WHAT THE ACTUAL FREAK
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So in..0
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I seriously cant go to a doctor right now.
People clearly dont read. I'm uninsured, I'm unemployed. I don't pay for the plan b, he does.
He's not my boyfriend so regular birth control is not his responsibility.
His only concern is keeping himself from having a fourth kid.
He cant keep it up with condoms, We tried.
Since you guys seem so much more focused on what im doing in my bedroom which was not the question i asked.
IS WEIGHT GAIN A POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECT FROM THAT MANY HORMONES?!
Or is it the training?
Thats all i asked, that's all you ****ers need to be focusing on.
LOL
You hear that people?!? FOCUS!
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Like isn't this what she should tell her man when he goes limp from a condom?
Seriously, I would consider an excuse like this to be a form of insult!
He can't help it. It's an "allergic" reaction.
Funny, my husband has a similar allergic response, he calls it dumb female-itis.0 -
responsible or irresponsible sex is not the question at hand.I seriously cant go to a doctor right now.
People clearly dont read. I'm uninsured, I'm unemployed. I don't pay for the plan b, he does.
He's not my boyfriend so regular birth control is not his responsibility.
His only concern is keeping himself from having a fourth kid.
He cant keep it up with condoms, We tried.
Since you guys seem so much more focused on what im doing in my bedroom which was not the question i asked.
IS WEIGHT GAIN A POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECT FROM THAT MANY HORMONES?!
Or is it the training?
Thats all i asked, that's all you ****ers need to be focusing on.
responsible sex takes a level of maturity that i think you have yet to reach.
lol @ name calling. well done.
hence why im pissed.
if I had made a "how likely am I to get pregnant" or a "what kind of birth control should i use" thread, these responses would have been valid. however this thread was created for the only reason of addressing why im gaining weight instead of losing when ive practically doubled my routine.
FOCUS or GTFO
But, it is the question at hand.
1) Get a job.
2) It is our business, because we, the taxpayers, will be paying for your kid when you're on Welfare.
3) You can get an IUD without having had kids. I have one.
4) If you can't afford to go to the doctor, how does your doctor keep telling you you can't have BC?
5) There are many different types of pills out there. Find one that works.
6) According to your ticker, you are no where near being so overweight that a doctor wouldn't give you BC due to *possible* weight gain.
7) Find a different doctor.
8) Stop having unprotected sex. He's not your boyfriend, therefore you're not in a committed relationship. One of these days, you're going to catch something you can't wash off.
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From OP's profile:
"M boyfriend is a great support in my life and he's helping me learn o balance my nutrition and eat better. I'm a southern caucasian woman and he's a california-raised korean. His mind-set is a lot healthier than mine. I think he brings amazing balance to my life."
Okay - here's my thought/question..........if this mystery-man the OP is currently having un-protected sex with - is NOT her boyfriend - how supportive/understanding will her actual boyfriend be about this situation when the *kitten* hits the fan...................?!0 -
If he's having sex with you it doesn't matter if he's your husband, boyfriend, friend with benefits, random person that you had a one night stand with just because, birth control is 50% his responsibility. If he's telling you that it's not, then that's a red flag. If these 3 other kids he's got were from unplanned pregnancies then that's another red flag. And him paying for you to have tons of hormones pumped through your system on a regular basis when you're sensitive to hormones and have been advised by doctors not to use hormonal birth control, that's another red flag.
Seriously, responsible men who care about the women they have sex with don't do these things. Even if it's a random hook up or friends with benefits kind of relationship, he should still care enough about your welfare to use a form of birth control that's not going to harm you or leave you at risk of unwanted pregnancy.
I agree with everything except the bolded comment above. It's 100% her responsibility...
...and 100% his responsibility.
Yeah, the math nerd in me twitches a little from typing this, but I still believe it to be absolutely true. Each person has a responsibility to ensure all necessary precautions are taken.
I get you. And you're right.0 -
smgdh. what about plan a. ugh.0
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OP's attitude reminds me of why we tried to raise our kids right. When my daughters were getting sexually active, they went to Planned Parenthood (my insurance covered Viagra but not birth control -- go figure) and got tested for STDs and shared results with their bfs. BFs were required to do the same (I knew their ex-girlfriends and had actually helped one get Plan B a few times when she had some 'oopsy' moments because HER parents weren't supportive of her).
Girls got on the pill. Condoms are in the drawer. They're encouraged to use the pill for BC and the condoms for STD protection and extra backup bc.
End result - girls who stick up for themselves now and insist on condom usage, know that it's a good thing to be open and honest about previous partners, and know that a guy who tries to make them feel guilty about being this up front about it is automatically a guy they won't want in their beds.
For my sons -- they got the same requirements and talks. I just didn't drag them into the PP to get on the pill, lol.
All my kids carry condoms in their wallets at all times, because everyone is responsible for birth control. Period. And 'heat of the moment' times can happen, so being prepared is good. Accidental pregnancies or lifelong STDs are not.
The bfs that my daughters have brought home are wigged out at first because they aren't used to open and honest and frank sexual talk. They quickly learn to love it. My sons haven't had the long-term relationship success yet, which is totally fine because they're all young anyway! I'm hoping, however, that we have instilled 'no glove no love' in their heads enough that they will make smart choices. They've watched a stepbrother on another side of the family go through a teen pregnancy with an ex-gf and they've had to watch the issues with their own biological father...I think all of them are really aware of the ramifications of having a kid with someone and how they are LIFELONG.
So, OP....start thinking like this and take responsibility....respect yourself and your body.
just a BTW - putting condoms in your wallet is dumb..it causes them to break down thereby breaking...not smart...
That used to be the case, but now you can buy some in slim hard plastic packaging so no damage! Technology is cool~!0 -
Why isn't birth control free in the US, that always surprises me.
It IS available for free, she is refusing it for her various excuses. :huh:0 -
I vote you try it in the pooper instead. Or is that what everyone meant by plan A?
Glad you said when a lot were thinking it....:laugh:0 -
He can't help it. It's an "allergic" reaction.
a) He's lying to you. Latex allergies don't cause limpness; they cause severe skin irritation.
b) Non-latex, hypoallergenic condoms are available pretty much everywhere.
c) Pulling out has worked just fine for me for 30 years, so that's a possibility as well.0 -
responsible or irresponsible sex is not the question at hand.I seriously cant go to a doctor right now.
People clearly dont read. I'm uninsured, I'm unemployed. I don't pay for the plan b, he does.
He's not my boyfriend so regular birth control is not his responsibility.
His only concern is keeping himself from having a fourth kid.
He cant keep it up with condoms, We tried.
Since you guys seem so much more focused on what im doing in my bedroom which was not the question i asked.
IS WEIGHT GAIN A POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECT FROM THAT MANY HORMONES?!
Or is it the training?
Thats all i asked, that's all you ****ers need to be focusing on.
responsible sex takes a level of maturity that i think you have yet to reach.
lol @ name calling. well done.
hence why im pissed.
if I had made a "how likely am I to get pregnant" or a "what kind of birth control should i use" thread, these responses would have been valid. however this thread was created for the only reason of addressing why im gaining weight instead of losing when ive practically doubled my routine.
FOCUS or GTFO
But, it is the question at hand.
1) Get a job.
2) It is our business, because we, the taxpayers, will be paying for your kid when you're on Welfare.
3) You can get an IUD without having had kids. I have one.
4) If you can't afford to go to the doctor, how does your doctor keep telling you you can't have BC?
5) There are many different types of pills out there. Find one that works.
6) According to your ticker, you are no where near being so overweight that a doctor wouldn't give you BC due to *possible* weight gain.
7) Find a different doctor.
8) Stop having unprotected sex. He's not your boyfriend, therefore you're not in a committed relationship. One of these days, you're going to catch something you can't wash off.
Preach it!
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From OP's profile:
"M boyfriend is a great support in my life and he's helping me learn o balance my nutrition and eat better. I'm a southern caucasian woman and he's a california-raised korean. His mind-set is a lot healthier than mine. I think he brings amazing balance to my life."
Okay - here's my thought/question..........if this mystery-man the OP is currently having un-protected sex with - is NOT her boyfriend - how supportive/understanding will her actual boyfriend be about this situation when the *kitten* hits the fan...................?!
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Also, remember that muscle weighs more than fat does!
Thank you for this most useless of comments.
Ok LOL'ing in the office. Epic thread!0 -
Regardless of what he's telling you, he's not going to leave his wife for you.
BOOM! Thank you! I have been reading this just WAITING for someone else to figure out that part of the equation! So very obvious.0 -
Well, I think this was pointed out earlier but it's possible that the weight gain is a side(?) effect of being pregnant. One of the main reasons that the morning after pill should not be used as regular birth control is because it's not all that effective. At best it's only 89% effective at preventing pregnancy, and that goes down the longer you wait to take it. If you used the pill correctly and as soon as possible, there's only a 70% chance that it would prevent three pregnancies in a row. And from the sounds of it, you've done this more than 3 times.
Pregnant women, especially those who are overweight, only gain a few pounds in the first trimester. I don't mean to alarm you (too much), but it's certainly possible that you're pregnant and you don't know it. I would suggest buying a pregnancy test asap. I would also suggest using a better form of regular birth control. If male condoms aren't an option, there are many other types of birth control you can use:
-Female condoms
-Sponge / Spermicide
-Fertility avoidance (knowing when you ovulate and planning accordingly)
-Sterilization (hey, he said he doesn't want any more kids right?)
-Abstinence (lol, right?)
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Most likely water retention (in your muscles, or caused by hormones) or you are eating more than you think.
Please do something to address why you have taken Plan B so much recently. I am actually surprised you were able to get it that often from a doctor. It wreaks havoc on your body doing that, and there are much better, safer, more reliable forms of birth control.
A world's worth of THIS.
Plan B is for the occasional slip up- NOT a contingency plan.
If you don't want to go on birth control (which I get- I don't take it because I've had some pretty adverse side effects), use a condom (they make both male and female varieties). Or check with your doctor about an IUD- they have programs that will subsidize the cost for certain individuals.
Be safe. Have fun, but be safe.
I WANT the IUD so bad!! but my doctor REFUSES to give me one because I havent had kids yet and it can rupture the uterus and render me infertile.
It's like either way I go I cant win.
He cant use condoms, we tried. He literally cant keep it up. He cant feel anything through them and I even made sure they were the "barely there" thin condoms.
I cant do birth control because of hormones
and I cant get the IUD because I dont have kids.
im being screwed over everywhere and cant really get my body to ever do what I want.
Wait, your doctor won't give you birth control because you have not yet had kids? Is he fcking retarded?? You def need a new doctor who does not want to see an unplanned pregnancy... unless you're one of those females secretly hoping to get pregnant in order to "ensure" your current relationship (that never ever works btw). I agree with not using an IUD, but there is this thing called a diaphragm. As far as him not wanting to wear condoms because he loses his erection... bullsht. My bf said the same thing when we first started dating so I told him that was fine we just won't have sex then. Ever. He got use to those condoms pretty damn quick.
It's just my opinion, but I have heard all the anti-BC excuses you've given from females just dying to get pregnant.
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I WANT the IUD so bad!! but my doctor REFUSES to give me one because I havent had kids yet and it can rupture the uterus and render me infertile.
It's like either way I go I cant win.
He cant use condoms, we tried. He literally cant keep it up. He cant feel anything through them and I even made sure they were the "barely there" thin condoms.
I cant do birth control because of hormones
and I cant get the IUD because I dont have kids.
im being screwed over everywhere and cant really get my body to ever do what I want.
Your Dr is an idiot. I know people who have an IUD and do not have any kids. The ruptured uterus can happen even if you have had childern. If your willing to run that risk then get a new dr. Also look into a diaphrame for you.
I'm not really willing to risk becoming infertile.
I want kids, a lot of them.
She knows this and that's why she won't.
Most doctors i know of wont give them if you havent had a kid anyway because the cervix hasnt been stretched enough to reduce possible complications during insertion.
You need to remember (or realize), I live in the south. I live in the heart of the bible belt where family planning is still EXTREMELY controversial. There's only 1 planned parenthood clinic within a 100 mile radius of me.
ROFL. He already has 3 kids and won't use a condom and you want a boatload of kids with no job, no money and no insurance. And people somehow wonder why our country is several trillion dollars in debt. Wow. This is absolutely pathetic and sad.0 -
Why isn't birth control free in the US, that always surprises me.
It IS available for free, she is refusing it for her various excuses. :huh:
^^ This
I've never paid for birth control in my life.0 -
WTF... I don't think I would have shared all that, but kudos to you for really putting it all out there for what is turning into an epic thread.
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HAHAHAHA!!!!0
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Okay - here's my thought/question..........if this mystery-man the OP is currently having un-protected sex with - is NOT her boyfriend - how supportive/understanding will her actual boyfriend be about this situation when the *kitten* hits the fan...................?!
She will likely just lie and say that the baby is his.
Let's just hope that the ****-buddy is Korean....0 -
Also, remember that muscle weighs more than fat does!
Thank you for this most useless of comments.
Ok LOL'ing in the office. Epic thread!
(ick @ the typo, but w/e, Spongebob has it right)0 -
Bump to read later - Plan B reference on first page? In like Flynn, yo.0
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[strike]Here's a thought: CLOSE YOUR LEGS! I can't tell if you are really this stupid, or if you are just trolling? Of course Plan B is going to make your hormones go crazy. Are you taking it every time you have sex?
Next question, do you have a cell phone? Ditch it. You'll have plenty of money left over to pay for birth control. [/strike]
If you are too stupid to figure out the use of a condom or regular birth control... [/strike] PLEASE DO NOT REPRODUCE! We already have enough idiots having children in this world. We don't need another.
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Wow, just wow.
I feel really sorry for you. I do.
You have many problems, gaining weight from (or not) lifting weights is the least of your problems.
Please don't reproduce.0 -
If he's having sex with you it doesn't matter if he's your husband, boyfriend, friend with benefits, random person that you had a one night stand with just because, birth control is 50% his responsibility. If he's telling you that it's not, then that's a red flag. If these 3 other kids he's got were from unplanned pregnancies then that's another red flag. And him paying for you to have tons of hormones pumped through your system on a regular basis when you're sensitive to hormones and have been advised by doctors not to use hormonal birth control, that's another red flag.
Seriously, responsible men who care about the women they have sex with don't do these things. Even if it's a random hook up or friends with benefits kind of relationship, he should still care enough about your welfare to use a form of birth control that's not going to harm you or leave you at risk of unwanted pregnancy.
I agree with everything except the bolded comment above. It's 100% her responsibility...
...and 100% his responsibility.
Yeah, the math nerd in me twitches a little from typing this, but I still believe it to be absolutely true. Each person has a responsibility to ensure all necessary precautions are taken.
I get you. And you're right.
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I took the liberty of finding a Planned Parenthood that is 42 miles from your city. I hope they can help you find an alternative method, and maybe they even provide free birth control pills, I don't know. It's worth checking out.
Nashville Health Center
412 Dr. D.B. Todd, Jr. Blvd.
Nashville, TN 37203
Phone: 615.321.72160 -
OP's attitude reminds me of why we tried to raise our kids right. When my daughters were getting sexually active, they went to Planned Parenthood (my insurance covered Viagra but not birth control -- go figure) and got tested for STDs and shared results with their bfs. BFs were required to do the same (I knew their ex-girlfriends and had actually helped one get Plan B a few times when she had some 'oopsy' moments because HER parents weren't supportive of her).
Girls got on the pill. Condoms are in the drawer. They're encouraged to use the pill for BC and the condoms for STD protection and extra backup bc.
End result - girls who stick up for themselves now and insist on condom usage, know that it's a good thing to be open and honest about previous partners, and know that a guy who tries to make them feel guilty about being this up front about it is automatically a guy they won't want in their beds.
For my sons -- they got the same requirements and talks. I just didn't drag them into the PP to get on the pill, lol.
All my kids carry condoms in their wallets at all times, because everyone is responsible for birth control. Period. And 'heat of the moment' times can happen, so being prepared is good. Accidental pregnancies or lifelong STDs are not.
The bfs that my daughters have brought home are wigged out at first because they aren't used to open and honest and frank sexual talk. They quickly learn to love it. My sons haven't had the long-term relationship success yet, which is totally fine because they're all young anyway! I'm hoping, however, that we have instilled 'no glove no love' in their heads enough that they will make smart choices. They've watched a stepbrother on another side of the family go through a teen pregnancy with an ex-gf and they've had to watch the issues with their own biological father...I think all of them are really aware of the ramifications of having a kid with someone and how they are LIFELONG.
So, OP....start thinking like this and take responsibility....respect yourself and your body.
just a BTW - putting condoms in your wallet is dumb..it causes them to break down thereby breaking...not smart...
That used to be the case, but now you can buy some in slim hard plastic packaging so no damage! Technology is cool~!
Nice I am so telling my man child about that then...
And for those with kids...let me throw this out there for you...daughters can get pregnant/have a baby 1 every 9 months...the boys can do it every day.........:sad: :noway: :bigsmile:
Hence that same chat with my son...no way no how...god I hope he doesn't meet the OP...
*runs out to buy condoms for the man child just in case*0 -
11 pages of pure awesomeness! thanks OP :drinker:0
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