rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

I was at work a few years back and we had an electrician on site doing some work. He came over to my teams area and in front of my entire team and the next team along said 'are you having a baby?' I had never met this man before so firstly how weird to just interact with a complete stranger who you haven't even been introduced to and secondly I wasn't pregnant, I'm fact I was smaller than I am now maybe a UK size 12, and to say it so loudly in an office in front of all my colleagues. It was horrible. The silence that descended over the office still haunts me.

I've also had a guy tell me when I was about 18 that, and I quote, 'you'd be really good looking if you weren't so fat'

Gah!!!

so i think in the OP's case, a child of 5 is heavily influenced by parents and they were not Canadians, they were Romanians.
I also think in many instances you can not know things like origin about people and you have to work with what they say. i think being honestly angry is acceptable if someone is saying something rude, whether it is your weight or something else you just tell them what you think. it is a 'western thing' you hide your feelings when you are hurt. there is no need to be so nice.
sorry about being off topic.

I'm not sure that her being Romanian had anything to do with this. I went to school with a Romanian girl and she was sweet as pie. I currently live in Europe, and my best friend is from Romania. She has never been critical of me ever. Also sweet as pie, And genuine. I think the girl OP is talking about is just a sour grape and not necessarily representative of her culture. I do agree with the westerners tending to react to such rudeness very delicately, but you are absolutely right! There is no need to be so nice in these cases!

I don't have very successful relationships with women as a general rule. Obviously I do have female friends, but I tend to get on a lot better with men. There is a certain percentage of women who are poisonous, life's just too short to waste time around such people.

I had one woman, a complete stranger at a party, express surprise that I was married because "real men don't like sticks, they like real women with curves". She couldn't seem to understand why I found that so funny, nor why my (very manly) husband found it so amusing either!

First of all, your weight is your business and noone elses!
Someone said to me after my recovery from anorexia (which lead to me being a little overweight), "Jheeze you looked better when you looked like death warmed up"!

'Well you know the next door neighbour, shes getting married, she used to be slim and shes trying to lose weight again for the wedding, shes huge now, she is even bigger than you'

The rudest thing someone said to me was in 6th grade, I was 11 and not even that overweight, just a little chubby and horribly unfit because I was that one kid that never liked exercising. I was the newbie in class and they gave me the nickname Clio. At first, I found it really nice, it sounded nice, so I asked a girl how they came up with it. She flat out said "We're calling you Clio because we're all sure that you weigh as much as a Renault Clio." and went away laughing. The thought of it still upsets me to this day because it marked the beginning of my eating disorder. Ever since, I would switch back between refusing to eat anything at all and binging on anything I could find.

Edit: thinking about that snide comment of my classmate actually reminded me of another thing. It wasn't exactly a comment, but something that would happen all the time in my teenage years. My grandmother and mother would argue about my weight and how the other one needs to give me less food. In my presence. Discussing my weight usually was one of their favourite activities. Yet they both were really big (my grandmother still is, my mother lost tons of weight because she started smoking like crazy when she broke up with my dad)

Reading some of this is heartbreaking. Sounds to me like this is not a cultural thing with your partners SiL - it's a mean, nasty, jealousy thing. I would take that with the teeniest pinch of salt it deserves.

I have been asked when the baby was due, although in all honesty the lady was as mortified as me when I said No.

My Mum can be annoying. I get a lot of 'But you're so small boned' 'You used to look like a ballerina' etc. That can wear thin after a while. Considering I was under 100lbs at the time she's referring to I actually have no mega desire to get back there.

My sister made me a card for my 6th birthday saying Happy Birthday Meatball on it - with a lovely picture of a meatball on it. Considering she's 7 years older than me I think there was a little bit of 'intention' there.

'You look like a man' has also been leveled at me by my sister. That was nice.

Going back to your original post...I am married to a Malaysian, I have three very close friends, one is Czech, one is Portuguese and one is Serbian (I don't know how that happened) and they all know that calling someone fat would be an insult. They have been here ranging from 1 - 3 decades and they all know that it's a sensitive subject.

Going to see husbands family a few years ago the older relatives all kept saying he looked 'prosperous'. In the end I had to ask him what they meant by it as we certainly weren't feeling prosperous after paying for the flights and he said 'They're saying I'm fat'. :laugh: Apparently it's about having enough money to get fat in the first place.

Similarly my Mum kept mentioning his 'corporation'. I had to look it up and she was referring to his belly!

Now you've got me thinking - those that have mentioned my weight and/or looks most are actually those that are most preoccupied and dissatisfied with themselves. Isn't projection and transference great!

My doctor said my weight was fine, then he added "Your height is the problem you are about 5 feet to short!"

Have only had a couple (they still stick though!):
"You're our little fat friend"
"Come with me, you make me look good"