Am I the only one who does this?
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Why do you assume the girls are glaring at you because you are not dressed up the way they are? Maybe they're bored and looking at you because you happen to be a moving object. Maybe it's something else. Maybe it's not you at all, but just your imagination.
Anyway I wouldn't worry about them. You're there to get stuff done, so get it done. I get it, you feel like they're singling you out and you feel self-conscious, but they probably aren't thinking about you any other time of the day (or at all) so you shouldn't do the same.
Me, I work out in stuff I bought on sale from Target or Old Navy. There's makeup on my face if I go after work. I don't go out of my way to look cute. I also don't pay any mind to what anyone else looks like or is doing (except the dude who yells at the top of his lungs every time he pulls a deadlift with a rounded back, because wow). If you want to glam it up and do your squats wearing pearls, then go on with your bad self.0 -
They're not staring at you because you're in baggy clothes with your hair up and no makeup.
They're staring at you because even in baggy clothes, hair up, and no makeup you're still cuter than they are when they're trying their hardest to be cute.
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I wear whatever is clean.
I have matchy stuff, comfy stuff, frumpy stuff. I don't normally wear loads of makeup so not worried about that and my hair, meh, whatever, it goes up.
When I was younger and less confident in mysefl I would have these worries but now a days I go to do what I need to do and go home. I would say don't worry about what anyone else is doing. It shouldn't even matter.
If someone does glare at me (for whatever reason) I would never notice. Maybe they think I am rude for not smiling, smirking, waving or whatever but the thing is, I didn't join my gym to make friends (or enemies). I joined to workout and focus on me, so that is what I try to do.
Just be comfortable with you.
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Don't you dare dress up to work out!!! Wear what you want to sweat in, doesn't matter that they feel a good hook up is at the gym. Really! I go to get sweaty and fit. I wear clothes that are comfortable in and my hair is the just got out of bed and thrown in a pony.
I say- You go girl!! (me too!!)0 -
I dress cute. I wear makeup. (I do not, however, wear heels.) I try to look my best all the time. So yeah, you'll see me lifting weights with a french manicure, or dripping sweat on my color-coordinated top and leggings. But I'm also there, 6 days a week. I work my *kitten* off, lifting heavy, HIIT training, for at least 90 minutes a day.
But as far as girls glaring at you for wearing baggy clothes, aren't you doing the same? Judging them for what they wear to the gym?
I can only suggest that you worry about the one person who counts when you're working out. And that's yourself. Don't worry about anyone else at the gym. They don't care, and neither should you.
I dont glare back. I just look away and go on with my day. So i dont see how im judging them.
I had a best friend/ gym buddy who came with me and she always matched but she was clearly there to work. Those people dont bug me. Its the girl walking almost at a stand still that shoot me dirty looks while i run around the track (the track circles the whole gym).
Next time smile and say "hi".
Same can be said for them?
Yes. When they make a stupid thread about stupid nonsense then they should get the same advice.0 -
I dress cute. I wear makeup. (I do not, however, wear heels.) I try to look my best all the time. So yeah, you'll see me lifting weights with a french manicure, or dripping sweat on my color-coordinated top and leggings. But I'm also there, 6 days a week. I work my *kitten* off, lifting heavy, HIIT training, for at least 90 minutes a day.
But as far as girls glaring at you for wearing baggy clothes, aren't you doing the same? Judging them for what they wear to the gym?
I can only suggest that you worry about the one person who counts when you're working out. And that's yourself. Don't worry about anyone else at the gym. They don't care, and neither should you.
I dont glare back. I just look away and go on with my day. So i dont see how im judging them.
I had a best friend/ gym buddy who came with me and she always matched but she was clearly there to work. Those people dont bug me. Its the girl walking almost at a stand still that shoot me dirty looks while i run around the track (the track circles the whole gym).
Next time smile and say "hi".
Same can be said for them?
But you aren't them. You control your actions not theirs. This girl vs. girl "thing" in society needs to stop. We aren't competition. We should be helping each other, being friends with each other. Sometimes a small simple gesture like a smile can make a big difference to another woman (or person in general). Maybe she's thinking you are judging her for not running. Take the first step, be the better person and all that stuff.
Okay, this might work for a certain type of girl, but some love that competition. I dont care so I walk away, but i know from experience that they will sometimes just be as rude if you try to talk to them. Why? Because it probably makes them feel better about themselves or maybe they are just having a bad day. Not all girls are like this, but Ive met my fair share. So unless I have to interact with a girl that give me dirty looks, then yeah, Ill go up and try and talk. If for nothing else, then for a peacful enviroment. But if I can avoid unneeded confrintation, then I will. But im not going to take time to try and befriend someone who has made signals she doesnt want to be. But some girls are just mean, and I hope you think this over before generilizing everyone. Im not trying too. I know some girls might not mean it so i dont bother. But if you take the time to wait to see if im making eye contact with me because i wasnt looking and just felt like i was being watched (i dont know if you know what i mean. Not the selfconsious "someone might be watching" just the "why do i feel like im being stared at) and she waits to see when inlook over to look me up and down oe snear, you really truely believe this type pf girl wants to be friends?
I said "say 'hi' and smile, not make friends with". If you notice someone looking at you, you look back, make eye contact, smile and say "hi". If she's trying to be *****y you'll startle her. If she's just not really paying attention, or just observing maybe she'll say "hi" back.
The girls who are being catty or whatever are usually doing so out of a place of insecurity, If they really thought they were better than you they wouldn't pay attention to you. They are not looking at you because you have no make-up, they are looking at you because they notice you are in better shape than them so they want to take the fact that you have no make-up as a reason to feel better about themselves. And maybe, maybe some are just *****y but eh, I'd still say "hi" to them to.
And notice I said girls, I think this is less and less common as we grow older. We tend to realize that people are just people. There are real-life fitness models that workout at my gym. Some do wear make-up, cute matching outfits, have fake boobs, and their hair is down and pretty. But when I make eye contact and smile, they smile back even if I am grabbing heavier dumbbells and my panty line is showing.0 -
Hey everyone! Hope your day is going well!
So here is my thing,I do a lot of home work outs, so when I actually go to the gym, I go there to Get.Stuff. Done. I don't go there to flirt or hang out, I go there to sweat. And a lot. The thing is, I go to the gym at my university and it's filled with girls with their hair done all nice and cute, make up on, and some cute matching outfit (Once I saw a girl on the bike in heels. No lie) and they glare at me for having the audacity to show up in a baggy shirt and shorts with my hair pulled back out of my way and either in a messy ponytail or braid.
So my question is, am I the only one who does this? Should I start dressing up? Are the days of showing up at the gym to work out over? I could really use some feedback that Im not alone in this lol Do you guys get this too?
Thanks!!
-Rachael
my hair is done
my make up is on
and I'm always in a cute matching out fit
I can dead lift almost 300 lbs.
guess I don't work out?
show up how you want- and do what you want- who cares why they are there as long as they aren't in your way talking while you want to use equipment.
stop snarking on chicks who don't want to do what you want to do. I work REALLY effing hard. I also NEVER step out of my house looking like rubbish. I also hate baggy clothes- I also have short hair- which means it must be done- or I like like a 6 year old little boy.
I also work in close proximity to my job- which means I run into people at work.
You focus on YOU. If you like your baggy clothes- then wear them. I hate them- don't own them. won't work out in them. That's fine. My clothing choices- have absolutely ZERO impact on you.
Hard work has nothing to do with your appearance.
So again- focus on you and unless yappy cell phone girls are in your way- just forget about it and realize you have a bad *kitten* bod you earned and are proud of in the summer time.
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Nope, I workout in bagging clothes bc I am not there to look cute. I am there to do work! I look grossly sweaty when I leave. Your not the only one there to do work. I do see those type of girl too. I just smh0
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How do you know they are judging you on your clothes? Maybe they are just mad cause you are destroying them at the gym.0
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Or maybe they have resting bee-och face lol0
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heels would not be allowed at my gym...they have a dress code. as far as girls being all cute and matching, etc...my wife usually goes to the gym right after work so she has her makeup on and hair done and what not...she also likes to coordinate and look cute and has cute little workout clothes but is still quite capable of a quality clean and jerk and has a pretty nice snatch as well...
i see what you did there0 -
You're making a lot of assumptions about the motivations and thought processes of other people.0
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Maybe everyone should just go to the gym right now. Dag.
I wear my face to the gym. Blast metal. Repeat. Respect to anyone who goes, at least they're trying. I don't care what people are wearing, I'm there to work on me.
We should be supporting each other people!0 -
I know exactly what you mean.
Usually three types of people I see at the gym.
1. Those who come dressed up, most likely wanting attention.
2. Those who go to the gym just to say they went. Can usually point them out by how long it takes them to actually do anything, they also love sitting on the *#&%(&*@#%!!!!! benches/machines or whatever playing a damn game on their phone.
3. People who are actually there to actually bust their butt and work out.
I hate the #2 group with an absolute passion. At least group #1 brings in some good eye candy/motivation (call me shallow but it's the truth) and they keep away from anything that may mess up their look or get in the way of people who actually try to work.
WHY OH WHY...can't we get a LIKE button here on MFP. I agree with this entire post wholeheartedly. I work at our college so yes I do spend time in the weight room. Why shouldn't I, it's a free perk of being an employee. I see this here all the time and I too hate group #2. I have an office job and I'm required to dress up in office attire but I bring my workout clothes, baggy shirt included and tennis shoes and I'm sweating up a storm even 15-20 minutes after I leave....that being said you keep on going to the gym FOR YOU...ignore the shallow ones who take up space there because in the end you will look and feel much better than they ever will. :bigsmile:
WHY OH WHY do you care what other people do at the gym?0 -
Or maybe they have resting bee-och face lol
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How do you know they are judging you on your clothes? Maybe they are just mad cause you are destroying them at the gym.
Lol hadnt thought of that one 0 -
i totally admit to laughing in my head when i see guys who color coordinate their shoes, their shorts/sweat pants, shirts and bandannas0
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Some of my workout clothes have been torn by my workout buddy.
My cat is very judgmental about what I wear.
What a diva!0 -
Or maybe they have resting bee-och face lol
Lol!!! This is the best thing Ive seen today! Saving this0 -
And what is up with all of you that go out of your way to mention that your ponytail is messy? Are you purposely making your ponytail messy? Because I happen to know that it doesn't take significantly more time to make your ponytail un-messy.
But I guess non-effed-up hair make your workout less effective.0 -
Again , i havent judged anyone. I just find it hard to believe you are really getting you sweat on with a ton of mascara. Again, i dont know how to make it any more clear. Im not talking about girls who have a little make up, i mean the girls who layered their eyes with everything in their make up drawer. How is that judging? I dont think ive said anything judging.
I think she might have snuck the heels in. The school is very lax and the people in charge only stay downstairs but all he equipment is upstairs so its pretty easy to get away with stuff. Its what happens at some places run by students who clearly dont want to be there.
And as for how i can tell they are glaring, most girls dont hide it. They will look me up and down and snicker or make a dirty face. I dont sweat a ton, not enough for it to fly. I dont breath heavy because i keep my volume down and when i start, i take a pause because i have asthma.
I wear full make-up, because I can!!
I must be doing something at the gym, see ticker below. :bigsmile:0 -
Or maybe they have resting bee-och face lol
Everyone turn off your computers, the internet has been won for today!0 -
Or maybe they have resting bee-och face lol
Ah see I almost linked this and then I did not... and now I am sad someone was funnier than I.0 -
How do you know they are judging you on your clothes? Maybe they are just mad cause you are destroying them at the gym.
Lol hadnt thought of that one
See!0 -
Most days, I take my make OFF before working out. I sweat and it runs anyway. No makeup is much better than having makeup run all over the place. I wear nice/matching workout clothes but I don't "primp" before or during a workout.0
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Again , i havent judged anyone. I just find it hard to believe you are really getting you sweat on with a ton of mascara. Again, i dont know how to make it any more clear. Im not talking about girls who have a little make up, i mean the girls who layered their eyes with everything in their make up drawer. How is that judging? I dont think ive said anything judging.
I think she might have snuck the heels in. The school is very lax and the people in charge only stay downstairs but all he equipment is upstairs so its pretty easy to get away with stuff. Its what happens at some places run by students who clearly dont want to be there.
And as for how i can tell they are glaring, most girls dont hide it. They will look me up and down and snicker or make a dirty face. I dont sweat a ton, not enough for it to fly. I dont breath heavy because i keep my volume down and when i start, i take a pause because i have asthma.
I wear full make-up, because I can!!
I must be doing something at the gym, see ticker below. :bigsmile:
Never once said you didnt congrats! 0 -
I workout at home and I must do it while looking good even if I'm home alone. If DH is around, you bet I gotta look good. I might even freshen up my lipstick first.
For some of us, when we look good, we're more inspired. I feel much more motivated to workout when I'm wearing tight clothes that show off my muscles.
I get the best workouts when I stand in front the mirror. "Looking hot! Great form! You got it!" I tell myself. LOL0 -
OP: You have to understand that people are getting on you over the fact that you're complaining about being judged while doing plenty of judging yourself. For example:
"Its about the girls that spend the whole time with full on make up and hair done and are clearly not trying to break a sweat so they don't mess it up. Who pose on the machines.
I would appreciate it that if you have any nasty, snarky or snide comments about me or anyone else that you keep them to yourself. This world is mean enough, we don't need people adding to it."
You make a bunch of snarky and snide comments and then tell people not to do that same. And then complain people are mean. Guess what? You're being mean.
For the record, sometimes I'm in makeup with my hair done because I am working out after work. Sometimes I really look awesome because I'm working out after dress rehearsals and I have leftover stage makeup and wig hair...super pretty. And I also suffer from resting beeotch face, so I'm sure a look a lot like Norma Desmond on those days.0 -
OP: You have to understand that people are getting on you over the fact that you're complaining about being judged while doing plenty of judging yourself. For example:
"Its about the girls that spend the whole time with full on make up and hair done and are clearly not trying to break a sweat so they don't mess it up. Who pose on the machines.
I would appreciate it that if you have any nasty, snarky or snide comments about me or anyone else that you keep them to yourself. This world is mean enough, we don't need people adding to it."
You make a bunch of snarky and snide comments and then tell people not to do that same. And then complain people are mean. Guess what? You're being mean.
For the record, sometimes I'm in makeup with my hair done because I am working out after work. Sometimes I really look awesome because I'm working out after dress rehearsals and I have leftover stage makeup and wig hair...super pretty. And I also suffer from resting beeotch face, so I'm sure a look a lot like Norma Desmond on those days.
I dont think Ive said a snarky thing but find the irony that ur whole post is mean.
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Every.single.person. who is on here telling OP not to judge is a hypocrite. Really? Never a single time in your life did you look at another person and make an assumption based purely on their looks? You deserve a special award if you can sit here to tell her "don't judge!" when I'm sure you do it every day and don't realize it. You may not be making a thread about it, but don't sit there and say "Don't judge, let's build each other up!"
That being said, I think OP knew the answer to this before even posting.0
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