Body changes = treated differently?

Most people treat you differently because YOU treat yourself differently. You aren't as self conscious. You aren't self deprecating. You have more confidence. You do more stuff.

Welcome to the Virtuous Cycle.

You really have to be perceptive and aware of your behavior, but I think much of the difference in how I am treated now has to do with the fact that I behave differently than I did before. I didn't like who I was before. I was shy and reserved and didn't think anybody wanted to talk to me or be nice to me, so I maintained a general "Don't talk to me" vibe in public. I dressed so as not to be noticed by anyone. It was a very depressing way to live, and I didn't even realize it until a year into the weight-loss process.

Now, I am much more likely to smile at a stranger and say hi when I pass him or her. I frequently tell strangers they look beautiful or handsome. I am a much more open and giving person in general than I used to be, and I think that's largely why I get treated differently. Now, I'm no fool; I know that my looks and the way I dress (skirts, dresses, high heels) have something to do with it. But the lack of a "F off" expression on my face and in my demeanor probably has more to do with it.

As far as being expected to wear more revealing things, do what you want and let others do what they want. I think you have to be who you are, without compromise, if you want to have more of the right people in your life and fewer of the wrong ones.

Yes, I'm treated differently. The squat rack opens up like Noah or Moses or whoever parting the Red Sea.

Yeah...I don't get that one, and gladly so! You should carry a knife if you don't already do!

Total concurrence with Fox on this one....Them crazies!

Honking? No. Inviting you into their freaking cars, going "hey girl, want a ride?".. Yes.
!@$#@#$ >:(

Yeah...I don't get that one, and gladly so! You should carry a knife if you don't already do!

Thinking about a second knife, not even lying.

just sayin'

So a lot of you have read my success story over at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234646-can-t-believe-i-made-it but here's my question..

How have you been treated since your body has changed, whether it be weight loss, weight gain, toning up etc?

I went shopping for a swim suit the other day, and I grabbed a one piece that I thought was very cute. My friend and the sales associate both asked me why I wasn't going for a bikini to show off my body more.

I'm young, and I like to dress nicely, but I'm also a mom, I'm not going to be one of the parents that shows up at their kid's school in club wear.

I'm really more of a skinny jeans, riding boots and fitted sweater kinda girl.

Unless it's summer, sun dresses all day ever day.

But I've noticed since I've lost weight, a lot of people ask, basically why I don't wear more revealing clothes now.

I need to see more pictures of you to determine if you should get the one piece or a bikini instead.

I get hit on way more. I thought I'd be flattered but I'm actually disgusted at the men who couldn't appreciate me until I shed the weight.

You really have to be perceptive and aware of your behavior, but I think much of the difference in how I am treated now has to do with the fact that I behave differently than I did before. I didn't like who I was before. I was shy and reserved and didn't think anybody wanted to talk to me or be nice to me, so I maintained a general "Don't talk to me" vibe in public. I dressed so as not to be noticed by anyone. It was a very depressing way to live, and I didn't even realize it until a year into the weight-loss process.

Now, I am much more likely to smile at a stranger and say hi when I pass him or her. I frequently tell strangers they look beautiful or handsome. I am a much more open and giving person in general than I used to be, and I think that's largely why I get treated differently. Now, I'm no fool; I know that my looks and the way I dress (skirts, dresses, high heels) have something to do with it. But the lack of a "F off" expression on my face and in my demeanor probably has more to do with it.

As far as being expected to wear more revealing things, do what you want and let others do what they want. I think you have to be who you are, without compromise, if you want to have more of the right people in your life and fewer of the wrong ones.

Saw thread title. Came in to say this. Didn't want to leave without saying something, so here is my post.

100% different in almost every aspect of life.

Couldnt of said it any better man. Complete 360 and some lol

I just don't understand why

In some areas, it's quite a negative difference. People make wild assumptions based on appearance. I really have to work hard to counteract some of the negative perceptions and reactions.

Yeah if one more person tells me i need to eat something ....ima lose it >.<

This. It never seems to come from someone that is in great physical shape :-)

I went from obese to a very fit person. Naturally the response, and the way people treat me has improved. I get more attention than I used to, and the attitude of people has changed. I have experience cruel treatment, as well as elation.. I know how either side feels. But all in all is an experience I cherish, and an opportunity to know myself as well as others, and be able to relate to people and what they're going through. It definitely affected the way I treat others as well.

Loved this response! What a great opportunity for personal growth and self-reflection!