me but it's just the two of us & that seems a little ridiculous. I'm just trying to find a way to compromise that will still keep him happy & satisfied without making me continue to gain weight.

Ahhhh ok. Whatever you make for yourself, make it smothered/salted for him. Boom done.

I like it. Just pop open a can of gravy and dump it on his plate.

Yup!

He works six, sometimes 7 days a week on a cattle ranch & he works HARD.

That's why he can get away with eating whatever he wants and not gain. What's your exercise routine like? Since I started resistance training, I've been able to keep my weight off and maintain at 2600 calories a day. Because I like my green beans sautéed with bacon, too. Just a random thought for you...

I don't want him to have to sacrifice anything for me if I can help it.

So he's wonderful, but you're ok with helping him develop illness and die sooner because of unhealthy eating? Ok, that was an extreme statement, but you started this thread with a rather extreme statement too. :-)

Since he does hard physical labor, he can use the calories, but he still needs the nutrition. As long as he's getting the nutrients, he can add extra butter, but if he's not eating "healthy" food -- especially vegetables, he's probably not meeting his nutritional needs. In other words, he is potentially sacrificing something -- his health.

okkkkk then.

I don't want him to have to sacrifice anything for me if I can help it.

So he's wonderful, but you're ok with helping him develop illness and die sooner because of unhealthy eating? Ok, that was an extreme statement, but you started this thread with a rather extreme statement too. :-)

Since he does hard physical labor, he can use the calories, but he still needs the nutrition. As long as he's getting the nutrients, he can add extra butter, but if he's not eating "healthy" food -- especially vegetables, he's probably not meeting his nutritional needs. In other words, he is potentially sacrificing something -- his health.

You're right. That is an extreme statement.

I agree with others who advise you to cook for yourself, because not everyone has snooper high metabolism.
I want to share some new to me information, more like shocking news to my family.

My mother in her mid 60th now, she always had high metabolism, loved her yammy fat food, and she is a smallest person in our family. We went to a Doctor for general check up and her cholesterol and blood sugar is very high, needs medication. It was big surprise for all of us. The Doctor said that its very common for people with high metabolism, they can eat unhealthy and they think that they are safe. Unfortunately despite good weight control unhealthy food still do damage to your inside.

Being sick, had a diabetes, or heard disease is very unpleasant and very expensive as well.
I understand that your husband quite young, but its going to be too late to do something when sick condition is already there.

Try to give him this info, if he wants to live long and happy he might rethink his approach.

Get a different husband.