Stupid Gym
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so, let me get this straight.... you're upset, because someone got healthy, because she was bored? Seriously?!? Who cares WHY people do it, so long as they are doing it. Focus on YOU and don't worry about anyone else.
This...exactly this...well and the Game of Thrones reference too...
but why does someone else doing it because they are bored in ANY way affect you...
seriously?!!?
So for example...
John is a bowler because John wants to compete professionally at bowling and someday win a title...
he overhears Fred talking about how he took up bowling because he's bored.
john THEN runs home, cries all night and eats ALL the food in the house because he's SO UPSET that fred doesn't have his level of dedication...
what would you tell John? that he's right to be offended? That he's in his right mind to be upset?
HELL NO...you'd tell him that not everyone is there for the same reasons he is...and not everyone has the same motivators he does, but that it DOESN'T matter what their motivations are...
he still does his best because his goals are lofty and he needs to work at them...
Jeebus...get back in there...and start working hard....I can't even believe you let another person affect your goals because you eavesdropped on her conversation...
that's seriously silly.
I think you may have misread the OP. The gym employee updated the board early because she was bored. This woman is getting upset because someone showed some initiative in their job. Just as bad.
oops. I did ...but that doesn't really change anything...
another person's boredom, whether it's at their job or as a fellow gym goer shouldn't affect your own reality...
it just shouldn't....
Here's a better example however:
I'm in a biggest loser clinic at work. The girl that organized it, started the challenge a whole 10 days with her friends, before opening the clinic to the rest of the employees. Her explanation was that she didn't think it would be that popular.
I shrugged...whether she and her friends got a 10 day head start doesn't matter. I'm doing my best, working my hardest and doing it for me.
And if I keep my head down and my goals on track I can still beat everyone...but the only thing I can affect is my performance. No one elses.0 -
Just to put it out there again, (not making excuses) but I overheard the Gym Employee saying she was bored that was why she was doing the board early... I wasn't upset because another gym member was working out because she was bored. Yes, that is and would be really really stupid.
I appreciate everyone's comments from the kind and encouraging to the not so kind but also very motivating comments.
I am new to this and am really trying for myself to get healthy and ultimately lose weight. I put emphasis on the board, like I do group challenges and like I do when I post on community boards like this to keep up my motivation. I get that it may sound silly or immature to some, but it was some of what was pushing me this month.
I'm back on track today with eating, I plan on going to the gym and discussing rationally how it affected me and I am going to keep on going for myself.0 -
Wait... what?!? :noway:
You threw in the towel, because you didn't get your name on some board?!?!
yeah.
that's a big fat get over it.
we aren't in 5th grade any more- they work the gym- they can do whatever they want whenever they want.
Not sure how your fabulous progress is affected by your name on a board. make your own board at home.
Personally I think it's insulting and insipid to have a queen/princess themed board at a grown *kitten* woman's gym. But that's me personally- I would say keep working and move on- they are going to look at you like you are crazy if you flip out about this.
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I don't understand what the problem is. I don't understand how her feeling got hurt or how they were insensitive to her feelings in particular. I read the post twice. Someone please take me to a corner and explain this to me as if I was 5....I want to understand...and I'm not attacking....I'm for real.
I'm seeeeerious!
You didn't miss the problem - there was no problem.0 -
I don't understand what the problem is. I don't understand how her feeling got hurt or how they were insensitive to her feelings in particular. I read the post twice. Someone please take me to a corner and explain this to me as if I was 5....I want to understand...and I'm not attacking....I'm for real.
I'm seeeeerious!
You didn't miss the problem - there was no problem.
Ahhhhh, thank you. That's what I thought.0 -
Just to put it out there again, (not making excuses) but I overheard the Gym Employee saying she was bored that was why she was doing the board early... I wasn't upset because another gym member was working out because she was bored. Yes, that is and would be really really stupid.
I appreciate everyone's comments from the kind and encouraging to the not so kind but also very motivating comments.
I am new to this and am really trying for myself to get healthy and ultimately lose weight. I put emphasis on the board, like I do group challenges and like I do when I post on community boards like this to keep up my motivation. I get that it may sound silly or immature to some, but it was some of what was pushing me this month.
I'm back on track today with eating, I plan on going to the gym and discussing rationally how it affected me and I am going to keep on going for myself.
Following the challenge isn't silly or immature - your reaction to the early board change was.0 -
so, let me get this straight.... you're upset, because someone got healthy, because she was bored? Seriously?!? Who cares WHY people do it, so long as they are doing it. Focus on YOU and don't worry about anyone else.
No, I think she's saying that the woman updated the board early because she was bored. And she's upset that by updating the board early, the woman broke the rules of engagement about the board.
But, I do agree with you.
OP - there will be many moments in your journey when you feel discouraged or unmotivated. You simply can't blame those moments on others. You have to be responsible for yourself. What if you hadn't won that month, anyway? Would all your work have been for nothing?
ok, I did misread it, but I do still stand by what I said. It shouldn't be about a competition with others. It should be about doing this for ourselves to make ourselves healthy and happy, not to win some silly competition that in the end doesn't even matter.0 -
Okay OP second suggestion on the off chance you are bound by a contract or don't want to otherwise leave that gym.
Get some girlfriends together who are also sick of that b!tch and wear these around the gym on the day she gets her queen or princess award.
http://www.partycity.com/product/mini+tiara+combs+12ct.do0 -
Just to put it out there again, (not making excuses) but I overheard the Gym Employee saying she was bored that was why she was doing the board early... I wasn't upset because another gym member was working out because she was bored. Yes, that is and would be really really stupid.
I appreciate everyone's comments from the kind and encouraging to the not so kind but also very motivating comments.
I am new to this and am really trying for myself to get healthy and ultimately lose weight. I put emphasis on the board, like I do group challenges and like I do when I post on community boards like this to keep up my motivation. I get that it may sound silly or immature to some, but it was some of what was pushing me this month.
I'm back on track today with eating, I plan on going to the gym and discussing rationally how it affected me and I am going to keep on going for myself.
Another thing you might try doing is making a list of all the things you would like to be able to do as you increase your fitness. We call this PRs (personal records) in CrossFit, but you can do something similar. Then, when you can do a certain element say, a pushup or running a mile, you can check it off your list. If you really want to go all out, you can even suggest to your gym that they start a PR board? Or a goals board? That way, everyone who has done something special can write themselves up for it. And it doesn't have stupid name like "Queen" or "Princess."0 -
it's about potatoes0 -
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Wow.
Here. Here's your gold star:
And here's your princess hat:
[img]http://www.yourwdwstore.net/thumbnail.asp?file=assets/images/18000/18000 18099/400005468216.jpg&maxx=300&maxy=0[/img]
And here's a flower :flowerforyou:
Good luck on your journey.
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Thank you for the clarification. I was confused by your original post too. Instead of letting someone's decision, words, etc demotivate you, how about talking to them about it. Let the "bored" girl know that the competition really keeps you going and you'd appreciate if they stuck with the schedule, especially since you expected to see your name on the board soon. It may not be important to her so she has to understand that it's important to others and that's pretty much the point of having that kind of competition, right? If you don't want to talk to the "bored" girl, talk to management.
When I tried working out in the past, I went through a few different gym buddies who were not very commited and I let their lack of motivation bring me down. If they didn't go neither did I. A few years later I realized that was just a lame excuse and when I got back at it, I went on my own and motivated the hell out of myself. I do currently have a gym buddy but honestly I was hesitant when we started working out together and made my expectations very clear. If she wanted to keep up, great. If she didn't, we probably wouldn't work out. Thankfully, she's awesome.
Point is, as others have said, learn to motivate yourself. Incentives are great but don't put all of your motivation into them.0 -
Just to put it out there again, (not making excuses) but I overheard the Gym Employee saying she was bored that was why she was doing the board early... I wasn't upset because another gym member was working out because she was bored. Yes, that is and would be really really stupid.
I appreciate everyone's comments from the kind and encouraging to the not so kind but also very motivating comments.
I am new to this and am really trying for myself to get healthy and ultimately lose weight. I put emphasis on the board, like I do group challenges and like I do when I post on community boards like this to keep up my motivation. I get that it may sound silly or immature to some, but it was some of what was pushing me this month.
I'm back on track today with eating, I plan on going to the gym and discussing rationally how it affected me and I am going to keep on going for myself.
Good for you Stacey! Just get right back on the horse! You can do this!!!!!!!!!0 -
You show up to workout.. You are a winner every single day you choose to do that!
I would be upset too, the lard has been motivating you.. You gotta find motivation where you can.
Keep going and be your personal best.
It will pay off in a confidence and pride that no board can bestow on you
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Don't give up on your gym - I would tell them how I feel - maybe there are others that feel the same - she probably didn't know that it was so important to you and she won't know unless you say something. It is so motivating to get the feedback on our progress and I have to say - my MFP friends keep me going. For me - being 100 pounds overweight and working so hard to improve my health is not something most of the people in my "real" life can understand or really know how to support. I used to feel so alone in this issue but sharing our successes feels good. Hopefully you are getting some good support on MFP. Hang in there!
I think this is great advice.
I would suggest that you say something because to her, it was probably just part of her job; something to do. She may not know the impact that it has on you and how motivating it is. Let her know, she may update it or make changes to correct it.
Definitely don't stop going!0 -
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Wow.
Here. Here's your gold star:
And here's your princess hat:
[img]http://www.yourwdwstore.net/thumbnail.asp?file=assets/images/18000/18000 18099/400005468216.jpg&maxx=300&maxy=0[/img]
And here's a flower :flowerforyou:
Good luck on your journey.
LMAO
that's the spirit!0 -
Just to put it out there again, (not making excuses) but I overheard the Gym Employee saying she was bored that was why she was doing the board early... I wasn't upset because another gym member was working out because she was bored. Yes, that is and would be really really stupid.
I appreciate everyone's comments from the kind and encouraging to the not so kind but also very motivating comments.
I am new to this and am really trying for myself to get healthy and ultimately lose weight. I put emphasis on the board, like I do group challenges and like I do when I post on community boards like this to keep up my motivation. I get that it may sound silly or immature to some, but it was some of what was pushing me this month.
I'm back on track today with eating, I plan on going to the gym and discussing rationally how it affected me and I am going to keep on going for myself.
Stacey, this is a good attitude to have. You go girl!0 -
let me translate this - you ate crap and slobbed out for a couple of days - you feel guilty so you are blaming someone who was looking to keep herself busy at a quiet time in work by getting a jump on something
You over ate - you didn't work out - your actions - your consequences - take responsibility
You have 2 choices - get back on track with you eating and go back to gym - or give up - again - your actions - your consequences - take responsibility0 -
I thought the same thing as a PP...what if they redid the board right after close tonight and you found out tomorrow you weren't Queen of the board?
So what if the employee was bored? She should have changed the board when they were really busy? Come on, think about it....shes redecorating and putting things on a bulletin board.
This type of thing is why we have to give every child in sport participation trophies because there is always one child who thinks they deserve a medal all the time...0 -
I would go in today, being the actual end of the month and ask to be weighed and measured. And then casually ask if they are going to update the board again.
There is a difference between motivation and recognition. While I wholeheartedly agree motivation comes from within sometimes we all need a little recognition to increase our motivation. In the meantime support yourself with friends and family who will give those 'atta girls' that you need to push you to keep going rather than a board in the gym.
Nice response.0 -
While I understand that this was something giving you motivation, it should be left at that. Take the fact that it motivated you to work towards your goal. If your name had ended up on the board, you would have been happy temporarily, but in the long run, your name on a board means diddly squat. You should not do any of the things you suggested, as it's overreacting.Just focus on the progress you made, that's something to celebrate!0
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I get it. I'd be upset too if I worked hard for something and then the rules changed at the last second.
But, it seems like a pretty innocent mistake. You could just talk to them briefly and say that you thought your name would be on the board. You don't even have to mention that they adjusted it prematurely, just say you worked out a bunch that month and thought it would be there.
Or, if you don't feel like doing that then just make sure you get it next month.0 -
Who are you losing weight for? To impress some strangers? Or for yourself?
Do this for you, and you alone
You alone are worth it. 0 -
Just to put it out there again, (not making excuses) but I overheard the Gym Employee saying she was bored that was why she was doing the board early...
Sooooo....an employee is bored with her day and decides to get a head start on something she has control over?
We are doing a whole misunderstood thread because a worker got bored? Is that right?0 -
You show up to workout.. You are a winner every single day you choose to do that!
I would be upset too, the lard has been motivating you.. You gotta find motivation where you can.
Keep going and be your personal best.
It will pay off in a confidence and pride that no board can bestow on you
LOL lard?0 -
We can't control other people, only how we react to them. You need to find a better motivation. The board is a cool idea but you've allowed yourself to be derailed by a totally outside influence. Ask yourself if you are really doing this for yourself. When you hit that point nothing will stop you. I do encourage you to keep doing/going/trying whatever you choose. Remember everytime you workout you are already lapping everyone on the couch.0
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sigh...We call this PRs (personal records) in CrossFit, but you can do something similar.
Cross Fit does not own PR's.
Anyone who lifts- or runs- or competes at anything or against themselves can set PR's.
Grumble.0 -
Also I refuse to be a princess at the gym. I am an animal!
^^^ this
if they're giving out cavewoman of the month (or year or whatever)... then I'm in... lol :drinker:
btw OP I sympathise in that they changed the rules at the last minute... but whatever fat you burned this month, you still burned, you came closer to a goal that's so much more important than some name on some board. Your body's real. That board is just some thing someone made up. Focus on what you achieved for your body and keep on going.0 -
I agree. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and move on and think of your journey ahead! You can do this.0
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